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COL425: Dear Gay Men

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs (sans Chester) take some time to review a recent op-ed article addressing the use of “chubby” in the gay male lexicon. The guys give their thoughts on the issue of using certain words to describe our brethren of size. Also, Maxine Waters doesn’t have time for bullshit, road head, and eye color.

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Money Makes the World Go Round
  • Damon: Some time off

Chester’s on the road relocating from the north central plains to the heartland of Ohio

  • Gary: It ends!

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  • COL424: Greg Ballard: So much fun being on the show! Great group of guys!

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COL423: PSA: Get a Lucky Buddy!

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud,  Damon is glamping it up while the guys welcome virgin guest, Smashy! They talk about the importance of personal safety when it comes to hook ups. But are we overreacting to some idea of stranger danger? Or is there a legitimate concern when it comes to tricking; whether at home, an event, or a bath house? See if you agree with their thoughts in today’s PSA show.

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Other people’s vacations suck
  • Chester: Packing, Pokemon Go, missing D23 =(
  • Gary: The work flow is…
  • Steve: the trouble with ribfests

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  • Ches’ comment re: COL419: This is How We Genetically Role

“Identification/description in app profiles may typically get reduced to top/bottom/versatile, but it doesn’t take much to flesh things out and present a much more accurate picture of our preferences. For example, in mine, I have had the following blurb on the subject for years:

“Primarily dom/top, but will consider bottoming for suitably impressive alpha-male types and/or subbing for experienced leathermen.”

And that covers both fucking AND perverted stuff. The biggest component is honest self-examination. Everything flows from there…”

 

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  • GBearTrekker65 – Enjoying the conversation from the distinguished gentlemen of @cubsoutloud podcast in episode 422: Playspace Etiquette.
  • RevBear – @cubsoutloud just listened to the last 2 episodes, and @fyzzgiggidy is my bros gf and her handle is a combo dark crystal/family guy ref

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Evan in a COL shirt

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  • RE:422 Sigma Wolf: ​LOVE to ALL of Y’all!!! one of the few bright moments in my long week!!!

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COL422: LTAS: Playspace Etiquette

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud,  it’s another Let’s Talk About Sex! For this topic, we start the discussion about playspace etiquette. Listen in as we give the dos and don’ts about your favorite back bar space, dark room, bathhouse, frolic and mingle rooms. So, should you enter a playroom chatting on your cellphone while eating a plate of nachos?

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Back in Action/W Bear
  • Damon: Glamping Trip
  • Chester: Apt Approved, packing, and Evan’s first drive-in
  • Gary: July is here!

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  • Ches Clark SHOW NOTE [re: COL421]: I realized after the fact that I didn’t get in the whole story about my birthday dinner. (I think I cut myself off because I felt like I was monopolizing and rambling on.) That being said, I wanted to make a small addendum, especially given that I was giving someone who wasn’t present to defend himself a bit of a hard time. Brady *did* sincerely apologize for initiating the song and spectacle debacle as part of owning up to it, and had no idea beforehand that I was so vehemently opposed to that sort of public display. He truly did feel terrible about it afterward, but I was just in no mood to hear it at the time. He was just trying to be playful and funny, and so for those who might be worried about him getting “two black marks in my little book,” have no fear–most of that accounting business is tongue-in-cheek. Brady and I are very much okay with each other. Cheers!
  • Re: COL421: Greg Ballard I would love to do a co host spot someday. Love this channel! Watching right now!

 

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    • I’m looking for some movie recommendations! I’m after a movie featuring the bear/chub community. Romantic, drama, comedy – all work. Not looking for a porn flick but sex scenes are fine. I’ve heard BearCity might be a good place to start. What are some others? Maybe some ideas on the next @cubsoutloud? Thanks Tumblr folks!
  • Rotundaplomb in re: to COL420: State of the Community 2017
    • Wish I could have stayed for more of the live stream. You miss so many of Gary’s faces on the podcast version. Great list of some Pride documentaries to watch – check the show notes.
  • FirstRonin in re: to COLSP06: Daddy’s Day Storytime 2017 directed to Hadrian…
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    • Now that’s what I call a late Sunday night delight!!

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Article from Bear World Magazine website interview re: the W Bear app

Let’s Talk About Sex: Playspace Etiquette

  • You may/will be seen/watched – not possible to be invisible
  • Always be respectful
  • Consent needs to be given, whether subtle or pronounced
  • You know what is best for yourself, not anyone else
  • Keep safety in mind, yours and everyone else’s
  • Be courteous to others in the space
  • Prepare yourself; mentally and physically

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COL416: LTAK: Consent & Respect 2 Part 1

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Kink. This time around we bring back an old topic in light of recent discussions on social media. The guys are joined by kink favorites Ms Tammy and Ches as well as Brady, Mr. North American Bear Cub 2017 and Ray, Mr. North American Bear 2016 to contemplate consent and respect. In this first part of a two-part series, the guys describe what consent is and when and how things can go wrong with it.

Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Farming
  • Damon: 91st BDay,  Poker and Old Friends
  • Chester: Lots of new music! Chainsmokers and Todrick Hall
  • Gary: SSDD on loop
  • Ches: FUCKING MOVING, but I still love my husband, CLAW
  • Ms. Tammy: Judging Contests, Leather Events, Mr. KY Leather, Mom and grandsons, Hammy
  • Ray: Finally taking some time from traveling
  • Brady: Travel!

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Let’s Talk About Kink: Respect and Consent

Our previous episode COL314 [found here] was nearly two years ago. Some things though do not change with time…

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COL407: All T, No Shade: Racism & Sex

In this episode Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by two CA pups, Pup Beacon and Pup Yoshi, to continue an “All T, No Shade” episode about racism and the gay community. In part two, the guys get onto the topic of racism and sex. From marketing to porn, the guys take time to discuss issues of stereotypes and how they affect perspectives.

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Racism & Sex

Discussion points:

  • How minorities are sexualized and desexualized
    • Wanting a black man cause he has a big dick
    • A Latino cause he’s spicy
    • An Asian man because he is submissive
  • Minorities not being seen in marketing as often as white men
  • Minorities aren’t seen in porn as often as white men, and when they are…
    • Black men are thugs
    • Latinos are cholos
    • Asians are subs

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