In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke is back to broach the topic of sex after 50. As one of the hosts is approaching this milestone, Ed addresses and discusses the potential changes to one’s sex drive as they cross that age. From sexual health to sexual desire, listen as the guys boil down what you need to be aware of as you cross over that hill.
Show Topic
Landscape of Relationships: Sex After 50
Welcome to Your 50s!
Lots of people have healthy and active sexual lives at all stages of life. That being said, here are some aspects of your sexuality that MIGHT change.
Sexual Health
“The World Health Organization defines sexual health as a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence.”
Regular doctors visits; talk to your doctor about your sexual health; bring a list of questions/comments/concerns helps
Colonoscopy and prostate cancer screenings
Maintain activity levels
Sexual Desire
We aren’t 16 anymore
Medical conditions, lifestyle, mood, hormone levels, medication
Spontaneous vs responsive desire
Possible adapt a sexual willingness mindframe
Erectile Dysfunction
Age doesn’t cause ED, but natural aging and illness can impact sexual response
ED is a biopsychosocial phenomenon with biological, physical, psychological, behavioral, emotional, and cognitive factors AS WELL AS identity, relationally (interpersonal and socially), and intimate factors.
Erections are not required for ejaculations or orgasms
Talk to your provider. Again, talk to your provider.
Medication and treatment options
Communication
”Adult sex is interpersonal” – McCarthy and Metz
Maintaining sexual intimacy is key; adapting a flexible sexual relationship
Creating
So remember,
Your sexual experience MAY change as you gets older
In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, it’s the Grand Finale and the guys are LIVE! Gary and Damon get it twisted and do a live reaction watch-thru of the season finale. As the guys watch the final four celebrate their country with some line dancing and singing, which All Star snatches the crown in the final lap?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of August. For this month, the cubs discuss birthday booboos, visits from family and friends, and colonoscopies. As the guys head into the final third of the year, listen in as their lives continue along similar lines due to the pandemic. Also, did somebody say “thicc”?
What’s Going On?
Jeff: Happy Birthday Boo Boos, and more of the same.
Damon: Family Visit/Gaming/Lots of YouTube
Gary: Busy month, how the hell is it September???
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Re: COL567: Power Hour 8 – Oan R. – “Just thought about this just now, but like at the ends or when anybody leaves, y’all should like do a cheers with the shot glasses or the bottles or whatever you have. Always good to send people off.” Oan R. commented: “And now for my rundown of my favorite parts from this video.And now for my rundown of my favorite parts from this video. . In no particular order: – Josh taking his shirt off – Gary taking his shirt off and the millisecond of his nipple screen time. – Ed showing off his tattoos (they coo. Also, he has pierced nipples. That’s hot.) – Smashy taking his pants off (I mean…yeah. That was hot.) – The birthday bear taking his shirt off (yeah, pretty hot) – that one time everybody was talking about watches and I made a joke. Cause that was coo.”
Re: COL567: Power Hour 8 – Fruit Flake – Y’all all looking cute as hell
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs are getting OLD! With Jeff’s 40th birthday coming soon, all of the COL hosts will be 40 and up. So, if they are getting old, can they really call themselves “cubs” anymore? Listen in as the guys reminisce on their aged experiences and discuss the good and bad about getting older in the LGBTQ+ community.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On episode for the month of June. This time around, the guys talk about butt stuff, and dungeons, and sexual positions and more….Wait, is this an episode of Let’s Talk About Kink? Not really.
What’s Going On?
Jeff: Night Shift & Dragons
Damon: Job News & Colonoscopy & Yesterday
Gary: New Stuff is Rough
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Gents,
Thank you all for doing this show. I so greatly respect your willingness to be public and open about your learning and growth; it’s not easy. The trans community is so important to me (a close partner is trans, long story), and I’m always so happy to see continued growth in the acceptance and support of our trans siblings. More learning for me too.
Some thoughts that crossed my mind while listening:
I think Jeff had a great idea; more trans porn! Lots of learning (up close and personal) to be had with more porn. No harm, lots of education, no one feeling under the microscope.
I think a guest on the show to talk more about the trans experience is a great idea. And while I love Hadrian, I feel like despite his breadth of experience (no shade!), it should really be a trans-masculine bear to discuss it in more depth.
A podcast recently came out called Two Headed Girl, where a trans-masculine person discusses a lot of issues around their transition. The two hosts are great. Might not be the kind of focused piece that’s helpful but it’s a wonderfully personal show.
Anyway, just random listener thoughts. Thanks again for keeping me company.
Best,
/Chris G
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Next on COL – episode 3133 (50 years from now in 2069) We will hear Hadrian read from his latest short story titled “Get off my lawn and get into my Craftmatic Adjustable Bed!”
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke is back to broach the topic of sex after 50. As one of the hosts is approaching this milestone, Ed addresses and discusses the potential changes to one’s sex drive as they cross that age. From sexual health to sexual desire, listen as the guys boil down what you need to be aware of as you cross over that hill.
