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COL723: Jingle Mingle 3

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s a holiday fun time with our 3rd annual Jingle Mingle 3: Revenge of the Bells! This time around, the guys get a little naughty for Christmas with some fun games. Laughs, stories and more ensue as Gary leads the sleigh. Join the cubs, Drew, Joshua, Lloyd and Cubziz as they determine who is the naughtiest of them all!

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Jingle Mingle 3

The COL hosts are gathering online again for a year end social. It’s holiday themed games as we find out who’s the naughtiest!

  • Good Elf or Bad Elf
  • Holiday Most Likely 2023
  • The Naughtiest of All Volume 2
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COL716: LTAK: Hanky Code Quiz Time

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz as he quizzes them on the hanky code. From red to green and all the colors (and fabrics) in between, listen in as the cubs test their knowledge on the rainbow that is the code that guided cruising in the early days.

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Let’s Talk About Kink: Hanky Code Quiz Time

Once upon a time, kink folk used a rather colorful signal system to let others know what they were seeking and enjoyed. As time passed and culture changed, the hanky code has diminished in popularity. And since we’re cubs of a certain age, why not test our memories and see if we can recall what the various colors/patterns are when our quiz game host Cubziz put us to the test. 

Hanky Code Introduction – Article info from OnyxNortheast.Org

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COL710: LoR: Self-care

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke joins the cubs again to discuss self-care. From taking time for your personal needs to finding your stress levels minimize while out with friends, listen as the guys analyze the ins and outs of self-care. But is providing self-care selfish? Find out as Dr. Ed helps the guys learn more about it.

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Landscape of Relationships: Self-care

What is self-care?

The National Institute in Mental Health says that “self-care means taking the time to do things that help you live well and improve both your physical health and mental health. When it comes to your mental health, self-care can help you manage stress, lower your risk of illness, and increase your energy. Even small acts of self-care in your daily life can have a big impact” (NIMH, December, 2022).

Examples of self-care 

  • Exercise 
  • Eating well and hydration 
  • Regular sleep 
  • Relaxing activity 
  • Goal setting (realistic goals, I mean)
  • Gratitude 
  • Practice acceptance and mindfulness 
  • Stay connected 

What isn’t here? 

  • Important question when it comes to self-care.  Am I practicing self-care or am I avoiding something?
  • Short term discomfort for long-term gain

What does it mean to practice self-care in relationships?

Differentiation of Self

  • One of the cornerstones of Bowen family systems theory, which states that families are an emotional system.  A person’s ability to manage the relationship between individualization and togetherness determines someone’s differentiation of self.  
  • Differentiated individuals are able to manage conflict without emotional reactivity, maintain their I-state, reach compromises; whereas, undifferentiated individuals tend to fuse with others or blend their emotional state with others, or their will exhibit emotional cutoff, which is where someone will manage their own emotional process by creating emotional and physical distance with someone.  

Social Self-care 

  • No person is an island and neither are you, ok?
  • Sometimes self-care is connecting with others and working on our relationships with others. 
  • Six Hours to a Better Relationship 

Final thoughts 

  • Reach healthy differentiation of self by identifying your own needs in conjunction with your relationship needs….AND recognize, accept, and validate the individual needs of the members of your relationships.  You will do yourself and everyone else a HUGE favor.  
  • “Self-care ain’t selfish” – Adoom 
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COL708: Jeff’s BDay Happy Hour: 7-11 Edition

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s Jeff’s Birthday (well it will be any day now). And there’s no better way to celebrate than by hanging out with our Entourage. With Cisco and Charles online (and some chatty bears in the comments), the guys correlate this 11th birthday show with a popular convenience store chain. And, for your convenience, one of bears’ favorite topics is discussed: FOOD!

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That’s right, it’s Jeff’s birthday and this year we’re taking a pit stop at the local convenience store for some snacks and drinks. But there might be some debates about the items we can enjoy. But first, let’s discuss a little history about the well known international business.

Currently headquartered in Irving, Texas – it’s owned by Japanese Seven & I Holdings through Seven-Eleven Japan Co., Ltd. Founded in 1927 as an ice house storefront in Dallas. These Texas roots run deep and their 100th anniversary isn’t far off. For nearly the first 20 years they were known as Tote’m Stores because customers ‘toted’ away their purchases. The ‘7toEleven’ name change in the 1940s was used to reflect their new extended hours of 7am to 11pm all week long. And the current logo version includes the change in 1968 to utilize a lowercase ‘n’ at the end of the word ELEVEn. 

7-Eleven operates, franchises, and licenses over 78K stores in 19 countries and territories as of Nov ‘21. Did you know they have multiple names? Nationally they operate as not only 7-Eleven but also Speedway mostly in the Midwest & East Coast, and as Stripes in the South Central US. – Wikipedia posting

With that said, let’s get into some questions to consider as part of Jeff’s birthday celebration. 

Or there’s the Glazed Cheesy BBQ Meatballs?

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COL671: LTAK: Drummer Magazine Returns

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz and reminisce about the adult magazines of yore. As Drummer Magazine makes a resurgence in both print and digital forms, the cubs discuss the shift from physical materials to digital ones to fap to and whether there is an audience for it. From Honcho to American Grizzly and from BEAR to Mandate, listen in as the guys peruse their porno roots to wonder about the future.

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Let’s Talk About Kink: Drummer Magazine Returns

Once upon a time, bears, cubs, admirers and more around the world enjoyed turning the pages of hard copy print magazines until the pages stuck together. Then the internet appeared on the scene, shifting focus for where we got our smut. 2007 sees the landscape change with turning a mobile phone into this thing called a smartphone. Soon after paper pages are replaced by swiping and sexting. Over a decade after the iPhone’s debut, the once very much enjoyed Drummer Men adult magazine is coming back on the scene. Is there an audience for a ‘zine’ – be it online with a print option?

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