In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss gear. In this fourth part, the guys discuss headspace and how it can relate to gear. From placing you in the proper role to play to enhancing your personal play, learn more on what headspace is and where it can come from.
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Let’s Talk About Kink: Gear – Part 4
We’re joined one again by kinky boy Tony aka Cubziz for a chat about what is headspace and how ‘gear’ adds we see and experience when it comes to leather/BDSM/kink. Previously we discussed…
General Terminology – see episode COL549
Kinds/Types/Categories – see episode COL549
Common
Social Acceptability
Owning/Usage – see episode COL553
Intent – what it does for you vs others
Storage/Cleaning
Safety
Acquiring Items – see episode COL557
Purchasing/Using
Building an Inventory
Where to Locate
Headspace
Definition – by Merriam Webster: [informal] mind-set, frame of mind
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of August. As things heat up before the end of summer, listen as the guys tell us about their mostly busy month. From class teaching to bear events and more on the horizon, the cubs bring us up to date before fall sets in.
What’s Going On?
Jeff: The Calm
Damon: WBW, CMCB, & SOSWOH
Gary: Busier than before
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COL613: Landscape of Relationships: New Relationship Energy
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this installment, the cubs share their thoughts on FWBs, otherwise known as friends with benefits. What are the building blocks of this type of relationship and how do you make it work? And, what exactly are the benefits?
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Landscape of Relationships: Friends With Benefits
Is a friendship a relationship????
Thoughts?
Many cultures define friendships as a very important relationship
LGBTQ community- “chosen family”
Atlantic 2020 article that discussed the cultural and historical importances of friendships
A set of societal expectations for intimate relationships. Partners follow a set of progressive set of steps, each with clear markers, with a goal in mind.
In 2017, 171 University of Denver students (more women than men) were surveyed on sexual satisfaction, commitment and trust of FWB relationships
Big takeaways? *drumroll please* communication and setting healthy boundaries
They found sexual satisfaction was important but so was sacrificing for the good of the partner, and not looking for the next best thing.
Why? Lots of research is looking at young adults who are in school. Romantic relationships are oftentimes an added stressor that takes away from studying. Some students opt for FWB arrangements to reduce overall stress.
FWBs are supposed to decrease pressure, not add pressure.
You need to be friends in order to call it a FWB. Those take time, trust, shared history, etc.
Must be mutually beneficial and convenient
If the FWB ends, you are allowed to be upset.
“It’s confusing to try to develop friendship founded on a sexual relationship guided by a rule system that has to be invented as you go. Or, when you’re trying to force a friendship so that you can add sex as a benefit, where does the friendship part fit in? That’s putting the benefits before the friendship.”
“Sexual exploration can and often does become a part of an existing friendship between consenting people. Or you may have been in a romantic and/or sexual relationship with this person earlier in your life, but now it’s morphed into a friendship. In such circumstances, the sexual connection may remain, or may be reintroduced. But the common thread is the history between you, the investment you share in the friendship, and the trust that has formed. You recognize that you both enjoy the chemistry, but that you may not be as compatible emotionally as you are sexually. It’s a mutually understood experience. The connection you have as friends determines whether this time in your life and in your relationship is right to be sharing benefits.”
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys get into a really hard subject: what turns them on and what turns them off.. So, if a suited, bearded daddy bear is your turn on or a smelly, unkempt cock is your turn off, you’ll hear about it and so much more. The cubs also include some feedback from the COL Entourage.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Sex. For this one, the guys get to the bottom of some BFFs (bottom friendly foods). The cubs drop some knowledge on what one should consume when they want to play catcher. Which foods made the list? Pull out your squatty potty and find out.
To Jeff: curvesandcrevices: Just wanted to say thanks for your work on COL. I’m really appreciating the “after dark” on the podcast featuring the pre-show recordings. You all are so affable and it’s great fun. Best, /C
Urban Dictionary with Gary
Dutch Rudder: Having someone complete the act of masturbation by pulling up and down on the forearm, while the male holds his own penis.
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Let’s Talk About Sex series – Bottom Friendly Foods
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss gear. In this fourth part, the guys discuss headspace and how it can relate to gear. From placing you in the proper role to play to enhancing your personal play, learn more on what headspace is and where it can come from.
