independent | Cubs Out Loud – The Bear Podcast of Indeterminate Length

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex! For this episode, the guys are joined again by COL Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss the concept of asking and receiving. As we explore romantic relationships, the cubs review negotiations, consent, and getting your needs met and fulfilled. Also sandwiches, pizzas, and tea and what they mean in the grand scheme of things (Don’t worry Gary, there’s no food play involved).

Show Topic

Let’s Talk About Sex – Asking and Receiving

Why is it so hard to ask for something during sex?
Are you being rude if you don’t show appreciation for the other participant during sex?
What do you do if you wanted a blow job but they aren’t doing that thing that you really like when you are getting a blowjob? You know that thing…

The Good Touch Games….Drenched Fur….Gabe and Edward

Consent

“An agreement between two parties who are about to engage in sexual activity”-RAINN
Consent is just as much about no as it is about yes.
Consent is about both parties getting what they want
Consent Tea Video

Asking

- We have to know what we want or what we don’t want in order to ask for and/or decline something.
- Sex needs a new methaphor other than baseball/sports….what about pizza?

- Asking leads to intimacy

Receiving

Periodic Checking in (Verbal and non-verbal)
- Sometimes you are speechless so a nod of appreciation is good (see Daddy Will Angel for reference…Daddy Will Angel, Liam Angel, and Brad Kalvo)
How to receive (Compliment Sandwich)
Show appreciation
Room for improvement
Show appreciation again
Repeat till orgasm (if that is what you want on your pizza)