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COL690: LTAS: Now That We’re Older

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the cubs show their age and reveal what has or hasn’t changed regarding sex. From growing pains to changing stigmas, the guys share their feelings about what is different for them from sex in their 20s to sex as they approach 50 and beyond.

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LTAS: Now That We’re Older

As we’ve aged out of our 20s and 30s, how have things changed for us when it comes to sex? Are we falling in lock step with stereotypes? Or is this a natural occurrence? What does getting older mean in general when it comes to sexual activities?

COL654: LTAS: Awakening

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. For this episode, the cubs go way back and discuss their sexual awakenings. Whether it was their first time or their best time, the guys reminisce on that joyous time they discovered themselves as sexual beings. From the birds to the bees, listen in as they share their moments when they figured out what’s going on down there.

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Lets Talk About Sex: Awakening

The hosts discuss when they discovered personal sexual awakenings many years ago. 

Urban Dictionary lists Sexual Awakening as: The first time in a person’s life in which they experience a euphoric feeling and desire to be physically intimate with someone.

Sexual Awakening can be defined as when you finally become one with your original essence, your primal energy, and you know your sexual organs.

 

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COL653: WGO: June 2022

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of June. As Pride Month comes to a close, the guys colorfully express their goings-on. From celebrating pride at home to hitting the festivals and parades, the cubs are learning just how aged they have become.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff:  WFH, Hybrid, and Internet Issues
  • Damon: Pride Concert/Pride Festival/Heated! 
  • Gary:  Pride, Pride, and Work

Feedback 

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  • COL651: LTAS: Internet Security – Tony B: “Adorkable? I resemble that comment!”
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  • Paul Lanner loved our post – “Hey all! Previous guest Paul Lanner has an event coming up soon and would love to see you there. Check out the info below and head to https://www.hahtheevent.com/ for more information about attending.”

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  • BIG BEAR CUB HUGS to our Patrons! 
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Recent Shows

  • COL650: WGO: May 2022
  • COL651: LTAS: Internet Security
  • COL652: ATNS: Pride in 2022

Reminders: previous guest Paul Lanner has an event coming up soon and would love to see you there. Visit HAH The Event.com for info for support and attending.

Previous guest Joshua Pangborn from SideKick Productions has a new project underway with their film “A Taste of Youth” where a fundraising campaign has been launched with Indiegogo. Consider supporting Queer Horror and Fat Positivity content by visiting A Taste of Youth.com to see how you can help make this horror feature happen.

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COL601: Landscape of Relationships: FWB

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this installment, the cubs share their thoughts on FWBs, otherwise known as friends with benefits. What are the building blocks of this type of relationship and how do you make it work? And, what exactly are the benefits?

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Landscape of Relationships: Friends With Benefits

Is a friendship a relationship????

  • Thoughts?
  • Many cultures define friendships as a very important relationship
    • LGBTQ community- “chosen family”
  • Atlantic 2020 article that discussed the cultural and historical importances of friendships

The relationship escalator

A set of societal expectations for intimate relationships.  Partners follow a set of progressive set of steps, each with clear markers, with a goal in mind.

  • Making contact / Flirting
  • Initiation 
  • Claiming and defining 
  • Establishment 
  • Commitment 
  • Merging 
  • Conclusion 
  • Legacy

What does the science say about FWB relationships?

  • In 2017, 171 University of Denver students (more women than men) were surveyed on sexual satisfaction, commitment and trust of FWB relationships
  • Big takeaways? *drumroll please* communication and setting healthy boundaries
  • They found sexual satisfaction was important but so was sacrificing for the good of the partner, and not looking for the next best thing.
  • Why?  Lots of research is looking at young adults who are in school.  Romantic relationships are oftentimes an added stressor that takes away from studying.  Some students opt for FWB arrangements to reduce overall stress.  

How to make a “friendship with benefits” work.

  • FWBs are supposed to decrease pressure, not add pressure.  
  • You need to be friends in order to call it a FWB.  Those take time, trust, shared history, etc. 
  • Must be mutually beneficial and convenient 
  • If the FWB ends, you are allowed to be upset.  
  • It’s confusing to try to develop friendship founded on a sexual relationship guided by a rule system that has to be invented as you go. Or, when you’re trying to force a friendship so that you can add sex as a benefit, where does the friendship part fit in? That’s putting the benefits before the friendship.”
  • “Sexual exploration can and often does become a part of an existing friendship between consenting people. Or you may have been in a romantic and/or sexual relationship with this person earlier in your life, but now it’s morphed into a friendship. In such circumstances, the sexual connection may remain, or may be reintroduced. But the common thread is the history between you, the investment you share in the friendship, and the trust that has formed. You recognize that you both enjoy the chemistry, but that you may not be as compatible emotionally as you are sexually. It’s a mutually understood experience. The connection you have as friends determines whether this time in your life and in your relationship is right to be sharing benefits.”

Tips for Having a FWB relationship that isn’t a mess

  • Make sure you can handle the emotional complexities 
  • Define “friend” and “benefit” and make sure the other person is on the same page
  • Don’t start an FWB with someone who wants something more
  • Transparency with each other’s sexual history
  • FWB’s and Fuck Buddies are two different things
  • FWB relationships are about respect and boundaries
  • Prioritize the friendship over the benefits

 

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COL594: The D&D Resurgence

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys get their nerd on! The cubs geek out as they discuss the uptick in people actively playing in tabletop RPGs, specifically D&D. From Critical Role to Dungeons & Daddies, listen in as the guys roll the dice on this classic phenomenon getting a new renaissance in the digital age.

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D&D is said to be the start of modern role-playing games and the role-playing game industry. 

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