In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz as he quizzes them on the hanky code. From red to green and all the colors (and fabrics) in between, listen in as the cubs test their knowledge on the rainbow that is the code that guided cruising in the early days.
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Let’s Talk About Kink: Hanky Code Quiz Time
Once upon a time, kink folk used a rather colorful signal system to let others know what they were seeking and enjoyed. As time passed and culture changed, the hanky code has diminished in popularity. And since we’re cubs of a certain age, why not test our memories and see if we can recall what the various colors/patterns are when our quiz game host Cubziz put us to the test.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, with Damon on assignment out of town, Gary and Jeff welcome AJ aka Pup Zeo, the first and current World Pet 2021! With the end of his reign coming to an end at World Bear Weekend in September 2022, Zeo discusses the joys of being a pet titleholder, the trials of being a new titleholder and the fun of having a title “family”. In addition, the guys welcome all to Orlando for WBW 2022 and invite all to attend as Zeo and his family steps aside to welcome aboard the 2022 title winners. And if you listen carefully, there’s a special code just for our listeners to get a deep discount.
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World Pet 2021
We welcome back AJ / Pup Zeo to discuss the upcoming World Bear Weekend in Orlando FL this coming Sept ’22 as well as what it has been like as the first World Pet title holder.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the potential red, yellow and green flags in relationship and kink dynamics. While a potentially funny meme, these flags are no laughing matter. Listen in as the cubs unfurl some details and give some insight into looking out for the signals of a healthy (and unhealthy) relationship.
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Landscape of Relationships: Red Flags, Green Flags
What are Relationship Flags?
Relationship flags are indicators of healthy, unhealthy, and dangerous behaviors or feelings within relationships.
They can be red, yellow, or green.
Red Flags
Controlling behaviors
Violence
Emotional and verbal abuse
Intentional sabotage or hurting of feelings
Walking on eggshells
Friends and family (support) are not trusting of your partner
Using things against you that were told in confidence
Usually can improve for short periods of time but abuse is usually cyclical
Yellow Flags
All or nothing communication
Pushes boundaries
Codependency or enmeshment
Difficulty with finding things in common
Lack of similarities with goals and values
These can be improved upon in meaningful ways
Green Flags
Healthy communication
Respecting boundaries
Interdependence
Supportive of goals and values
Knowing love languages
Awareness that no relationship is perfect
Let’s Get Kinky
Red Flags in Kink
Expect you to immediately obey them and call them an honorific or title before agreed upon/Call you a title one honorific immediately before agreed upon
Don’t ask you about your hard or soft limits
Tell you what “real” or “true” submissive or a dominant does
Separate you from friends and family or kinky friends
Tell you that they have no limits and expect you to have no limits as well
Expect you, as the Dominant, to take full responsibility for their health and wellbeing, both physically and emotionally
Dismiss opinions
Dictate how your dynamic will go
Green Flags in Kink
Want to get to know you on a deeper level, and have an interest in more than just your kinks and sexual preferences
They won’t do anything without your expressed consent, and will respect your stated boundaries and limits, as well as sharing their own
They’re interested in hearing about your journey in kink, as well as what turns you on and off, along with your opinions on how you’d like your dynamic to grow
They respect your existing friendships and relationships, even if they may not be directly introduced to the other important people in your life
They emphasize the importance of safety, consent, negotiation, and safe words in kinky dynamics
They take responsibility for their actions, understanding that you are not the cure for their problems
If you feel you are in a dangerous relationship situation. Please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys start the new year with a review of 2018. The cubs share some stats of how the show did as well as giving some insight on how they felt 2018 went for them. From highs and lows and all that’s in between, find out what happened for the guys in 2018 and what they are looking forward to in 2019.
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Reviewing the Year that was 2018 for the podcast and our lives.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys reach into their left pockets and talk about the hanky code and flagging. Whether it’s magenta left or kewpie doll right, the cubs dig in on some of the code and give the results of our recent poll to determine what our listeners flag.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz as he quizzes them on the hanky code. From red to green and all the colors (and fabrics) in between, listen in as the cubs test their knowledge on the rainbow that is the code that guided cruising in the early days.
