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COL644: LoR: Intimacy & Arousal

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode we discuss Intimacy and Arousal. We let you in on the secret of the types and levels of intimacy and work the runway of arousal.

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Landscape of Relationships: Intimacy & Arousal

Intimacy 

David Shnarch – “Intimacy is knowing who you are and letting someone in on the secret.”

Types of Intimacy 

  • Sexual
  • Emotional
  • Intellectual 
  • Aesthetic
  • Creative
  • Recreational
  • Work
  • Crisis
  • Commitment 
  • Conflict 
  • Communication
  • Spiritual 
  • Celebration
  • Physical 

Good Intimacy Tool 

Levels of Intimacy 

  • Safe communication
  • Other’s opinions and beliefs
  • Personal opinions and beliefs
  • Me feelings and experiences 
  • My needs, emotions, and desires

Example: Farting stage of a relationship 

Arousal 

  • Physical response to stimuli 

Problem 

  • Experiential avoidance

The Arousal Runway 

  • Psychological arousal 
  • Face-to-face arousal (role place a sexy scene)
  • Side-by-side (listening to a erotic story, watching ethical porn)

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“Our fantasies are our allies”

“Fantasies are fantasies”

People have sex within the limits of their sexual development. We stick to having sex in familiar ways that keep us comfortable. Having sex beyond your sexual development creates anxiety and makes you nervous. Mastering this anxiety is how you become a sexually mature adult.” – David Shnarch

Wrap Up

  • Intimacy is important for arousal in relationships
  • Shame and guilt can negatively impact intimacy and arousal 
  • Take baby steps
  • Explore your fantasies….they might be the doorway to some great experiences 
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COL512: What is… PRIDE?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys present their second installment of the “What is…” series. In honor of the 50th Anniversary of the Stonewall riots, the guys break down Pride, this thing we do in June. From its beginnings as an activist movement to the festivals and parades, listen as the cubs talk about what Pride has become.

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What is…PRIDE?

Discussion of what ‘PRIDE’ means in 2019. It’s been nearly 50 years since the Stonewall Riots, one of the events that launched the modern LGBTQ rights movement. Is pride about advocacy? What of activism? And what if you’re not proud?

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COL509: Are We Selling Out?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys engage in a conversation on a tough question: Are we as a community “selling out”? With Pride Month coming soon as well as the 50th Anniversary of the Stonewall riots, the cubs ask some hard hitting questions. Have we become complacent with the recent wins in the LGBT movement and that we have started to become mainstream? Who is educating our youth of the struggles and has this lack of education affecting their engagement?

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For decades, the LGBTQIA community has been working to gain equality. In light of the political climate here in the United States, are we selling out? Have we moved away from our roots of activism, advocacy, fight?

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COL494: 2018 Year in Review

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys start the new year with a review of 2018. The cubs share some stats of how the show did as well as giving some insight on how they felt 2018 went for them. From highs and lows and all that’s in between,  find out what happened for the guys in 2018 and what they are looking forward to in 2019.

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Reviewing the Year that was 2018 for the podcast and our lives.

The Numbers:

  • Episodes:
    • 50 public COL episodes released
    • 4 Patreon Only episodes released
    • 25 COLDR episodes released
  • Social Media:
    • 186 New Tumblr followers  [472 total]
    • 52 New Instagram followers [178 total]
    • 105 New Twitter followers  [551 total]
  • YouTube
    • 14,115 Views
    • 142 Likes
    • 5,427 Comments
    • 100 Subscribers [yes, exactly 100 even…lol]

Most popular video on YouTube:

[most viewed ever = COL280: LTAS: Digital Release w/ 4,038 views – up 700+ from last year]

Most Downloaded Podcast (per Podtrac):

Launched Patreon in March of 2018, kicking off with COL456: Flagging

Favorite COL Episode in 2018

Things You’ll Remember Most About 2018

  • Jeff: Sonnet and Family
  • Damon: Work Changes
  • Gary: The Highs and Lows [from being busy to having way too much time]

Things Looking Forward to in 2019

  • Jeff: Not being tired all the time
  • Damon: Destressing and Focusing on Personal Health/Turning 40
  • Gary: Getting Back to Basics

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COL246: Cubs Out Loud Presents the FMK’s

steak1On this week’s episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs play a twist on the Fuck Marry Kill game in celebration of our sixth anniversary. It’s a meaty conversation guaranteed to make you happy, so turn up your volume, COL246 starts now.

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What’s Going On?

  • [Damon] – Theater!!
  • [Eric] – Snowed In
  • [Gary] – GPC Fun

Eric’s Book Nook:

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Cubs Out Loud 6th Year Anniversary

Fuck, Merry, Kill – Each pick a sex toy, something that makes us happy, and our favorite meat dish.

[Jeff]

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[Damon]

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[Gary]

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  • Merry – Hanging out with friends and laughing
  • Kill – Scotch Eggs

[Eric]

I’ll Tumbl For You:

Fill My Hole:

Links:

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