In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s a holiday fun time with our 3rd annual Jingle Mingle 3: Revenge of the Bells! This time around, the guys get a little naughty for Christmas with some fun games. Laughs, stories and more ensue as Gary leads the sleigh. Join the cubs, Drew, Joshua, Lloyd and Cubziz as they determine who is the naughtiest of them all!
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Jingle Mingle 3
The COL hosts are gathering online again for a year end social. It’s holiday themed games as we find out who’s the naughtiest!
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke is back to broach the topic of sex after 50. As one of the hosts is approaching this milestone, Ed addresses and discusses the potential changes to one’s sex drive as they cross that age. From sexual health to sexual desire, listen as the guys boil down what you need to be aware of as you cross over that hill.
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Landscape of Relationships: Sex After 50
Welcome to Your 50s!
Lots of people have healthy and active sexual lives at all stages of life. That being said, here are some aspects of your sexuality that MIGHT change.
Sexual Health
“The World Health Organization defines sexual health as a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence.”
Regular doctors visits; talk to your doctor about your sexual health; bring a list of questions/comments/concerns helps
Colonoscopy and prostate cancer screenings
Maintain activity levels
Sexual Desire
We aren’t 16 anymore
Medical conditions, lifestyle, mood, hormone levels, medication
Spontaneous vs responsive desire
Possible adapt a sexual willingness mindframe
Erectile Dysfunction
Age doesn’t cause ED, but natural aging and illness can impact sexual response
ED is a biopsychosocial phenomenon with biological, physical, psychological, behavioral, emotional, and cognitive factors AS WELL AS identity, relationally (interpersonal and socially), and intimate factors.
Erections are not required for ejaculations or orgasms
Talk to your provider. Again, talk to your provider.
Medication and treatment options
Communication
”Adult sex is interpersonal” – McCarthy and Metz
Maintaining sexual intimacy is key; adapting a flexible sexual relationship
Creating
So remember,
Your sexual experience MAY change as you gets older
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke is back as the guys turn the pages on sexual scripts. Follow line by line as Ed and the cubs break down what sexual scripts are, where they come from and what happens when you go “off book.” Editing, improv and flipping the script are not just for the stage anymore!
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Landscape of Relationships: Sexual Scripts
What are sexual scripts?
In 1986, researchers William Simon and John H. Gagnon defined sexual scripts as the cultural and societally approved norms that a person accesses, agrees upon, and activates through a sexual socialization process. These sexual scripts are specific to the culture a person is socialized in, which tell them what behaviors, thoughts, emotions are or are not acceptable. People carry these scripts with them into sexual situations and they tell them how to respond. Simon and Gagnon theorized that sexual scripts have three different categories, including socio-cultural, interpersonal, and intrapsychic:
Examples of cultural sexual scripts:
Dating culture
Premarital sex
Monogamy
Dominance and submission
Heteronormative
What else?
Examples of interpersonal sexual scripts:
Flirting/sexual negotiation
Consent/sexual assault
Top/Bottom
What else?
Examples of intrapsychic sexual scripts:
Turn ons
Fantasy
Kinks and fetishes
Pleasure
Sexual Desire
What else?
Quote from Simon & Gagnon (1986)
In the most pragmatic sense, sexual scripts must solve two problems. The first of these is gaining permission from the self to engage in desired forms of sexual behavior. The second problem is that of access to the experiences that the desired behavior is expected to generate.
What happens when we go off script or improvising?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys come together in the new year to discuss goals and accountability. As many begin each year making new year’s resolutions that they often never keep, listen in as Ed and the cubs break down the reasons why this may be a regular occurrence. From creating your goal roadmap to making yourself accountable for the roads you take, listen in as the guys give yet another perspective on the wandering journey of relationship building.
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Landscape of Relationships: Goals & Accountability
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the cubs (sans Jeff) get into the spooky season with some sex horror stories. From bathrooms to bathhouses, the guys share their bad hookups while also giving advice on safer consensual practices to hopefully soften the blow of your next sex slip up.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s a holiday fun time with our 3rd annual Jingle Mingle 3: Revenge of the Bells! This time around, the guys get a little naughty for Christmas with some fun games. Laughs, stories and more ensue as Gary leads the sleigh. Join the cubs, Drew, Joshua, Lloyd and Cubziz as they determine who is the naughtiest of them all!
