In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About… This time around, the guys discuss the formerly taboo topic of tattoos. From a rite of passage to a significant body mod, listen in as the cubs give their opinions on the art of tattoos. Is it part of gay ritual or just self expression?
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LTA… Tattoos
From the dawn of time, we’ve marked up our bodies with artwork of varying kinds. Some temporary and others very permanent. The bear community has its own version of different ink styles as tattoos over the decades. But has tattooing become less prominent today? Were there any fads that came and went?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About… series. Damon’s out on travel this week and we’re excited to have PupZeo return for a chat about the changes in recent years to events for LGBTQIA+ communities. From volunteerism and feedback to the challenges of feeding the masses, it’s time to line up and enjoy ample servings.
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LTA… The Future of Events
Since the inception of the leather, bear, and kink communities events have been a way for people to come together and share time and space to make memories. With over fifty years of events having occurred, a lot has changed the landscape. From the digital revolution to worldwide pandemics, now we’re looking at how things have evolved. But has it all been for the betterment of the experience for attendees? Are there areas that need work? What opportunities are there for the coming years of activities?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss sexual desire. While not a usual LoR topic, it can be part of the conversation. Listen as Ed speaks on the complicated definition of sexual desire, where it comes from, and what impacts it in our day-to-day lives.
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Landscape of Relationships: Sexual Desire
First, sexual desire is complicated.
Is it an emotion? Yes
Is it a motivation? Yes
Is it a state of being? Yes
Is it required to have sex? Not necessarily
Sexual desire is the interest (or lack of interest) toward engaging in sexual activity. This presents itself with thoughts, feelings, and fantasies. Some people look at sexual desire existing on a spectrum from disgust to neutral to excited.
One way I have heard sexual desire described is akin to hunger. And I like this analogy for a few reasons that we will discuss.
Let’s go back to the idea of a smorgasbord….let’s imagine that there is not a Golden Corral that can hold the variety of sexual desire (Rule 34 of the Internet). So when we talk about sexual desire, the limit does not seem to exist.
What impacts sexual desire?
Biology/Evolution
Age can be a factor, Propagation of the species (sex as a reward); amygdala (emotional center) and hypothalamus (responsible for sexual arousal) Men’s desire is more based on visual cues when compared to women, cued interest “we don’t know why we desire something” v. uncued interest “has an origin story”; the “absolute territory” (Japanese zettai ryouiki), the band of skin between the bottom of the end of the skirt and the top of the socks. Disclaimer: this is based on statistics and not all human behavior can be reduced to statistics. If this isn’t your experience, it does not mean you are not valid.
Anxiety, Unhelpful body/sexual narratives, other sexual disorders
Social
Cultural sexual narratives and scripts
“For most of Western Civilization low sexual desire has been a goal, not a problem.” – David Schnarch
In a sex negative world, no wonder people are so confused about their sexual desires or lack thereof. Remember the sexual smorgasbord idea? If dominating cultural narratives created the smorgasbord, then there would only be a few options for a few people….the rest would be closed.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About…Well, actually, the guys bring back COL Movies for a bit to discuss the movie “Bros”. Talked up as the first mainstream LGBT rom-com, listen in as the cubs share their thoughts on the film, its hype and the recent uproar it has received from fans and critics alike. Does it live up to expectations or is it just another gay movie?
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LTA… BROS (film)
Hollywood made the first ever ‘mainstream’ all LGBTQ romantic comedy, BROS. Opening weekend box office numbers did not match expectations/hopes. Opinions abounded online with digital finger pointing. Having seen the film, what do we think are the ups and downs of this movie? Did it meet our expectations? Do we care about it much?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss their experiences with visiting the Leather Archives and Museum located in Chicago, IL. From rotating exhibits to archiving the leather kink dynamic, listen in as the cubs give their thoughts on the relevance of this piece of queer history. With connections to many aspects of the LGBTQ+ community, find out more about what the LA&M has to offer to everyone; from established kinksters to the fresh-eyed “baby gays”.
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Let’s Talk About Kink: The Leather Archives and Museum
We’re joined once again by kinky boy Tony aka Cubziz for a chat about their experiences with visiting and supporting the Leather Archives and Museum in Chicago, IL.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About… This time around, the guys discuss the formerly taboo topic of tattoos. From a rite of passage to a significant body mod, listen in as the cubs give their opinions on the art of tattoos. Is it part of gay ritual or just self expression?
