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COL726: LTAK: Cincinnati Leather Titleholders 2023

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About Kink series. This time around, one of the guys turns from interviewer to interviewee as Damon, Mr. Cincinnati Leather 2023, and Trayla Parks, Mx. Cincinnati Leather 2023, sit down to discuss their title win. As #twinners in an unprecedented set of circumstances, two titleholders were sashed. Listen in as Damon and Trayla speak on their experiences, ideas, and plans for the remainder of their title year.

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LTAK: Cincinnati Leather Titleholders 2023

Let’s talk about TWINNING! Last year in August, history was made in the Cincinnati Leather Contest when not one BUT two winners were announced. We’re excited to have both Damon and Trayla join us for an extra special interview show!

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COL716: LTAK: Hanky Code Quiz Time

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz as he quizzes them on the hanky code. From red to green and all the colors (and fabrics) in between, listen in as the cubs test their knowledge on the rainbow that is the code that guided cruising in the early days.

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Let’s Talk About Kink: Hanky Code Quiz Time

Once upon a time, kink folk used a rather colorful signal system to let others know what they were seeking and enjoyed. As time passed and culture changed, the hanky code has diminished in popularity. And since we’re cubs of a certain age, why not test our memories and see if we can recall what the various colors/patterns are when our quiz game host Cubziz put us to the test. 

Hanky Code Introduction – Article info from OnyxNortheast.Org

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COL688: LoR: Sexual Desire

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss sexual desire. While not a usual LoR topic, it can be part of the conversation. Listen as Ed speaks on the complicated definition of sexual desire, where it comes from, and what impacts it in our day-to-day lives.

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Landscape of Relationships: Sexual Desire

First, sexual desire is complicated. 

  • Is it an emotion? Yes
  • Is it a motivation? Yes
  • Is it a state of being? Yes
  • Is it required to have sex? Not necessarily

Sexual desire is the interest (or lack of interest) toward engaging in sexual activity.  This presents itself with thoughts, feelings, and fantasies.   Some people look at sexual desire existing on a spectrum from disgust to neutral to excited.

One way I have heard sexual desire described is akin to hunger.  And I like this analogy for a few reasons that we will discuss.  

Let’s go back to the idea of a smorgasbord….let’s imagine that there is not a Golden Corral that can hold the variety of sexual desire (Rule 34 of the Internet).  So when we talk about sexual desire, the limit does not seem to exist.  

What impacts sexual desire?

  • Biology/Evolution
    • Age can be a factor, Propagation of the species (sex as a reward); amygdala (emotional center) and hypothalamus (responsible for sexual arousal) Men’s desire is more based on visual cues when compared to women, cued interest “we don’t know why we desire something” v. uncued interest “has an origin story”; the “absolute territory” (Japanese zettai ryouiki), the band of skin between the bottom of the end of the skirt and the top of the socks.  Disclaimer: this is based on statistics and not all human behavior can be reduced to statistics.  If this isn’t your experience, it does not mean you are not valid.  
  • Medical
    • Low testosterone, heart disease, Cancer, physical pain, psychotropic medications
  • Relational
    • Relationship conflict, and sexual scripts 
  • Intergenerational
    • Abuse and religiosity and culture 
  • Psychological
    • Anxiety, Unhelpful body/sexual narratives, other sexual disorders
  • Social
    • Cultural sexual narratives and scripts 

“For most of Western Civilization low sexual desire has been a goal, not a problem.” – David Schnarch 

  • In a sex negative world, no wonder people are so confused about their sexual desires or lack thereof.  Remember the sexual smorgasbord idea?  If dominating cultural narratives created the smorgasbord, then there would only be a few options for a few people….the rest would be closed.

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COL671: LTAK: Drummer Magazine Returns

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz and reminisce about the adult magazines of yore. As Drummer Magazine makes a resurgence in both print and digital forms, the cubs discuss the shift from physical materials to digital ones to fap to and whether there is an audience for it. From Honcho to American Grizzly and from BEAR to Mandate, listen in as the guys peruse their porno roots to wonder about the future.

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Let’s Talk About Kink: Drummer Magazine Returns

Once upon a time, bears, cubs, admirers and more around the world enjoyed turning the pages of hard copy print magazines until the pages stuck together. Then the internet appeared on the scene, shifting focus for where we got our smut. 2007 sees the landscape change with turning a mobile phone into this thing called a smartphone. Soon after paper pages are replaced by swiping and sexting. Over a decade after the iPhone’s debut, the once very much enjoyed Drummer Men adult magazine is coming back on the scene. Is there an audience for a ‘zine’ – be it online with a print option?

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COL662: Jeff’s Decade of Delirious Birthdays

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s Jeff’s Birthday (well almost). As the cubs gather to celebrate Jeff reaching the ultimate question of life, the universe and everything, listen in as they share the fun with Lloyd, Grey and Oan! From bingo to trivia to some naughty this or that, the guys have some hilarious shenanigans to commemorate Jeff’s next turn around the sun.

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