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COL725: LoR: Adulting

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss how adulting is a part of our lives. From anxiety to accomplishments, it’s a discussion about how we move through avoiding responsibilities to the other side.

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Landscape of Relationships: Adulting

What is adulting? 

“The characteristic of behaving in a way characteristic of a responsible adult; especially the accomplishments of mundane but necessary tasks.”

Avoidance

  • the action of keeping away from or not doing something. 

Experiential avoidance 

  • the unwillingness to remain in contact with aversive experiences such as painful feelings, thoughts, and emotions
  • the relief that comes after you don’t do something 
  • instead of doing things that i need to do, i end up playing videos on tiktok or playing little games, or a get distracted 

Workability 

  • the concept of how our reaction to our thoughts are helpful or unhelpful and moving us towards the person we want to be.  Less focus on whether our thoughts are right or not.  

Example 

EAC Therapy 2023 Business goals 

  • Moving completely independent, get credentialed with insurance companies, and get my Sex Therapy Certification 
  • I was unwilling to make room for the anxiety that came along with the thought of failure 
  • Not doing them was easier than doing them….and I ALWAYS had an excuse NOT to do them.

Bullet Journal method 

  • an analog productivity tool that is designed to help someone structure their tasks with rapid logging.  
  • Ryder Carrol designed this method to help get people into action faster 
  • separated into rapid logging, monthly logs, weekly logs, and then daily logs
  • think of it like a more structured to-do list

1-2-3-4 Method

  1. Quick and easy task
  2. Cleaning task 
  3. In-depth task 
  4. Something fun to you
  • Categorize your rapid log into the 1,2,3 or 4
  • Pick one thing from each category and do each of them until you are done….then repeat as much as your can until you are done for your day 
  • The science tells us that if you can do something quick and easy then you have the momentum into a cleaning task.  Then you are already up, might as well complete that big task you have been putting off.  Once you are done, you can watch the season finale of that show you have been watching.  

Dr. Edward’s suggestions:

  • Be kind to yourself, Be realistic, Be brave and you will be ready.  
  • Get an accountability partner 
  • “Of course, I don’t want to do this. It’s okay to feel scared about this.”
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COL720: WGO: November 2023

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of November. As the guys end the month of thanks, they find themselves with not a lot to be thankful for. It’s been a month of ups and downs, so listen in as the cubs share their goings-ons as we close out on the year.

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  • COL719 comments and more: Hey Guys, I hate to be complaining, but am sending this email in case if you are unaware. I downloaded COL 719 and sadly could not hear Jeff speak at all. I could hear Gary and background music.  I went to look at youtube today and it seems to be operating the same way. I’ve listened to quite a few podcasts where Jeff’s volume was very low and hard to hear, while all the other guys were ok.  COL 719 is the first that I recall not hearing Jeff at all. Just wanted to let you know. – MTNB
  • Advice: Hi I’m ace(he/him) and only recently started watching the podcast and found it interesting. I’m a trans guy living in the south and I’m still pre-transition and not out to everyone (mainly cause of fear of judgement). so any advice on how to let people know without saying it straight up – AR

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COL582: R.I.P. XTube/Pornhub?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys get together to discuss the actions by porn sites such as XTube and Pornhub and their sudden removal of many users’ content without any warning. From what this means for your free porn material to another potential mass exodus, listen in as the cubs break down the situation and share their thoughts on what happened.

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Suddenly thousands, if not millions, of horrified moans came across the interwebs as two popular online porn sites removed most of their content and user accounts. 

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COL427: LTAK: Flogging

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by the knowledged Ches aka Foxbear for another Let’s Talk About Kink. For this kinky-go-round, the cubs discuss the impact play known as flogging. Listen in as the guys give some tips, tricks and technical tools on floggers and flogging. It’s an impactful conversation.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Computer Downtime
  • Damon: Jocks on, Asses Out!
  • Chester: Settling in, a broken window, Cap City Pup Night
  • Gary: Good and Disappointing Foods

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  • Co-hosts Damon, Gary, and recurring guest Ray (aka Karen Forecox) take a quick selfie at the Gem City Bear 2017 contest. Congrats to the winner Benjamin Benton!
    • Benjamin Benton – Thank u!

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  • re: COL425: Dear Gay Men – Randall Stratton – American gods is done for the season and yes the sex scenes were hot.

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Weekly Topic

Let’s Talk About Kink series discussion. Topic is a part of impact play, flogging.

  1. Vocabulary [descriptions not definitions]
    1. Impact Play
      1. Flogging
    2. Sensations: Sounds & Feelings
      1. Thud
      2. Sting
      3. Bite
  2. D/s relationship
  3. Implements Involved
    1. Flogger Types
      1. Different hides yield different results
      2. Different shapes of falls yield different results
      3. Different fall counts yield different results
    2. Not limited to floggers
      1. Paddles
      2. Crops
      3. Wartenberg wheel
      4. Breath
      5. Hands
  4. First Time Expectations

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