Tag Archives: NSFW

COL676: Where Do We Go Next?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys chirp about the recent changes to Twitter. With Twitter announcing that they are no longer allowing some social media platforms to be linked on their site, the cubs discuss the potential abandoning ship of members and where they will flock to as they ask the question: Where do we go next?

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Where do we go next?

Twitter recently announced another update to its policies [not yet incorporated into their TOS]. Now linking to ‘some’ other social media platforms will get your shutdown/banned. Slowly the platform has been losing users, advertisers, and the community of kink/MSM/LGBTQIA+ has been searching for a new home. Which begs some questions… Where do we go next? What do we want in our platforms? How much would we pay for such a thing? Does anyone care? 

 

Link

https://twitter.com/BMeiselas/status/1604173547240407041

Twitter Help: Social Platforms Policy 

 

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COL617: LoR: Struggle Bus

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the cubs take a ride on the struggle bus. Discussing conflict and conflict resolution, listen and learn along with the guys as they reveal the common pitfalls and potential solutions to this common problem.

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Landscape of Relationships: Struggle Bus

Four Horsemen 

  • Stonewalling
  • Criticism
  • Defensiveness
  • Contempt

Antidotes

  • Psychological Self-soothing [for Stonewalling]
  • Gentle Start Up [for Criticism]
  • Take Responsibility [for Defensiveness] – it’s okay to be wrong, make mistakes, own our limits, be vulnerable
  • Appreciation [for Contempt] – consider a ratio with 5 for 1 [5 appreciative thoughts for 1 contempt]

The Conflict BluePrint 

  • Current Conflicts
  • Attachment Injuries
  • Gridlock Issues 
    • Conflict is ongoing and recurring
    • 69% of conflicts are unsolvable
    • Utilize conversation/discussion to unearth the underlying source/cause

Resources:

The Marriage Minute – email newsletter signup site

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert – Amazon ordering info

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love – Amazon ordering info

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COL565: LTAS: Gloryhole Safety

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys bring you another Let’s Talk About Sex. This time, the cubs get “holier-than-thou” on gloryholes. In this time of pandemic, recent health organizations are promoting gloryholes as a potential safe means of sexual contact and lessening the risk of passing on the coronavirus. Listen in as the cubs dissect the potential of this safer sex habit and share some of their personal feelings on the usage of gloryholes. Is anonymous sex through a wall what gets them going?

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Let’s Talk About Sex – Gloryhole Safety

https://twitter.com/Richlandglory/status/1284169061392244737

https://twitter.com/GarageGloryHole/status/1275822114705215489

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COL551: Sex Needs vs COVID-19

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke of EAC Therapy and COL’s resident sex therapist. For this episode, the cubs acknowledge their thirst due to many states’ social distancing regulations during the COVID-19 pandemic. Because of this, we bring in the good doc to discuss the sexual needs during this crisis. We all have needs and need to find ways to address them safely.

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COVID-19 isn’t going away. And now more than ever we’re facing challenges with having our sexual needs met. What’s a person to do?

This is an extended traumatic experience….which means that people are going to have traumatic reactions to this.  Here are some common traumatic reactions and ways to address them sexually:

IMPORTANT: Our reactions to this may be different therefore we may have different sexual libidos during this time (that is normal).

Overview:

The 5 Love Languages

    • Phone Sex 
    • Video sex
  • Looking into the future 
    • Research is seeing a decrease in STI rates
      • Decrease access to testing sites
    • Re-entry 
      • Sexual risk taking 

Additional Resources: 

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COL490: R.I.P. Tumblr Porn

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we are joined again by Daddy Hadrian to talk about current events in social media. Earlier last week, Tumblr decided to ban NSFW content as of December 17th and Facebook has changed its terms regarding “sexual expression”. The guys discuss how this impacts both themselves and the community at large.

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Verizon owned Tumblr has announced they’re banning NSFW content starting Dec 17th. [Oath Inc. is a subsidiary of Verizon Communications that serves as the umbrella company of its digital content subdivisions, including AOL and Yahoo!. Verizon acquired AOL on June 23, 2015 and Yahoo!’s operating business on June 13, 2017. Within Oath, AOL and Yahoo! maintain their respective brands.]

  • What do we think of this policy/content change?
  • Does anyone know the numbers? As in, what %s of user accounts/posts are NSFW vs SFW.
  • Where will the porn gravitate to on the internet?
  • Vox: Tumblr bans porn so Verizon can sell ads

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What do we think of the recent change in Facebook’s own terms re: sexual expression?

Here’s the new wording from Facebook’s Community Standards Section 15:

  1. Sexual Solicitation

Policy Rationale

As noted in Section 8 of our Community Standards (Sexual Exploitation of Adults), people use Facebook to discuss and draw attention to sexual violence and exploitation. We recognize the importance of and want to allow for this discussion. We draw the line, however, when content facilitates, encourages or coordinates sexual encounters between adults. We also restrict sexually explicit language that may lead to solicitation because some audiences within our global community may be sensitive to this type of content and it may impede the ability for people to connect with their friends and the broader community.

Do not post:

Content that attempts to coordinate or recruit for adult sexual activities including but not limited to:

  • Filmed sexual activities
  • Pornographic activities, strip club shows, live sex performances, erotic dances
  • Sexual, erotic, or tantric massages

Content that engages in explicit sexual solicitation by, including but not limited to the following, offering or asking for:

  • Sex or sexual partners
  • Sex chat or conversations
  • Nude images

Content that engages in implicit sexual solicitation, which can be identified by offering or asking to engage in a sexual act and/or acts identified by other suggestive elements such as any of the following:

  • Vague suggestive statements, such as “looking for a good time tonight”
  • Sexualized slang
  • Using sexual hints such as mentioning sexual roles, sex positions, fetish scenarios, sexual preference/sexual partner preference, state of arousal, act of sexual intercourse or activity (sexual penetration or self-pleasuring), commonly sexualized areas of the body such as the breasts, groin, or buttocks, state of hygiene of genitalia or buttocks
  • Content (hand drawn, digital, or real-world art) that may depict explicit sexual activity or suggestively posed person(s).

Content that offers or asks for other adult activities such as:

  • Commercial pornography
  • Partners who share fetish or sexual interests

Sexually explicit language that adds details and goes beyond mere naming or mentioning of:

  • A state of sexual arousal (wetness or erection)
  • An act of sexual intercourse (sexual penetration, self-pleasuring or exercising fetish scenarios)

Facebook Community Standards Section 14: Adult Nudity and Sexual Activity

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