In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another All T, No Shade show. This time around, the cubs express their opinions on the recent decision of XTube to shutdown its site in September 2021. After 13 years of providing user-created adult content, how have recent legal allegations and other factors affected the site? The guys give their thoughts on this question and more.
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ATNS: Goodbye XTube
At the beginning of July 2021, the online adult video community found itself suddenly facing the news that XTube.com announced that it will be no longer operational as of September 5th. In COL582, we discussed the potential end of PornHub and… XTube. Just over six months later, this news brings further attention to the intersection of pornography, human trafficing, and illegal uploaded content.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this installment, the cubs share their thoughts on FWBs, otherwise known as friends with benefits. What are the building blocks of this type of relationship and how do you make it work? And, what exactly are the benefits?
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Landscape of Relationships: Friends With Benefits
Is a friendship a relationship????
Thoughts?
Many cultures define friendships as a very important relationship
LGBTQ community- “chosen family”
Atlantic 2020 article that discussed the cultural and historical importances of friendships
A set of societal expectations for intimate relationships. Partners follow a set of progressive set of steps, each with clear markers, with a goal in mind.
In 2017, 171 University of Denver students (more women than men) were surveyed on sexual satisfaction, commitment and trust of FWB relationships
Big takeaways? *drumroll please* communication and setting healthy boundaries
They found sexual satisfaction was important but so was sacrificing for the good of the partner, and not looking for the next best thing.
Why? Lots of research is looking at young adults who are in school. Romantic relationships are oftentimes an added stressor that takes away from studying. Some students opt for FWB arrangements to reduce overall stress.
FWBs are supposed to decrease pressure, not add pressure.
You need to be friends in order to call it a FWB. Those take time, trust, shared history, etc.
Must be mutually beneficial and convenient
If the FWB ends, you are allowed to be upset.
“It’s confusing to try to develop friendship founded on a sexual relationship guided by a rule system that has to be invented as you go. Or, when you’re trying to force a friendship so that you can add sex as a benefit, where does the friendship part fit in? That’s putting the benefits before the friendship.”
“Sexual exploration can and often does become a part of an existing friendship between consenting people. Or you may have been in a romantic and/or sexual relationship with this person earlier in your life, but now it’s morphed into a friendship. In such circumstances, the sexual connection may remain, or may be reintroduced. But the common thread is the history between you, the investment you share in the friendship, and the trust that has formed. You recognize that you both enjoy the chemistry, but that you may not be as compatible emotionally as you are sexually. It’s a mutually understood experience. The connection you have as friends determines whether this time in your life and in your relationship is right to be sharing benefits.”
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Damon’s away testing the limits of his singing range while Jeff and Gary chat about dating. From the early days of the internet to the modern swipe app tech, they discuss how much technology plays a factor in dating vs hookups. Do dates require a romantic factor? Is it possible to long distant date? Listen in to see if you agree with their answers.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Jeff and Damon are joined by Chester and Tony for another online game of Cards Against Humanity because… they’re horrible people. Get ready for some fingering, stray pubes, friends with benefits and more!
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another All T, No Shade show. This time around, the cubs express their opinions on the recent decision of XTube to shutdown its site in September 2021. After 13 years of providing user-created adult content, how have recent legal allegations and other factors affected the site? The guys give their thoughts on this question and more.
