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COL717: LoR: Healing Our Queer Inner Child

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss the psychological concept of the inner child. Initiating from a conversation about Bluey (who knew?), the idea of finding connections to your inner child to heal from the potential harm caused by trauma comes to the forefront in this installment. Listen in as Ed leads the guys on ways to cope with and celebrate with their inner child to bring about healing and growth.

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Landscape of Relationships: Healing Our Queer Inner Child

Our Inner Child is a self-state part of us that is still experiencing and processing emotions, thoughts, and memories from that time but also is playful, spontaneous, and creative. Erik Erikson’s stages of development suggests that we have MULTIPLE inner children/adolescent/emerging adults within us.  

Inner Child is a common topic in therapy 

  • Writing letters to your childhood self
  • Engaging in playful, creative, and spontaneous behaviors 
  • Mindfulness or meditation 

Current topic re: Inner Child “Bluey”

Queer Authenticity 

“Queer people don’t grow up as themselves, we grow up playing  a version of ourselves that sacrifices authenticity to minimize humiliation and prejudice.  The massive task of our adult lives is to unpick which parts of ourselves that are truly us and which parts we created to protect us.” -Alexander Leon

How can we heal our queer inner child?

  • First, talk to a therapist
  • Start asking yourself what you needed growing up and do that
  • Edward’s Disney adventure
  • Music
  • Concerts
  • Playing games
  • Watching cartoons
  • ….get creative!
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COL662: Jeff’s Decade of Delirious Birthdays

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s Jeff’s Birthday (well almost). As the cubs gather to celebrate Jeff reaching the ultimate question of life, the universe and everything, listen in as they share the fun with Lloyd, Grey and Oan! From bingo to trivia to some naughty this or that, the guys have some hilarious shenanigans to commemorate Jeff’s next turn around the sun.

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COLDR: AS6E12: This Is Our Country

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, it’s the Grand Finale and the guys are LIVE! Gary and Damon get it twisted and do a live reaction watch-thru of the season finale. As the guys watch the final four celebrate their country with some line dancing and singing, which All Star snatches the crown in the final lap?

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RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

  • [Gary] – Pleasant Surprises

Cruise the Runway:

Category/Theme: Hall of Fame All-Star Eleganza Extravaganza

  • [Damon] – All the Serves!
  • [Gary] – Last Lewks
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COL586: What is. . . Authenticity?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs present another chapter of our “What Is…” series. The guys are joined by COL Resident Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to unravel authenticity. As many folks had time on their hands in 2020 to be introspective, the idea of being authentic to themselves and what that means rang true. But, what does this mean and what steps can one take to find authenticity?

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Our ‘What is…’ series – focusing on Authenticity. We survived 2020 which tried us in so many ways. Some took the opportunity to look inward and reflect on self-improvement. 

Background – Jenna Marbles and the End of Authenticity 

  • Authenticity is a process, that involves progress and context
  • “The Good Place” – We can’t just forget our progress
  • Phones don’t allow us to do that….every video can be interpreted as a present moment in time
  • YouTube creators deleting content reduces authenticity similar to ripping up pages in a diary so you are only seeing “the good stuff”
  • Similar to “Burn” in Hamilton 

Brené Brown is a social worker and researcher with the University of Houston’s Graduate School of Social Work.  She has spent the past two decades studying courage, shame, empathy, and vulnerability.  

Basically, in order for us to practice authenticity, we need courage, compassion, and connection.

  • Fear keeps us distant from courage where vulnerability gets us closer 
  • Sympathy keeps us distant from compassion where empathy gets us closer 
  • Shame keeps us distant from connection where vulnerability, empathy, power, and freedom get us closer.

“The Compass” analogy 

  • Values = North, West, South, East
  • Action = Points on the map 

Ten Questions to explore authenticity 

  1. What is my greatest strength?  What is my greatest weakness?
  2. What is my proudest achievement? What is my biggest failure?
  3. What am I worried about? (Think about a room where all your worries live…what is in there?)
  4. What do I believe in? What are my values?
  5. What am I interested in that I haven’t tried?
  6. How are my relationships?
  7. What do I like and dislike about my job?
  8. What does my inner critic tell me?
  9. Is your inner monologue more critical than not?
  10. I know when I am stressed when I  ____.

Think of a recent experience with a partner, friend, family member, or co-worker where you wanted to be authentic but weren’t. Imagine pausing at the height of this interaction and asking yourself the following questions:

  1. What am I afraid would happen if I shared my experience right now with this person?
  2. How will I feel if I don’t share what I’m thinking and feeling?
  3. If I weren’t afraid, what would I most want to say to this person right now?
  4. How can I share this with even more vulnerability?

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COL583: What’s Going On – December 2020

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of December. This month, the guys celebrate the holidays and the ending of the hell of a year that was 2020. From Christmas gifts to holiday hurrahs, the cubs get festive and share their joy with you.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Themed Christmas
  • Damon: Holiday Hoorays
  • Gary: Hours to go

Feedback 

Instagram Followers

  • Fredwustoff
  • Gryph1024
  • Garth_jensen
  • Boxcub_col
  • Pcunclepete
  • The_gochenour
  • Tagsbear 

YouTube Comment:

  • COL580: LTAS: Sides 
    • by Oan R.: “I’m gonna have to look up that Facebook group.” “Interesting conversation. I’ve never really been interested in penetration myself.” “‘What are you….sided-ness?’ Oh I hope we get to a point where someone asks me this question.”
    • By dindin mooshi: “the way i be having conversations I’m a Gemini 😩 and shading y’all ❤️I need to catch y’all live. i might be side-puss-? Omg”
    • By Rangersking669: “Just for reference the h-word is considered a slur for intersex people just letting y’all know. Great show!” – Oan R. responded “Huh, I didn’t know that.”

Twitter Followers

  • @BobbyBear2300
  • @LthrLvrNE
  • @Awq_Oan

Twitter Tags:

  • (from Dec 15 before COL582) @FishFuff: @cubsoutloud this is dindin mushi calling honorable panel members for an emergency meeting regarding @Pornhub’s latest fuckery…?

Recent Shows

  • COL579: WGO: November 2020
  • COL580: LTAS: Sides
  • COL581: Our Favorite Things 2020
  • COL582: R.I.P. XTube/Pornhub?

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