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COL663: WGO: August 2022

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of August. For this month, the guys discuss working hard, staycations, leather contests and getting older. As summer dies down, the cubs continue to keep things hot and cold (YAY fixed AC).

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Life, The Universe, Everything
  • Damon: Argos & Cincinnati Leather/Wedding Plans
  • Gary: Stress v Health

Feedback 

Facebook Follows & Likes:

  • เดอะ ฮัค ผู้น่ารัก [Thai: The cute hulk]
  • David Henderson
  • Kenny Franklin
  • Kahector Makilan
  • Claudio Borrell Ferrer
  • Anminas As
  • احمد ابراهيم [Arabic: Ahmed Ibrahim]
  • Greg Aguilar
  • John Caprell
  • James Toney
  • Adam Hackel
  • Paulo Guiseppe
  • Angel Martin
  • Poncho
  • Tengiz Chuluhadze
  • Glenn Cooperman
  • Naty Soto
  • Claude Jones
  • Jared Mullen
  • Stephen Eudy
  • Timothy Strydom
  • Saad Mahsah
  • 2 Bears 1 Van Tour
  • ميدو عمري [Arabic: Mido my age]
  • Roberto Velez Echeverry

Facebook Mention:

  • Tony B: re: COL660: LTAK: The Leather Archives and Museum: Definitely enjoyed being on the show gushing about LA&M. Have taken quite a few people there over the years. Will be back in November most likely. (Assuming the world… ya know.)

Twitter Followers

  • @Tonyjef96741571
  • @yyuan5987
  • @bendbear63
  • @HenWo95385740
  • @CubsterDan
  • @JeanCarlos9o
  • @sirwilliams08
  • @raff4134
  • @AgnobisR
  • @Vicente26741623
  • @moooox77
  • @aljman1981
  • @ariellopez8919
  • @sadeceisk
  • @Miguel68180309
  • @andrenina44
  • @martinez1105191
  • @Screwdriver4141

Voicemail

  • Voicemail from 8/14/22

Patreon Updates

  • Welcome our newest Cubster level Patron, Daniel C. who joined us 8/1/22!
  • Our apologies for mistakenly skipping recognition of David T. who joined Patreon on 7/10/18. Thank you for being with us for four years now!
  • BIG BEAR CUB HUGS to our Patrons: 
    • Cubsters: Charles W. and Daniel C.
    • Ubehrs: Dave T., Li, Michael Q, and Tim S.
    • plus our Buddies: J.R., Lloyd G., Michael V, and Zack B.

Recent Shows

  • COL658: WGO: July 2022
  • COL659: LTAS: Monkeypox v Social Media
  • COL660: LTAK: The Leather Archives and Museum
  • COL661: LOR: Queer Platonic Relationships
  • COL662: Jeff’s Decade of Delirious Birthdays

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COL657: World Pet 2021

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, with Damon on assignment out of town, Gary and Jeff welcome AJ aka Pup Zeo, the first and current World Pet 2021! With the end of his reign coming to an end at World Bear Weekend in September 2022, Zeo discusses the joys of being a pet titleholder, the trials of being a new titleholder and the fun of having a title “family”. In addition, the guys welcome all to Orlando for WBW 2022 and invite all to attend as Zeo and his family steps aside to welcome aboard the 2022 title winners. And if you listen carefully, there’s a special code just for our listeners to get a deep discount.

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World Pet 2021

We welcome back AJ / Pup Zeo to discuss the upcoming World Bear Weekend in Orlando FL this coming Sept ’22 as well as what it has been like as the first World Pet title holder.

World Bear Weekend – “Heroes & Villains”

Orlando, FL ~ September 22-25, 2022

WEEKEND PASS PRICING [per person]:

  • Basic: $129 + fees
  • Standard: $159 + fees
  • VIP: $229 + fees
  • Volunteers All-Weekend Pass: $79 + fees
  • Click HERE to Register for a Weekend Pass
  • Be sure to mention the price increase on 8/1. It’s a $20 increase on all-weekend passes.

DAY/NIGHT PASS PRICING [per person]:

  • Thursday 12pm-3am: $50
  • Friday 9am-3am: $80
  • Saturday 9am-3am: $100
  • Nightly after 7pm: $40 each pass
  • Sunday Drag Brunch: $35
  • Just for COL Listeners…WBW will Promo code COL2022 will give $25 off Standard or VIP passes. Expiration to redeem will be 11:59pm on 8/31/22

Yapp App is now live for WBW: The group code is WORLDBEAR. 

WBW Contestant Titles

  • Mr. World Bear
  • Ms. World Bear
  • World Cub
  • World Pet
  • Spirit of the Bear Award
  • Application deadline is 8/15. No exceptions.

Virtual Mock Interviews Event

  • Thursday August 4, 2022
  • 7pm-9pm ET
  • Via Zoom – link above is for the Facebook event 

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COL613: LoR: New Relationship Energy

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series.  Today’s topic is New Relationship Energy.  That euphoric feeling one gets from their glorious new relationship! However, there can be some challenges.  From Limerence of monogamy to the NRE of Polyamory, the cubs break down the pros and cons of this addiction to love.

Show Topic

Landscape of Relationships: New Relationship Energy

How many songs can you think of that frame romantic love to addiction?

Limerence

  • Dorothy Tennov, psychologist, coined the term limerence in her 1979 book Love and Limerence to describe the phenomenon of the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors of beginning a relationship.  We also call it having a crush.  These feelings are categorized as being intrusive and everything seems to be about this person.  We can’t listen to the radio because every song seems to be about them.  Everything we see seems to remind us about them.  They become the central force of gravity in your life.  A black hole of attraction.  We have all had it at some time or another….and sometimes it is even reciprocated. 

New Relationship Energy (NRE)

  • Similar to limererance but for individuals in polyamorous relationships to describe and help manage the thoughts and feelings that arise during new relationship among already existing ones.  This is helpful to frame especially when feelings of jealousy from other partners are present.  
  • NRE is a hot topic in poly circles because it often comes up.

You know that song “Your Love is a Drug” by Kesha?  

  • She wasn’t lying.
  • The same chemical reactions that occur neurologically during the limerence phase of a new relationship also occur during crack cocaine addiction.  The relationship gives us the all of that feel good dopamine and norepinephrine, but also comes with obsessive thoughts when you are not with that other person…similar to withdrawal.  That is because we are experiencing low serotonin production at these times, which satiates us and lets us know “mmmm…..I’m full.”  Like Alexander Hamilton, we can never be satisfied in those early months.  

Cons of NRE 

  • Hyperfocus on new relationship, neglect other relationships and responsibilities 
  • Increases likelihood of negatively evaluating other partner’s behaviors.
  • Sometimes questionable behavior that is uncharacteristic (e.g. moving, big purchases)
  • Overlooking red flags 

Pros of NRE

  • Good feelings
  • High energy
  • Increased likelihood to try new things
  • Community wisdom (you are not alone…there are MANY others who have been there too)

What to do?

  • Head in the Clouds, Feet on the Floor
    • Its okay to be feel the good feelings….but be practical.
  • Don’t make big purchases: ( e.g. sign anything anything over $500 without consulting outside party)
  • Check In’s with friends and date nights with partners 
  • USE THAT ENERGY IN OTHER RELATIONSHIPS!!!
  • This, too, shall pass.
    • Research suggests 6 months to 2 years.

Old Relationship Energy (aka Established Relationship Energy, Existing Relationship Energy)

  • Old Relationship Energy: (noun) The dynamic of a long-standing established romantic or sexual relationship. Related to the Greek concept of pragma or mature love. Also known as companionate love. Also known as ORE. Its opposite is New Relationship Energy (or NRE).
  • Companionate love (secure) vs limerence (insecure)
  • Playing an instrument you are comfortable with….

Resources

Mina Beveney Dissertation Kinky POC Research Study

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If you are a person of color age 18 or over that has participated in in-person BDSM spaces or contexts in the United States within the past 24 months, please follow this link (https://rebrand.ly/RaceKinkSurvey) to find out more and participate. Participants may choose to enter into a drawing to win a one of four $25 gift cards.

Thank you for your interest in this research!

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COL457: Bear Positivity

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys use the recent Arrested Movement male nude art project to discuss body positivity in the bear community. Given that bear is sometimes considered a state of mind, the cubs ponder about healthy body image and whether or not this can be done through #thirsttrap and other self-positive concepts.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Social Anxiety and Taxes
  • Damon: CMC Retreat
  • Gary: SSDD

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Facebook Likes:

  • Michael Droste

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Jeff Leavitt
  • Fred Houmsi

YouTube Comment:

  • RE: COL456: Flagging – oscar orozco orejel: Hay there seems to be a little bit of audio quality problems with the recording

Blog Comment:

  • New comment on “COL455: Title Competing”: James Butterfield

Hey guys!  Great show as usual! Some things to clarify  – contestants are judged partly on audience reaction, and that we are the entertainment for the weekend. We were told that if we had a fantasy scene we would get rehearsal time, but when we arrived it was just a sound check.  So we did have a chance to be on the stage and get a feel for it, but there was no run-through.

As contestants, we were given pink name badges instead of yellow, so everyone knew we were competing.  So there was no way a contestant could hide.

As for the money issue – I know I spent quite a bit just preparing for NAB, and I’ve now spent a whole lot more just lining up travel!  Also, my tax return is buying my new title vest!

For the raffle ticket sales – my drive for selling was to raise as much money as possible.  I really wanted our total to be higher than last year.

Thanks again for the great show!!

James – 2018 Mr NAB Admirer, 2017 Klondykes Glitter Bear

Show Topic

If being a part of the Bear community is about one’s mindset, than how does one go about having a healthy sense of self? Is it possible to be happy and see what each of use is in a positive light?

Guys we know who have modeled:

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Buddies:

  • Eric L
  • John H

Cubsters:

  • Aaron H
  • Charles W
  • littlesnoze1

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COL454: OTR: NAB 2018

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are in the center ring as they discuss North American Bear Weekend 2018. Gary, Chester, and Damon ringlead the conversation about the freaks, the clowns, and the menagerie of experiences of the weekend. From the contest and dances to the workshops and more, the cubs shine the spotlight on this international spectacle!

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Judging
  • Damon: NAB
  • Chester: NAB
  • Gary: NAB

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Facebook Comment/Post:

  • Re: COLSP07: Valentine’s Storytime 2018 – bobbybearstl: Great storytime 😊😊😊

YouTube Subscribers:

  • JuniorAus
  • Aaron Anderson
  • Brian Worth
  • daniel bailey

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Show Topic

North American Bear Weekend 2018 – Circus Ursus

Title Winners

  • Panda – Bear
  • James – Admirer
  • Brett – Cub
  • Monolith – Muscle Bear
  • Croc – Daddy

Cooldown Topics

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