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COL692: LoR: Sexual Scripts

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke is back as the guys turn the pages on sexual scripts. Follow line by line as Ed and the cubs break down what sexual scripts are, where they come from and what happens when you go “off book.” Editing, improv and flipping the script are not just for the stage anymore!

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Landscape of Relationships: Sexual Scripts

What are sexual scripts?

In 1986, researchers  William Simon and John H. Gagnon defined sexual scripts as the cultural and societally approved norms that a person accesses, agrees upon, and activates through a sexual socialization process.  These sexual scripts are specific to the culture a person is socialized in, which tell them what behaviors, thoughts, emotions are or are not acceptable.  People carry these scripts with them into sexual situations and they tell them how to respond.  Simon and Gagnon theorized that sexual scripts have three different categories, including socio-cultural, interpersonal, and intrapsychic:

Examples of cultural sexual scripts:

  • Dating culture 
  • Premarital sex 
  • Monogamy 
  • Dominance and submission
  • Heteronormative 
  • What else?

Examples of interpersonal sexual scripts:

  • Flirting/sexual negotiation
  • Consent/sexual assault 
  • Top/Bottom
  • What else?

Examples of intrapsychic sexual scripts:

  • Turn ons
  • Fantasy
  • Kinks and fetishes
  • Pleasure
  • Sexual Desire 
  • What else?

Quote from Simon & Gagnon (1986)

In the most pragmatic sense, sexual scripts must solve two problems. The first of these is gaining permission from the self to engage in desired forms of sexual behavior. The second problem is that of access to the experiences that the desired behavior is expected to generate.

What happens when we go off script or improvising?

  • Rejection
  • Non-monogamy/Poly
  • Ace/Aro
  • Relationship anarchy 
  • Sides 
  • Sexual dysfunctions
  • Mental health/Trauma 
  • What else?

What do we do when we are off-script?

Good rules of improv? 

  • Yes, and….
  • Boundaries 
  • Acknowledge
  • Allow
  • Accommodate
  • Appreciate and….
  • Communicate!  (especially your boundaries)

 

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COL Flashback COL247-2: World Class Kisser Part Two

Good Sunday, Ladies, Gentlemen and Gender Non-Conformists. It’s Jeff and welcome to another Flashback episode this week!  Damon and Gary are away, but have no fear, because once again I didn’t forget about you. I present to you the continuation of our COL Flashback to February 2nd, 2014 – six years ago when we recorded COL247: World Class Kisser Part Two! We will see you soon on the same YouTube Channel and Podcast Feeds.  Now it’s time to hear Damon, Gary and I finish our chat with guest host Gabriel as we Flashback to COL247 Part Two!

Gabrial Majors 2In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, It’s Part Two of our chat with Mr. Gabriel Majors. We continue discussing everything and anything and came to one definitive idea: World Class Kissers Unite!

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Interview with Gabriel Majors

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COL492: LIVE Holiday Show 2018

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are live to celebrate the holidays one more time just in time for Christmas. The cubs discuss holiday gatherings and traditions, snow cream, and the fetishization of Santa Claus.

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Annual Live Holiday Show – discussion of our Hole-iday Faves; from decorations and food, to the things we look forward to, live chat questions, and of course, the fetishizing of Old Saint Nick.

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COL479: LTAK: Bootblack

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Kink! This show is about bootblacking and the cubs are joined by Ray Smith, previous NAB titleholder and recently sashed International Community Bootblack 2018. Listen in as the guys talk about what bootblacking is and learn more about this valuable service to the leather/kink community.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Work and Binging
  • Damon: Pride Night/RIP AC
  • Gary: KI Pride Night Drag
  • Ray: GLLA and work

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Let’s Talk About Kink – Bootblack

  • Bootblacking is the practice of caring for boots, shoes, and other leather apparel. While the term “bootblack” originates from the 1800s, in recent years the practice has experienced an increase in popularity in the Leather subculture. Bootblacks are commonly found in leather and leather-friendly bars, providing their services to the bars patrons. [From the online resource: The Bootblack Wiki]

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