Tag Archives: Relationships

COL654: LTAS: Awakening

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. For this episode, the cubs go way back and discuss their sexual awakenings. Whether it was their first time or their best time, the guys reminisce on that joyous time they discovered themselves as sexual beings. From the birds to the bees, listen in as they share their moments when they figured out what’s going on down there.

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Lets Talk About Sex: Awakening

The hosts discuss when they discovered personal sexual awakenings many years ago. 

Urban Dictionary lists Sexual Awakening as: The first time in a person’s life in which they experience a euphoric feeling and desire to be physically intimate with someone.

Sexual Awakening can be defined as when you finally become one with your original essence, your primal energy, and you know your sexual organs.

 

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COL635: LTAS: Sex Starvation

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. For this episode, the cubs talk about being hangry for handjobs, famished for facials and in anticipation of anal. As the pandemic heads into its 3rd year, the cubs discuss sexual starvation. As many gays & others are dealing with the lack of touch of another person, what can be done to get their freak on while still mitigating risk? From creating sex bubbles to taking matters into your own hands, listen as the guys find ways to satiate the sexually starved.

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Lets Talk About Sex: Sex Starvation

The cubs return to talk about sex, or the lack of it…for a long time. The pandemic isn’t ending soon so are the gays getting their freak on or holding back due to COVID?

 

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COL632: LoR: Goals & Accountability

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys come together in the new year to discuss goals and accountability. As many begin each year making new year’s resolutions that they often never keep,  listen in as Ed and the cubs break down the reasons why this may be a regular occurrence. From creating your goal roadmap to making yourself accountable for the roads you take, listen in as the guys give yet another perspective on the wandering journey of relationship building.

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Landscape of Relationships: Goals & Accountability

New Years resolutions

The Hobbit and LOTR “The Road Goes Ever On”

The Road goes ever on and on,

Down from the door where it began.

Now far ahead the Road has gone,

And I must follow, if I can,

Pursuing it with eager feet,

Until it joins some larger way

Where many paths and errands meet.

And whither then? I cannot say.

  • Gotta know what “The Road” or our values are.  

Values List 

Four Domains 

  • Work/Education 
  • Relationships
  • Leisure 
  • Personal Health and Wellness 

Translating Values into Goals – “Be a mapmaker”

  • Chose three guiding values 
  • SMART goals (Specific, Meaningful, Adaptive, Realistic, Timely)
  • Immediate (24 hours), Short Term, Medium-Term goals, Long-Term goals
  • Living Goals vs Dead Person Goals
  • Make sure you are heading in the right direction.  Ex. downhill skiing
  • Expected barriers 

Accountability 

  • We are ultimately responsible for our actions 
  • We get to be accountable to the goals we set for ourselves and the map that we make.
  • Feelings, situations, emotions, urges, memories are going to happen.  Make sure you have the needed resources.
  • Be mindful of avoidance and unhelpful sticky thought patterns
  • Be willing to address unhelpful patterns
  • Remember: you can always change your course, but at what and whose expense?  Honor your values and your commitments 
  • Let someone know your goals and work towards shared accountability.
  • Feeling guilty?  Good. You have values. 
  • Remember, not all those who wander are lost. Keep going.  
  • Progress is not always a straight line.  

 

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COL623: What’s Going On – October 2021

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of October. It’s the end of Halloween month and the cubs bring us up to date on their lives as harvest closes. From working times to vacation vibes, it’s been quite the busy month for the guys.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Nesting and Achievements
  • Damon: Enjoying the Swing and Time Off
  • Gary: Ramped Up and Getting Busier

Feedback 

Facebook Likes:

  • Andrew Edwards
  • Blu McDavid
  • Thomas McDonagh
  • Khan Khans

Facebook Comment/Post:

  • Edward AC re: COL621: LoR: Creating Your Party: – Here is the image we were discussing!

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Enrique Balzaretti

YouTube Comment:

  • Oan R. re: COL620: LTAF: It’s Autumn Time – Damon: – What do you prefer in your apple.  Me: I prefer Gary. He’s the apple of my eye. Also Gary should get some cranberries and pecans, a nice pie crust and some flour and cinnamon for topping. Maybe throw some crystallized ginger in there too.
  • dindin mooshi re: COL621: LoR: Creating Your Party – Good topic, interesting discussion, relationship dynamics and interactions of LGBTQIA ppl are so peculiar, we are so different compared to the heteros. PS: Thank you ED. 

Twitter Comment:

  • @Awq_Oan Oct 3: Thoughts on today’s episode of @cubsoutloud from the : Man, I must say, Gary was looking nice today. Also, they all had some interesting points about the things. Yes. Well done.
  • @Awq_Oan – Oct 15: Anybody remember when on @cubsoutloud Jeff started talking about apples and Damon was saying how much he hated applesauce and then Gary was talking about how he has to many apples and I was just thinking about rubbing against his beard? Good times.
  • @Awq_Oan – Oct 15: G A R L I C S A L T E D B O O T Y H O L E @cubsoutloud

Recent Shows

  • COL619: WGO: September 2021 
  • COL620: LTAF: It’s Autumn Time
  • COL621: Landscape of Relationships: Creating Your Party
  • COL622: LTAS: Horror Stories

Tweet Tweet:

https://twitter.com/SkyHighFlyGuyRI/status/1452405772298694658?s=20

https://twitter.com/FurDPup/status/1446464492418830338

https://twitter.com/Pup_Divione/status/1449242508500815875

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COL617: LoR: Struggle Bus

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the cubs take a ride on the struggle bus. Discussing conflict and conflict resolution, listen and learn along with the guys as they reveal the common pitfalls and potential solutions to this common problem.

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Landscape of Relationships: Struggle Bus

Four Horsemen 

  • Stonewalling
  • Criticism
  • Defensiveness
  • Contempt

Antidotes

  • Psychological Self-soothing [for Stonewalling]
  • Gentle Start Up [for Criticism]
  • Take Responsibility [for Defensiveness] – it’s okay to be wrong, make mistakes, own our limits, be vulnerable
  • Appreciation [for Contempt] – consider a ratio with 5 for 1 [5 appreciative thoughts for 1 contempt]

The Conflict BluePrint 

  • Current Conflicts
  • Attachment Injuries
  • Gridlock Issues 
    • Conflict is ongoing and recurring
    • 69% of conflicts are unsolvable
    • Utilize conversation/discussion to unearth the underlying source/cause

Resources:

The Marriage Minute – email newsletter signup site

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert – Amazon ordering info

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love – Amazon ordering info

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