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COL628: LoR: In-Laws

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the often dreaded in-laws. As media seems to make it seem that most straight couples have to deal with their in-laws and spouse’s families, the cubs review how this translates into the relationships of the LGBTQ+ community. Are they really that different or can similar tactics, communication and boundaries help ease the potential tension?

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Landscape of Relationships: In-Laws

Lots of research and media about how in-law relationships are really difficult.  That may be the case as some research out there says 3 out of 4 couples have difficult relationships with heterosexual in-laws.  Is that the case with same-sex relationships? 

Meeting the In-Laws

  1. Every family is different with a different rulebook that has been in creation for possibly generations.
  2. Possibility for conflictual interactions, difficult pasts, and crunchy presents.
  3. BOUNDARIES!!!!!
    1. Know your values
    2. Stay true to you.
  4. Brene Brown’s BRAVING…specifically the Generosity part.  
    1. Keep those conflict skills in check.

LGBT in-laws (2019) 400 interviews from children in law who identified as gay or lesbian.  Describe relationship with same sex in law parent.

  1. Many of those interviewed struggled with acceptance by one or both of their parents-in-law.
  2. Relationships usually improved with time
  3. While parents-in-law became increasingly accepting, there was often someone else in the family who was not accepting
  4. Acceptance by the mothers-in-law, according to the daughters-in-law, came as more of their friends and social circle either had children who were lesbian or gay, or their friends and social circle became more socially aware.
  5. Feelings of ambivalence toward family members are typical.

Be the subject of your life, not the object.  

  • You become an adult child the moment you set boundaries with your family (and in-laws).
  • What do YOU want to do with your partner in relation to each other’s families?
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COL559: ATNS: A Whole New Pride

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs bring back a forgotten topic thread from their history. Grab your teacups as it’s time for another All T, No Shade show! As we approach the halfway point of the year 2020, the cubs spill the tea on the hell of a ride it has been so far. From the coronavirus causing Pride celebrations to become virtual parades to the bringing of the racial and systemic issues in the US, listen as the guys have a no holds barred, frank discussion on the half-year of unprecedented circumstances.

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2020 isn’t even half way over just yet and it’s been a helluva ride so far. We talk about the changing face of Pride during COVID-19. From Virtual Pride to Black Lives Matter, nobody’s 2020 bingo card could have prepared us for this. 

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COL418: Handsome vs Sexy

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by Ray to discuss a recent phenomenon; the ever increasing debate of being called “handsome” and being called “sexy”. From online dating to social apps, the guys chime in our their thoughts on what being complimented with these (and other) words means to them. Also, the cubs look at how accepting the compliment can have some positive and negative consequences.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Don’t You Know That It’s Hot, Hot, Hot
  • Damon: Reliving old stories
  • Chester: Post Tidal Wave/WDW & US w/ Evan
  • Gary: It’s betting busy
  • Ray: Taking care of Big Junk and Company

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“Handsome” Vs “Sexy”

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COL370: Vacations and Summertime Stuff

COL370In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s almost summer and the guys are looking back on some of their favorite vacations. From Disneyland to Portland and everywhere in between, the cubs reminisce about trips gone by. Plus, we take some time to discuss our favorite summertime activities.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Japanese v American
  • Damon: Whole Foods
  • Gary: X-Men, again

Weekly Topic

  • From Chester: Question(s) for the hosts! Two part question: What’s your favorite vacation you have ever been on? What made it so special?
  • Preferred Summertime Activities

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