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COL628: LoR: In-Laws

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the often dreaded in-laws. As media seems to make it seem that most straight couples have to deal with their in-laws and spouse’s families, the cubs review how this translates into the relationships of the LGBTQ+ community. Are they really that different or can similar tactics, communication and boundaries help ease the potential tension?

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Landscape of Relationships: In-Laws

Lots of research and media about how in-law relationships are really difficult.  That may be the case as some research out there says 3 out of 4 couples have difficult relationships with heterosexual in-laws.  Is that the case with same-sex relationships? 

Meeting the In-Laws

  1. Every family is different with a different rulebook that has been in creation for possibly generations.
  2. Possibility for conflictual interactions, difficult pasts, and crunchy presents.
  3. BOUNDARIES!!!!!
    1. Know your values
    2. Stay true to you.
  4. Brene Brown’s BRAVING…specifically the Generosity part.  
    1. Keep those conflict skills in check.

LGBT in-laws (2019) 400 interviews from children in law who identified as gay or lesbian.  Describe relationship with same sex in law parent.

  1. Many of those interviewed struggled with acceptance by one or both of their parents-in-law.
  2. Relationships usually improved with time
  3. While parents-in-law became increasingly accepting, there was often someone else in the family who was not accepting
  4. Acceptance by the mothers-in-law, according to the daughters-in-law, came as more of their friends and social circle either had children who were lesbian or gay, or their friends and social circle became more socially aware.
  5. Feelings of ambivalence toward family members are typical.

Be the subject of your life, not the object.  

  • You become an adult child the moment you set boundaries with your family (and in-laws).
  • What do YOU want to do with your partner in relation to each other’s families?
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COL598: Landscape of Relationships: Trust Part Two

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. This time the guys discuss trust. For this second part, the guys continue their break down of the anatomy of trust. Listen in as the cubs open their vaults and get courageous in the face of judgment. As integral parts of the anatomy, the guys further discuss vulnerability and how it is important to trust with others and themselves.

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Landscape of Relationships: Trust

  • What is trust?

Brené Brown: Anatomy of Trust 

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COLDR: S13E07: Bossy Rossy Ruboot

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon bead it up as the queens get trashy in an improv challenge. Whether it’s after dark or in the bangle of the morning, listen in as the guys drop their thoughts as the gurls pull through tabloid talk show shenanigans. Which queen shakes their money maker to make it to the top and which one bids us all adieu?

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

Overall Thoughts

  • [Damon] – Sometimes Predictions are Wrong…
  • [Gary] – Let the Improv Judgment Begin

Stomp the Runway:

Category/Theme – Bead It Up

  • [Damon] – Some Great Takes, but, Tina, we gotta talk
  • [Gary] – No Real Failures, Except Tina

Snaps & Eyerolls:

What was a high point and low point for you

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… The LSFYL!
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Symone is a FUCKING MODEL
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… The Safe Queens/Olivia Concerned
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Utica, Utica, Utica…
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COL554: HNU: COVID-19 & Semen

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Hostful New Update. As has been discussed in recent weeks, the cubs again are discussing the COVID-19 pandemic. This time around, they come together after recent reports indicate that the coronavirus can be found in semen. The guys review the information and examine what this could mean for those who enjoy the occasional bukkake.

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COVID-19 has stuck around and recently a small study out of China reported that SARS-CoV-2 was found in the semen of men diagnosed with COVID-19. What does this mean for ICS [Individuals having Contact with Semen]?

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COL457: Bear Positivity

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys use the recent Arrested Movement male nude art project to discuss body positivity in the bear community. Given that bear is sometimes considered a state of mind, the cubs ponder about healthy body image and whether or not this can be done through #thirsttrap and other self-positive concepts.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Social Anxiety and Taxes
  • Damon: CMC Retreat
  • Gary: SSDD

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  • RE: COL456: Flagging – oscar orozco orejel: Hay there seems to be a little bit of audio quality problems with the recording

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  • New comment on “COL455: Title Competing”: James Butterfield

Hey guys!  Great show as usual! Some things to clarify  – contestants are judged partly on audience reaction, and that we are the entertainment for the weekend. We were told that if we had a fantasy scene we would get rehearsal time, but when we arrived it was just a sound check.  So we did have a chance to be on the stage and get a feel for it, but there was no run-through.

As contestants, we were given pink name badges instead of yellow, so everyone knew we were competing.  So there was no way a contestant could hide.

As for the money issue – I know I spent quite a bit just preparing for NAB, and I’ve now spent a whole lot more just lining up travel!  Also, my tax return is buying my new title vest!

For the raffle ticket sales – my drive for selling was to raise as much money as possible.  I really wanted our total to be higher than last year.

Thanks again for the great show!!

James – 2018 Mr NAB Admirer, 2017 Klondykes Glitter Bear

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If being a part of the Bear community is about one’s mindset, than how does one go about having a healthy sense of self? Is it possible to be happy and see what each of use is in a positive light?

Guys we know who have modeled:

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  • Charles W
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