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COL717: LoR: Healing Our Queer Inner Child

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss the psychological concept of the inner child. Initiating from a conversation about Bluey (who knew?), the idea of finding connections to your inner child to heal from the potential harm caused by trauma comes to the forefront in this installment. Listen in as Ed leads the guys on ways to cope with and celebrate with their inner child to bring about healing and growth.

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Landscape of Relationships: Healing Our Queer Inner Child

Our Inner Child is a self-state part of us that is still experiencing and processing emotions, thoughts, and memories from that time but also is playful, spontaneous, and creative. Erik Erikson’s stages of development suggests that we have MULTIPLE inner children/adolescent/emerging adults within us.  

Inner Child is a common topic in therapy 

  • Writing letters to your childhood self
  • Engaging in playful, creative, and spontaneous behaviors 
  • Mindfulness or meditation 

Current topic re: Inner Child “Bluey”

Queer Authenticity 

“Queer people don’t grow up as themselves, we grow up playing  a version of ourselves that sacrifices authenticity to minimize humiliation and prejudice.  The massive task of our adult lives is to unpick which parts of ourselves that are truly us and which parts we created to protect us.” -Alexander Leon

How can we heal our queer inner child?

  • First, talk to a therapist
  • Start asking yourself what you needed growing up and do that
  • Edward’s Disney adventure
  • Music
  • Concerts
  • Playing games
  • Watching cartoons
  • ….get creative!
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COLDR: S13E10: Freaky Friday Queens

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, are you seeing double? Gary and Damon are as the queens embark on the classic makeover challenge with a twist! Due to the pandemic, the gurls were charged with making each other over into their facsimiles. As the guys double down on the doppelgang realness, which queen team reigns supreme?

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

Overall Thoughts

  • [Damon] – Making Due…
  • [Gary] – Bonding and Strife

Stomp the Runway:

Category/Theme – Doppleganger Sisters

  • [Damon] – Choices Were Made. Not Necessarily Good Ones. 
  • [Gary] – Yes, Yes, Yes, Not Quite

Snaps & Eyerolls:

What was a high point and low point for you

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Psychic Tea Spilling
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Symone/Utica Doing It Right
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Why is Everything An Attack?!? 
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Kandy Being Defensive
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COLDR: S7E4: Punny or Die!

COLDRS7-Ep4In this episode of Cubs Out Loud Drag Race, Damon and Gary talk about the fourth episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 7! The guys discuss the parody music videos made by the queens. They’re green with envy (or is that disgust) about the runway. Then, the cubs dish on the hate that is showing for Pearl and Violet. Also, did Ru get it wrong?!?

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Weekly Topic

Current episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 7

First Impressions:

  • [Gary] – WTF happened?
  • [Damon] – Meh…

Thoughts on This Episode:

  • [Gary] – Ill at Ease; Conflict of Mantra. [Discuss Jasmine Masters online posts}
  • [Damon] – An Interesting Idea That Didn’t Fly; Pearl vs Miss Fame

Thoughts on Untucked:

  • [Gary] – Stage Mom Ginger Needs to Check Herself
  • [Damon] – The Hate on Violet and Pearl is Present

Cooldown Topics

Take Aways:

  • [Gary] – Ru is THE decision maker
  • [Damon] – Ru Got it Wrong!

Snaps / Eyerolls [Hits/Misses]:

  • [Gary] – Snaps for… reluctantly Katya’s runway look and stomp
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for…Violet’s lack of understanding AND… FAME FIX YOUR TAPE GUHRL!
  • [Damon] – Snaps for…Katya in “Tan With You”
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for … Ginger Stirring the Pot & the Drag U line in “I Got Paid”

Closing Thoughts:

  • [Gary] – I need a large cocktail and some antacid
  • [Damon] – Feelings on padding

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