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COL708: Jeff’s BDay Happy Hour: 7-11 Edition

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s Jeff’s Birthday (well it will be any day now). And there’s no better way to celebrate than by hanging out with our Entourage. With Cisco and Charles online (and some chatty bears in the comments), the guys correlate this 11th birthday show with a popular convenience store chain. And, for your convenience, one of bears’ favorite topics is discussed: FOOD!

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That’s right, it’s Jeff’s birthday and this year we’re taking a pit stop at the local convenience store for some snacks and drinks. But there might be some debates about the items we can enjoy. But first, let’s discuss a little history about the well known international business.

Currently headquartered in Irving, Texas – it’s owned by Japanese Seven & I Holdings through Seven-Eleven Japan Co., Ltd. Founded in 1927 as an ice house storefront in Dallas. These Texas roots run deep and their 100th anniversary isn’t far off. For nearly the first 20 years they were known as Tote’m Stores because customers ‘toted’ away their purchases. The ‘7toEleven’ name change in the 1940s was used to reflect their new extended hours of 7am to 11pm all week long. And the current logo version includes the change in 1968 to utilize a lowercase ‘n’ at the end of the word ELEVEn. 

7-Eleven operates, franchises, and licenses over 78K stores in 19 countries and territories as of Nov ‘21. Did you know they have multiple names? Nationally they operate as not only 7-Eleven but also Speedway mostly in the Midwest & East Coast, and as Stripes in the South Central US. – Wikipedia posting

With that said, let’s get into some questions to consider as part of Jeff’s birthday celebration. 

Or there’s the Glazed Cheesy BBQ Meatballs?

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COL586: What is. . . Authenticity?

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs present another chapter of our “What Is…” series. The guys are joined by COL Resident Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to unravel authenticity. As many folks had time on their hands in 2020 to be introspective, the idea of being authentic to themselves and what that means rang true. But, what does this mean and what steps can one take to find authenticity?

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Our ‘What is…’ series – focusing on Authenticity. We survived 2020 which tried us in so many ways. Some took the opportunity to look inward and reflect on self-improvement. 

Background – Jenna Marbles and the End of Authenticity 

  • Authenticity is a process, that involves progress and context
  • “The Good Place” – We can’t just forget our progress
  • Phones don’t allow us to do that….every video can be interpreted as a present moment in time
  • YouTube creators deleting content reduces authenticity similar to ripping up pages in a diary so you are only seeing “the good stuff”
  • Similar to “Burn” in Hamilton 

Brené Brown is a social worker and researcher with the University of Houston’s Graduate School of Social Work.  She has spent the past two decades studying courage, shame, empathy, and vulnerability.  

Basically, in order for us to practice authenticity, we need courage, compassion, and connection.

  • Fear keeps us distant from courage where vulnerability gets us closer 
  • Sympathy keeps us distant from compassion where empathy gets us closer 
  • Shame keeps us distant from connection where vulnerability, empathy, power, and freedom get us closer.

“The Compass” analogy 

  • Values = North, West, South, East
  • Action = Points on the map 

Ten Questions to explore authenticity 

  1. What is my greatest strength?  What is my greatest weakness?
  2. What is my proudest achievement? What is my biggest failure?
  3. What am I worried about? (Think about a room where all your worries live…what is in there?)
  4. What do I believe in? What are my values?
  5. What am I interested in that I haven’t tried?
  6. How are my relationships?
  7. What do I like and dislike about my job?
  8. What does my inner critic tell me?
  9. Is your inner monologue more critical than not?
  10. I know when I am stressed when I  ____.

Think of a recent experience with a partner, friend, family member, or co-worker where you wanted to be authentic but weren’t. Imagine pausing at the height of this interaction and asking yourself the following questions:

  1. What am I afraid would happen if I shared my experience right now with this person?
  2. How will I feel if I don’t share what I’m thinking and feeling?
  3. If I weren’t afraid, what would I most want to say to this person right now?
  4. How can I share this with even more vulnerability?

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COLDR: S12E013: Alone Together

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In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon reunite as the queens do the same. In this time of quarantine, the queens are #alonetogether, coming together for a fun slumber party to discuss their time on the show and after. As the 12 queens get their sleepwear on and get a little shady after being brought “together”, listen as the guys share their bedtime stories on this unique take of the show. We’re closing in on the finale, so it’s bound to be a bumpy ride.

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 12

  • 12 Seasons – 153 Queens

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

  • [Damon] – Fun & Quirky..A decent reunion
  • [Gary] – Dare I say… fun?

Stomp the Runway:

Reunited Theme – Slumber Party

  • [Damon] – Chains in bed?? Ummm….
  • [Gary] – Just give the damn crown to Jaida already!

Snaps & Eyerolls:

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Some of the Shade
  • [Gary] – Snaps for…Widow’s Rap
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… VANJIE Questions
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Produced Drama – meh
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COL Flashback COL215: Black Shirt Friday

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Damon is singing his heart out with pride while Gary takes a roadtrip with his Dad. And Jeff… kinda gets the week off. But COL Flashback is here. Let’s rewind the clock to Sunday June 7th, 2013 – six years ago when Gary, myself, and retired co-hosts Ben and Eric answered some items from The Book of Questions. Plus we go over other stuff in our lives and that infamous Watermelon YouTube video.

On this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys gather together in the off-hours to talk about their lives and what we will and won’t do with our responses to The Book of Questions. Oh yeah. By the way, Ben’s back.

What the F Did We Do This Week

This Week On Heat Sinks: The introduction of Heat Sinks: Arcade

Topic: Book of Questions: Lookout, ’cause we’re going to get serious….maybe

This week’s poll: What type of questions are off limits from your partner, boyfriend, husband, lover etc.?

  • Religious / Spiritual
  • Sexual (could be kink in nature)
  • Related to Bodily Functions
  • Money / Finances
  • Politics / Government
  • Other

Last Week’s Poll: How do you prepare for a date?

  • Full Flush and Go (Enema included)
  • Three S’s (Shit, Shower & Shave only)
  • I don’t ‘prep’, I’m a dirty pig
  • Buy Condoms and Lube
  • Haircut and a button down shirt
  • Charge my phone so I can Growlr for someone better if it sucks

Love on Craigslist – Bringing the Best of Love and Lust to You

  • [Eric] Seminary Boy – Peoria – Dedicated to Regev
  • [Ben] $30 Socks?
  • [Gary] Intelligent and Masculine For Passable First Time

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COL457: Bear Positivity

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys use the recent Arrested Movement male nude art project to discuss body positivity in the bear community. Given that bear is sometimes considered a state of mind, the cubs ponder about healthy body image and whether or not this can be done through #thirsttrap and other self-positive concepts.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Social Anxiety and Taxes
  • Damon: CMC Retreat
  • Gary: SSDD

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  • Jeff Leavitt
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YouTube Comment:

  • RE: COL456: Flagging – oscar orozco orejel: Hay there seems to be a little bit of audio quality problems with the recording

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  • New comment on “COL455: Title Competing”: James Butterfield

Hey guys!  Great show as usual! Some things to clarify  – contestants are judged partly on audience reaction, and that we are the entertainment for the weekend. We were told that if we had a fantasy scene we would get rehearsal time, but when we arrived it was just a sound check.  So we did have a chance to be on the stage and get a feel for it, but there was no run-through.

As contestants, we were given pink name badges instead of yellow, so everyone knew we were competing.  So there was no way a contestant could hide.

As for the money issue – I know I spent quite a bit just preparing for NAB, and I’ve now spent a whole lot more just lining up travel!  Also, my tax return is buying my new title vest!

For the raffle ticket sales – my drive for selling was to raise as much money as possible.  I really wanted our total to be higher than last year.

Thanks again for the great show!!

James – 2018 Mr NAB Admirer, 2017 Klondykes Glitter Bear

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If being a part of the Bear community is about one’s mindset, than how does one go about having a healthy sense of self? Is it possible to be happy and see what each of use is in a positive light?

Guys we know who have modeled:

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  • John H

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  • Charles W
  • littlesnoze1

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