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COL661: LoR: Queer Platonic Relationships

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss QPRs or Queer Platonic Relationships. QPRs are intimate relationships that are neither romantic nor sexual in nature. Listen in as Ed builds up the fundamentals of this different relationship dynamic and its origins and brings it up to date for modern audiences.

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Landscape of Relationships: Queer Platonic Relationships

Landscape of Relationships returns. Queer platonic relationships are our focus this month when it comes to relationships. QPRs are committed intimate relationships which are neither romantic nor sexual in nature and that differ from close friendship by having the same structure and status as a romantic relationship. The concept originates in aromantic and asexual spaces in the LGBT community. The term has begun to also be used in polyamorous communities to help describe the complex relationships.  The term “queers” social norms for defining relationships, it isn’t a friendship nor is it a romantic relationship.

Asexual (Ace)

  • “Sexual orientation where a person experiences little to no sexual attraction to anyone and/or does not experience desire for sexual contact” (aceandaros.com, 2021)

Aromantic (Aro)

  • “Romantic orientation, which describes people whose experience of romance is disconnected from normative societal expectations, commonly due to experiencing little to no romantic attraction, but also due to feeling repulsed by romance, or being uninterested in romantic relationships.” (AUREA FAQ on Aromanticism.org, 2021).  

Allosexual 

  • “Describes people who are not on the asexual spectrum. They can have any romantic orientation, including aromantic” (TAAAP.org, 2021).  

Alloromantic

  • “Described people who are not on the aromantic spectrum. They have any sexual orientation, including asexual” (TAAAP.org, 2001).

Historically speaking , QPR has been described as an “ancient practice made new again”. 

  • Boston MarriagesA Boston marriage was one in which two independent women chose to build a life and a household together, rather than marrying. 
  • Romantic FriendshipsClose but often times non-sexual relationship. Used primarily in historical contexts (e.g. Alexander Hamilton and John Laurens; Abraham Lincoln and Joshua Speed).

Zucchini 

  • Term of endearment used to describe a queerplatonic partner.  
  • Also, “squish” has been used to describe a non-romantic crush.

Amatonormativity (Elizabeth Brake)

  • The idea that everyone needs to be in a romantic relationship 
  • Hallmark movies 
  • Laws surrounding marriage 
  • Chosen families 

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COL650: WGO: May 2022

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of May. As the unofficial start to summer begins, catch up with the guys as they deal with work issues, traveling and finding the best spot for a wedding. In addition, the guys got a lot of feedback after this month with plenty of likes and comments that gave them much to discuss.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Oh, yay, hiring spree. 🙁
  • Damon:  Wedding Venues and Nashville
  • Gary: Up, Down, Sideways, and All Around

Feedback 

Facebook Likes:

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  • Robert Bruce
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  • Joseph Thompson
  • Mark D Rogers
  • Richard Humphries
  • Carlos Perez
  • Donnie Lockwood
  • Robert Prazner
  • Jason Bolton-Lambert
  • Harry Wright
  • Ruben Rios
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  • Damien Leahy
  • Louis LaBella
  • Jimm Baker
  • Brad Savage
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  • James Diele-Stein
  • Rennie Thomas
  • Mario Jimenez
  • Steven Remsing
  • Hassan Soliman
  • Jonathan A Crockett
  • Colin Ashante
  • Gonzalo Sos
  • Peter Stevenson

YouTube Subscribers:

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YouTube Comment:

  • COL647: Consent in 2022: Oan – “Jeff: “we can blame this all on the millennial.” Me: “what did I do?”
  • COL647: Consent in 2022: Berty Bertface – “You probably cover this in the show, but I believe the effect of social media on Gen Y and even worse still Gen Z, has not been a positive one. Consent or permission is absent from the younger generations. And they are having an impact in daily life. It’s the “Better to beg for forgiveness, than ask for permission” moto of Gen Z. Which is sooooo much fun, right up until you have kids, and they use it on you. Gen Z especially speak and act as though they are living permanently in a comment section, using terrible gramnar and appalling diction. They speak in an unfiltered manner, with such strong conviction that their opinion is the only one that should be heard. It’s not their fault however. Perhaps any generation that had (in certain circumstances) unrestricted access to incredible ammounts of information and disinformation all at once, in a easily digestible format, all at the touch of your fingers tips, would end up exactly the same? As well as the boldening of people’s opinions, many are far less tolerant, and far too sensitive than years past. P.C. (now wokeness) has gone haywire, and there is becoming less and less room for discourse. Internet pseudo science runs rampant in the minds of the young, who are armed only with opinions and feelings, whilst completely denying facts. Rant over, Soz.”
  • COL645: LTAS: Aging Adult Entertainers: Jonathan – “Hi guys. It’s terribly sad about Paul Reed Yinger a.k.a. Steve “Titpig” Hurley passing away as he was one of my favourite adult performers. A strong manly man who never disappointed onscreen. Like you, I often wonder about other performers who are no longer present onscreen and who I have this snapshot of in my brain but who haven’t performed in a long time now. I’m especially thinking about Will West and Ed Diamond, who specialised in bareback porn. There’s a hot scene with Titpig and Will West in a movie called Will West Raw. Then there’s Paul Morgan who did both gay and straight porn and was a prolific performer before vanishing. I guess I just want to know that these guys are out there, happy and healthy and when they leave the movie scene and aren’t heard of again, it’s almost impossible to know. Anyhow, great show and thanks for making mention of Mr. Yinger and raising the topic about ageing adult entertainers.” 
  • COL649: LOR: Red Flags, Green Flags: Oan – “Hey, so I had a question. I don’t know if Ed will ever read this but to the hosts, what would the social protocol be if you want to use the word “sir” in like a courtesy type manner while addressing a person who also happens to be in the bear (leather/bdsm/insert other category here) community?”

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Twitter Message:

  • “need some advice, my guy want to have a threesome. Not sure if I’m interested right now. how should I talk with him?”

Patreon Updates

  • BIG BEAR CUB HUGS to our Patrons! 
    • Cubsters: Charles W. 
    • Ubehrs: Dave T., Li, Michael Q, and Tim S.
    • plus our Buddies: Lloyd G., Michael V, and Zack B.

Recent Shows

  • COL646: WGO: April 2022
  • COL647: Consent in 2022
  • COL648: Voting in 2022
  • COL649: LoR: Red Flags, Green Flags

Shout Out

Obtw, previous guest Paul Lanner has an event coming up soon and would love to see you there. Visit HAH The Event.com for info for support and attending.

Also… remember when we had previous guest Joshua Pangborn from SideKick Productions on for the award winning series Skeleton Crew? Well they have a new project underway with their film “A Taste of Youth” where a fundraising campaign has been launched with Indiegogo. Consider supporting Queer Horror and Fat Positivity content by visiting A Taste of Youth.com to see how you can help make this horror feature happen.

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COL593: LTAF: Sexy

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Food. For this episode, the guys get sexy with foods that are supposed to put you in the mood. From chocolate and strawberries to celery and beets, find out which foods are aphrodisiacs or are just boosting chemicals to make you last longer.

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Let’s Talk About Food: Sexy Edition 

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COL437: Old School Bears Online

On this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we are joined by a robed Hadrian to talk about the good ole days of bears online. From sneaking onto erotic newsgroups to the dating apps of today, the cubs take a nostalgic trip through the history of a bear’s online life.  Plus we go on a bit of a tangent about supporting bear services and content.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: The Usual
  • Chester: Driving for Ubear Eats
  • Gary: one of those weeks
  • Hadrian: Work and Western Exposure

Feedback:

Facebook Likes:

  • Brian Clarke

Facebook Comment/Post:

  • Paul Allen Hobby: RE:COL436: Smokin in the Bear’s Dean: Love this episode. I smoke pipes, cigars, and cigarettes and will absolutely say cigars and pipes are for taste, smell, relaxation, and socializing, cigarettes are pure compulsion.

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Weekly Topic

Dating Sites of Yore:

  • Bearnet.net
  • Bearbook/Bruizr
  • BearCiti
  • Gay.com “Bear Room”
  • Newsgroups

Dating Sites of Current:

  • Bear411
  • BearWWW
  • BearForest
  • Squirt

Dating Sites that appear to be Rolling with the Times:

  • BiggerCity
  • Chasabl/Grommr
  • HeftyNet
  • BearUnderground

Modernization of Bears Online:

  • Facebook Groups

Dating Apps

  • GROWLr
  • Scruff

Cruising Apps

  • (defunct) Mobli
  • W Bear
  • Instagram

Porn-esque

  • Tumblr

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