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COLFB223: Bear or not Bear – Is this really a question?

Hello, Ladies, Gentlemen and NBs. SOMEBODY’S GETTING MARRIED! Which means we’re taking this week off while Damon walks the aisle, Gary tries to catch the garter and bouquet, while bears ravage the reception buffet. But have no fear! Today we’re time traveling to nearly TEN YEARS AGO in August of 2013 for specia-mercial episode including previous hosts Eric and Robert! From three days away to the old-school NBCS, let’s flashback to COL Episode 223.

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Bear Vs. Not Bear Meme

The Natural Bear Classification System (NCBS) – Wikipedia

NBCS (…or Bear codes… or those damned abbreviations) – Google Groups archive

  • Gary’s Bear Code – B5 cd- f g q r- t- w++
  • Eric’s Bear Code – B6 d-c- f+ g k- q- r s w++
  • Damon’s Bear Code – B0 c+d e++ f- g+ k+ q r- s+ t w+
  • Robert’s Bear Code – B6 cd e+ f- g+ k q- r- s t++ w
  • Jeff’s Bear Code – B3 c g+ q- r- s w

I’ll Tumbl For You [RIP]:

  • [Gary] – Furry Back and Oh That Ass!
  • [Damon] – Rugby Anyone?
  • [Robert] – Man In Blue

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COL673: LoR: Smörgåsbord

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. For this one, it’s time to belly up to the table as Dr. Ed scoops up a heaping helping of the smorgasbord relationship dynamic. Chow down with the cubs as they sink their teeth into this idea of understanding relationship anarchy. As the guys get to the meat of this topic, will you keep asking for seconds or will you be full up?

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Landscape of Relationships: Smörgåsbord

Landscape of Relationships is back with Dr. Angelini-Cooke to discuss the yummy idea of a Smörgåsbord. Belly up and get ready to sink your teeth into some tasty discussion.

Last month we discussed relationship anarchy, a relationship philosophy developed by Andie Nordgren, that suggests that relationships shouldn’t be bound by any rules not agreed upon by the involved parties.  

The relationship anarchy Smorgasbord finds its origins in December 2016 by Lyrica Lawrence and Heather Orr in Vancouver polyamory.  This was updated by Maxx Hill in April and September of 2018.  The fifth version was created in January 2019.  

“This board includes a number of concepts antithetical to many understandings of RA. Not all who use this are Relationship Anarchists, and those who are may need to discuss how their relational style differs from cultural norms.

The categories are loose generalizations to help conversation, and are arranged with those relating to the larger social/political systems toward the outside, and the more personal toward the center.

To form your relationships: you and another can pick any number of “items” from any number of “platters,” take a huge helping or just a scoop. The dish the two of you hold is your relationship. Remember you must agree together on what is in it! No sneaking items in without the other knowing, or there will likely be conflict or disappointment later. Also: it’s your dish, so if you decide to change what you want from the smörgåsbord later, that’s cool.”

Categories: Physical Intimacy, Kink, Emotional Intimacy, Power Exchange, Partnership, Sexual, Romanctic Collaborative, Professional/Work, Creative, Co-caregivers, Companionship Playfulness, Public Displays of Affection, Emotional Support, Communication, Financial, Legal, Power/Hierarchy, Exclusivity, Caregiving, Religious/Spirituality, Labels/terms, Systems of Oppression (within each of these categories are related items).  

“Suggested Notations:

Yes, Maybe, Maybe in the Future, and Let’s Talk, Definitely No.  Color-coding and highlighting is fun too.”



 

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COL473: More Fats, More Femmes

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys talk about the diversity of the bear community. In its over 30 years of existence, the guys give their opinions how much or how little it has changed in terms of inclusion, diversity, body positivity and more. Is this a trend heading towards inclusivity or a sign of the end of bear times?

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Insomnia and the Pokèmon addiction
  • Damon: Coworker Fun/Board Retreat
  • Gary: Rebalancing

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Facebook Likes:

  • Gaith Shablow
  • Marco Gomez John Slater

YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL472: Giving/Taking… Compliments
    • Woofy – I have a habit of when I get a compliment I have a compulsive need to throw one back, even if I’m not interested. Something I need to work on, to just accept the compliment with a thanks.

Social Media Comment:

  • To Jeff: RE: COL472: bostonareabear on Bear411: “Are you gonna talk or are you gonna gloss your lips?” Funniest line of the last COL podcast.
  • To Damon: RE: COL471: Gonzo Gonzales “I just heard your podcast on body positivity and wanna thank you for thinking of me. I was in tears. Love you so much.”

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More Fats, More Femmes – we like to see diversity, but …

    • Where is the diversity in the Bear Community?
    • How much have things changed in nearly 30 years?
    • Are we satisfied with what is represented today?
    • Is Tumblr the new bear porn for showing the reality of bodies and sex?

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COL419: This Is The Way We Genetically Role

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs are joined by our SCIENCE expert, Mr. (soon to be Dr.) Cisco, to talk about a recent Jezebel article indicating that you may be  born a bottom? Cisco breaks down the facts and figures and gives the guys the bottom line. Also, Chester is on assignment drinking around the world.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Diabloing
  • Damon: CMC/Being Low Key
  • Gary: The challenge of PRIDE
  • Cisco: “Job” at UTHSC in Memphis, I am a US resident, visiting hometown after 6.5 years, new furry baby, about to finish internship and become a doctor, still no balloon ride.

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Facebook Likes:

  • Ben Johnson
  • Xavier Champion

YouTube Subscribers:

  • larstul744

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  • Hit Me Baby One More Time!

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Discussion of a recent study about genetics/biology and our sexual role.

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COL360: Bear Perception

File_000In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we are joined by the ever interesting Hadrian McQuiag to discuss how we perceive ourselves in the bear community and beyond. From two articles, we springboard into self-identification and our perception from others. What labels do we self-identify with and what does that mean to ourselves and those around us? And where will this take us as we move forward into the mainstream?

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Hearthstoned
  • Damon:  What  Are You Doing, Weather?/Contest of Champions,
  • Gary: Spring Break Fever
  • Hadrian: Mannequin Party

Feedback:

Google +: Chris Ransdell 

Bear Underground:

  • gingercubguy: You make me blush I’m just a normal ginger cub

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From: Ryan Coulson: Re: Game Streaming

Hey guys,

YES!

Love the show though

Ryan

Ps. If you wanted to stream WoW I’d definitely watch that too.

Urbandictionary with Gary:

Electric HammerWhen you touch someone or something with your erect penis and it releases static electricity.

I accidentally gave my spouse the electric hammer and now I can only pleasure them after rubbing my stocking feet against a carpeted floor.

Weekly Topic

Can a bear see the trees for the forest if he defines his surroundings?

Cooldown Topics

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