In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Food. As we near the end of summer, the guys share their faves when the temps heat up. From ice cold beverages to meat fresh off the grill, the cubs tantalize their tastebuds during the time of cookouts, festivals and fun.
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Let’s Talk About Food: Summer Sensations
Which foods do our co-hosts crave when the temps are up and the sun’s out?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this one, the guys continue the discussion from COL604 about apologies and move on to forgiveness. What is forgiveness? After apologizing, should you ask for forgiveness? Are there any benefits to forgiving someone? The cubs give their answers to these questions and more.
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Landscape of Relationships: Forgiveness
Last time we talked about apologies, and we started to talk about the process of forgiveness and how that can relate to the apology process.
According to the 5 languages of apologies, requesting forgiveness is the last language….and I disagree. I don’t think it is fair to request, assume, or expect someone to forgive you. The responsibility lies on the person hearing the apology whether or not they want to forgive the situation….because at the end of the day, it isn’t really about that other person….it is about them.
So what is forgiveness?
“Forgiveness” is the act or process of forgiving or being forgiven. And “forgive” means to end the resentment or anger felt towards another person, situation, or think for an offense, flaw, or mistake.
Cultural idea that forgiveness is one of the greatest of virtues, the highest form of love, and necessity for good mental and physical health. This view says that forgiveness helps reduce stress, blood pressure, lowering risk of heart attacks, and other mental health concerns such as depression and anxiety.
Studies have indicated that the benefits of forgiveness include lowered cholesterol, decreased risk of heart attacks, and other mental health concerns such as anxiety and depression.
The problem with this model is that it gives the idea that forgiveness is the only path and if you don’t forgive an unapologetic person, then you are somehow less spiritual and more inclined to physical and emotional problems. Rushing to forgive can have its own costs as psychologist Janis Abraahms Springs believes.
In “Why Won’t You Apologize”, Harriet Lerner mentions that many of her clients are not necessarily looking to forgive someone but rather to be rid of the anger, bitterness, resentment, and pain. They want to let go. We don’t have to forgive in order to let go. While for some people, seeking to forgive others may be the goal and an important part of their spiritual journey. That is called radical forgiveness. Studies indicate that forgiveness is important to a successful relationship.
To go back to the health benefits of forgiveness…it is more the act of letting go of what you can’t control that is the most healing.
Apologies should never be forced, demanded, or commanded. “It’s been twenty years, why can’t you forgive him?”
Forgiveness also isn’t all-or-nothing. We can forgive someone 95 percent to 2 percent or anywhere in between. It is up to you. And that is powerful.
Also….lets not forget self-forgiveness or self-compassion. We are oftentimes our own worst enemy. We need forgiveness just as much as other people….if not more.
Final thing: You do not need to forgive a person who has hurt you in order to free yourself from the pain of negative emotions. And it is no one else’s job to tell you to forgive…or not to.
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon return to review the 5th and 6th episodes of RPDR! First, the guys review the dramatic acting chops of the queens as they get MEDICAL. Find out which queens are on life support. Next, a classic game returns a little early as SNATCH GAME puts the remaining 10 queens in a celebrity mood. With the most familiar challenge to the Ru Gurls, which queen impersonates their way to the top? Producer note: Gary and Damon experienced technical issues which affected the show and unfortunately ended the recording early. Even so, it’s a jam-packed episode.
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, we’re finally at THE FINALE!! Gary and Damon have crossed the finish line! As all of the season 11 queens return, we watch with bated breath as one queen lip syncs her way to become the next drag superstar!! Find out which queen snatched the crown.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys take a fan’s request and come up with a potential new ongoing segment. In this inaugural episode of “What is?”, the cubs discuss self-love. From describing the term to discussing applications in our lives, the guys give you some personal advice on how to love yourself. ‘Cus if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell can you love somebody else?
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New Series! What is… Self-Love?
Discussion of the term ‘self-love’. Do we agree as co-hosts on what all is involved with loving ourselves?