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COL553: LTAK: Gear Part 2

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss gear. In this second part, the cubs get into the ownership and usage of gear. From intent of the usage to safety and storage, listen as the cubs start getting deeper into the larger aspects of gear.

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Let’s Talk About Kink: Gear – Part 2

We’re joined one again by kinky boy Tony aka Cubziz for a chat about the ‘gear’ we see and experience when it comes to leather/BDSM/kink. 

  • General Terminology – see episode COL549
  • Kinds/Types/Categories – see episode COL549
    • Common
    • Social Acceptability
  • Owning/Usage
    • Storage/Cleaning
    • Safety

Part 2:

  • What’s involved in owning/using
    • The hardest part is figuring out your intent.
      • For yourself, your jollies or for others’ and/or their jollies.
      • Not always for yourself. Especially in role playing, you may not have an interest in a particular “gear” set, but they may, so your purpose is to arouse them and you enjoy the benefit, in that case.
        • But this CAN change… and frequently does. Someone who learns that they look damned hot in gear and they can get more action that way… will probably begin associating that extra sex with the gear, and thus it becomes seuxalized.
    • I mention because this will adjust the approach.
      • For yourself, being aroused by the wearing of the uniform… you may be happy with just a basic piecemeal uniform.
      • For yourself, but maybe for an image or concept of power… you may put your best into that uniform to achieve EXACTLY what you want.
        • Use Leather as an example here. I can throw a harness on or I can be dressed in full cow, both would make me a leatherman, but one is a bit more involved. Neither is more important, but today I may want a full cow attire, the next day a jock and harness are fine. But you determine your level of involvement for yourself there. (Likewise, if I’m going to a formal leather dinner, just the harness may not be acceptable in that context…)
      • Lastly, some people want it because of how it looks.
        • It isn’t necessarily a fetish, but it does get attention from others.
          • For example, this is a gear fetish item, but penis “packers” can be used as a confidence builder, showing a bit of a bulge. Even if it isn’t flesh, THEY feel better with their projection and thus enjoy it. (Even if it isn’t in a sexual way, just in a “normal” capacity.)
            • Each person determines their own purpose for the gear.
          • Cups are another example of an item that crosses between toy gear and fetish gear. Worn with a football uniform, it would be part of that uniform. Worn under a pair of tight fitting jeans… that may just be the toy gear side of things. Worn with a speedo… that might confuse people. But it could excite someone with that same fetish. 😉
    • On owning and using…
      • Before buying, determine your proper storage and cleaning.
        • Some sportsgear, for example, wrestling singlets needs to be treated better than your daily jeans.  (Never throw a singlet in with anything that has a zipper in fact, or the zippers will shred the lycra and you’ll have a billion burrs.)
        • But fireman’s attire? Pfft… Chuck that into the fastest roughest cycle in the washer and it’ll be the exact same when it comes out. It is desire to survive freaking fire after all.
      • And on storage, leather needs certain levels of conditioning and needs to stay in certain humidity levels, can’t get wet, etc.
        • Whereas a white football uniform can have grass/whatever stains and it’s acceptable. Likewise to clean you throw it into the washer with a ton of bleach. Don’t do that with your leather!
      • Safety is another factor.
        • If you want to get into football attire because you want to do tackling drills, then you probably want a full set of pads.
        • If you are wearing it to the crowded bar, you probably DON’T want the full set of pads *unless it is a uniform night where you might*.
        • Don’t wear JUST a speedo to the bar in the middle of winter. But in summer, by all means.
        • Don’t wear a ghillie suit in the hottest part of summer either. You risk your life there from overheating. (fireman gear is the same problem.)
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COL514: Trans Bear Listener

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys review some recent feedback from one of their newest audience members. This trans bear listener addresses some concerns after reviewing some of our past episodes and the comments we made. As Pride Month comes to a close, listen as the guys discuss these concerns and discuss their growth as they try to become allies to the transgender community.

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Trans Bear Listener – we talk about an email we received earlier this summer, how we feel when it comes to being an ally to trans individuals, and owning where we are today.

Hello,

New listener here, and I’d like to start off by saying sorry if this message is kinda long and rambling, I’m sure I’m mostly gonna stream of consciousness write it.

I listened to all your most recent episodes that are accessable via Google Podcasts; then I thought I should Google your podcast + Transgender, because I’ve had a couple experiences of enjoying a Thing ™️, only to find out that the people that produce it have said some really offensive stuff about trans folks. So I happy to discover that you had some episodes tagged as transgender on your site, so I could listen and get the tea. I listened to a few of them, but then for some reason your website stopped playing them, unclear if it was my phone or your site, or what, but I think I heard all the important bits.

I don’t want this to come across as a dressing down or anything like that, I really just want to educate. Mostly I wanna call back to some stuff I heard in COL388: Entourage Feedback, and COL474/475: Bear World Weekend, as well as share some of my own stories.

Most of what you guys said in 388 was on the better side of things I’ve heard, but one of the things that stood out to me was the use of the term “female genitalia”, obviously I don’t speak for all of the trans community, but one thing that holds true for me, and most trans people I know would prefer if you didn’t say things like that. To put it in the slogan-y terms, “it’s not female genitalia, I’m a man and it’s mine”, a better way to talk about it would be someone who has not had surgery, or someone with their original parts. And like tips and hints for guys who are interested in trans guys, even though you guys basically said you aren’t, just ask what he wants his junk called; obviously there’s like the most famous trans man  porn star who calls himself “a man with a pussy” but I know if you use that term with me it’s gonna be an instant turn off, I don’t want feminine terms for myself, it instantly makes me feel unsexy, but some trans guys will be totally fine with it, so best just to all whoever you’re with.

The other thing that stuck out to me in that episode was someone, sorry I don’t recall who, said they couldn’t even picture playing with a trans guy who had had bottom surgery, even if they were attracted to him, and that personally I don’t get. I haven’t had surgery, I don’t ever want to force anyone to have sex with me who doesn’t want to, and like as long as someone doesn’t go out of their way to be a fuck-stick, to call me disgusting or tell me that I’m not allowed in gay spaces or anything like that, it’s ok with me that someone may not be interested because if the equipment I’ve got. But if someone would have sex with the exact same cis dude but wouldn’t with that guys who has had bottom surgery I’m not understanding, since there are definitely trans guys that you can’t tell at all, at least until they cum.

In the episodes 474/475 it was neat to hear about the gender neutral contests, it sounded like it would also be acceptable for a trans man to compete in the Mr. Best contest, but I wanted to verify because having Cub be gender neutral is great, but the idea of mandating that trans men couldn’t compete in Mr. Bear or trans women couldn’t compete in Ms. Bear sounds bad. But also that’s not what it sounded like was happening, it just sounded like the trans man happened to be competing for Cub not that he wasn’t allowed to compete for Mr. Bear.

Anyhow, I was wondering if you’d ever thought about/sought out a trans bear to have as a guest on your show to talk about any of that?

Also in episode 388 it got brought up how important cock is to some of you. Again, that’s fine, so long as someone isn’t a total asshole to me I’m not gonna be upset over that being the case but I do have some interesting stories to tell over that. I’m a big big bear chub, or rather should probably say a big chubby pocket bear, pretty hairy, bearded, 5’7, over 300 pounds. So I know the types of guys I attract (and the types I’m into) but quite a few times I’ve had people who’ve thought they were like that and then realized when they met me, “oh having a cock isn’t nearly as important as I might have thought it was.” That’s happened many times on growlr, and Tumblr (R.I.P.) but more interestingly has happened in the midst of a hook up quite a few times. I would be playing with a hot bear who is definitely into me, but his husband/boyfriend/partner wouldn’t really be interested due to me being trans, but then in middle of fucking me he’d like shout to the other room “hon, you gotta come try this!” or boyfriend would lean in to check in on us and change his tune in being interested real quick. So again, no shade if it’s not your thing, but sometimes stuff can surprise people when they come face to face with a situation.

Cheers, 

Trans Bear

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COL416: LTAK: Consent & Respect 2 Part 1

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Kink. This time around we bring back an old topic in light of recent discussions on social media. The guys are joined by kink favorites Ms Tammy and Ches as well as Brady, Mr. North American Bear Cub 2017 and Ray, Mr. North American Bear 2016 to contemplate consent and respect. In this first part of a two-part series, the guys describe what consent is and when and how things can go wrong with it.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Farming
  • Damon: 91st BDay,  Poker and Old Friends
  • Chester: Lots of new music! Chainsmokers and Todrick Hall
  • Gary: SSDD on loop
  • Ches: FUCKING MOVING, but I still love my husband, CLAW
  • Ms. Tammy: Judging Contests, Leather Events, Mr. KY Leather, Mom and grandsons, Hammy
  • Ray: Finally taking some time from traveling
  • Brady: Travel!

Did I Do That?

Weekly Topic

Let’s Talk About Kink: Respect and Consent

Our previous episode COL314 [found here] was nearly two years ago. Some things though do not change with time…

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COL384: Title Holder Experience

col384In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, we are joined by Mr. COL Bear and Mr. NAB 2016 Ray to talk about contests, titles, contestants, and winning (or losing). What does it take to be in a contest? Listen in as the guys tally out the ins and outs of running for–and being–a titleholder.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Too Much To Do!
  • Damon: Another Puppy contest
  • Chester: Busy bee
  • Gary: When your body gets old

Weekly Topic

What experience has taught former title holders others can do to prepare for entering a title contest and then the year following a win.

Cooldown Topics

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COL284: It’s a Shady Halloween, Charlie Brown!

trick-or-treat-bear-costumesIn this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s a SHAAAAADY Halloween, Charlie Brown! The guys reminisce about their childhood Halloween memories and discuss/bitch about the way Halloween is now. We also get into costume parties, transporting, scary movies and helicopter parenting. So grab your pillowcases and flashlights and listen in.

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What’s Going On?

  • [Gary] – It’s for charity!
  • [Damon] – The Chocolates

Did I Do That?

  • [Gary] – NEW APP/SITE IDEA! GRUMBLr

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Anonymous said: I just listened to episode 251 and think you guys should ask who on the panel is your type?

Anonymous said: Have you ever had any accidents during blowjobs? What was the worst?

Anonymous said: This is with respect to the next episode: What are some nonlube, perhaps edible, things you’ve used during oral that both the giver and the receiver enjoyed? (whipped cream, syrup, etc.)

fierybiscuts said: I recently found out aboot your podcasts and they are super entertaining. I love listening to them :3

arrogator said: Hey guys. Love your podcast. We need to get together and do a video Cubs Out Loud/Underbears Podcast one of these days. 😉

Underbears Podcast: http://vimeo.com/underbears

Anonymous said: I hate to be too forward, but everytime I see Gary I find myself feeling a little flustered! Big hugs to everyone involved in the podcast!

Bear Underground comment:

Paul1313 said: I meant to say I love your shirt..thumbs up.

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Weekly Topic

Tricks are for Kids, Treats are for Adults – A comparative analysis of our views of Halloween in our adolescence versus our views upon reaching adulthood.

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  • [Gary] Please Go Home

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