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COL632: LoR: Goals & Accountability

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys come together in the new year to discuss goals and accountability. As many begin each year making new year’s resolutions that they often never keep,  listen in as Ed and the cubs break down the reasons why this may be a regular occurrence. From creating your goal roadmap to making yourself accountable for the roads you take, listen in as the guys give yet another perspective on the wandering journey of relationship building.

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Landscape of Relationships: Goals & Accountability

New Years resolutions

The Hobbit and LOTR “The Road Goes Ever On”

The Road goes ever on and on,

Down from the door where it began.

Now far ahead the Road has gone,

And I must follow, if I can,

Pursuing it with eager feet,

Until it joins some larger way

Where many paths and errands meet.

And whither then? I cannot say.

  • Gotta know what “The Road” or our values are.  

Values List 

Four Domains 

  • Work/Education 
  • Relationships
  • Leisure 
  • Personal Health and Wellness 

Translating Values into Goals – “Be a mapmaker”

  • Chose three guiding values 
  • SMART goals (Specific, Meaningful, Adaptive, Realistic, Timely)
  • Immediate (24 hours), Short Term, Medium-Term goals, Long-Term goals
  • Living Goals vs Dead Person Goals
  • Make sure you are heading in the right direction.  Ex. downhill skiing
  • Expected barriers 

Accountability 

  • We are ultimately responsible for our actions 
  • We get to be accountable to the goals we set for ourselves and the map that we make.
  • Feelings, situations, emotions, urges, memories are going to happen.  Make sure you have the needed resources.
  • Be mindful of avoidance and unhelpful sticky thought patterns
  • Be willing to address unhelpful patterns
  • Remember: you can always change your course, but at what and whose expense?  Honor your values and your commitments 
  • Let someone know your goals and work towards shared accountability.
  • Feeling guilty?  Good. You have values. 
  • Remember, not all those who wander are lost. Keep going.  
  • Progress is not always a straight line.  

 

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COLDR: AS6E05: Pink Table Talk

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon have a seat as the All Stars give us daytime talk show realness! With frank discussions and clashing charms, listen in as the guys get editorial on the queens’ roundtables and fashion.

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

Overall Thoughts: Pink Table Talk

  • [Damon] – RuPaul: Exposing Queens’ Personal Traumas for Fun & Profit
  • [Gary] – Rather impressive

Cruise the Runway:

Category/Theme: Clash of the Patterns

  • [Damon] – Many Great Choices
  • [Gary] – Some Real Beauties

Snaps & Eyerolls:

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Ginger’s Last Line…
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Honesty and Heart
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Stankface / Really, Ru?
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Acting While Not Vulnerable
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COLDR: S13E14: Gettin’ Lucky

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon find out which queens are lucky! As the top 4 head into the final lap, they are given a classic Drag Race challenge. Which queens dance, rap, sing and give us drag excellence to make into the finale?

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

Overall Thoughts – Interview / Top 4 Ru Music Video

  • [Damon] – Running Low on Steam
  • [Gary] – Traditional, Yet Meh

Stomp the Runway:

Category/Theme – Drag Excellence

  • [Damon] – Someone Came to Slay
  • [Gary] – PATTERNS VS SOLID

Snaps & Eyerolls:

What was a high point and low point for you

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… The “Show’s” Thoughtfulness 
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… THAT LOOK MAMA & BLACK EXCELLENCE
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Did We Really Need this Episode? 
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Myself

 

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COLDR: S11E11: Bring Back My Queens!

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon spill the tea on this latest controversial episode of Drag Race. It’s a makeover challenge (or is it a design challenge?) as some of the eliminated queens return and the remaining queens turn them into drag family. As the competition is heading towards the final lap, which queen has to take a pit stop? This is a jam-packed episode full of T, shade, and a lot a truth!

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 11

Mini Challenge:

  • [Damon] – Liked the Fun
  • [Gary] – It was okay…?

Maxi Challenge:

  • [Damon] – A Different Twist on a Classic
  • [Gary] – A Design Challenge?

Stomp the Runway:

  • [Damon] – Someone was Robbed/Drag Fashion
  • [Gary] – Padding for Silky, Mis-match Fabric for Brooke, Costume vs Fashion…Again?

Let It All Hang Out Hunty:

  • [Damon] – What He Said
  • [Gary] – Being Real and Serving T

Lip Sync for Your Life:

  • [Damon] – Was this the lip syncing she was talking about?
  • [Gary] – The ‘meh’ that shook the world

Snaps & Eyerolls:

  • [Damon] – Snaps for…Vanjie’s Rudemption
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for…SILKY, SILKY, SILKY
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Ru Calling Out Silky, THAT Runway Look
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Manufactured Drama

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COL348: Eight Years Later

COL8thCakeIn this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs take some time to go over the history of Cubs Out Loud, which piloted exactly eight years ago today. From its humble beginnings with hosts Tim, Jeff and JJ to the TNG generation and beyond.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff – Mythic Archi
  • Damon – Losses
  • Gary – Winter is here, I think

Weekly Topic

We launched the pilot episode eight years ago! WTH has happened since then?

Cooldown Topics

I’ll Tumbl For You:

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