In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs turn on the TV and get into a discussion about bears in the media today. The guys ponder the question about bear representation in films, TV and more and how it has changed over the years. Are there still stigmas about hirsute chubby men or have we become “mainstream”? Tune in as the cubs share their feelings on the subject while waxing nostalgia about bearish actors of yore.
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Bears in Entertainment Media Today
Given the changes in the media landscape over the past decades, is there any bear representation today? Do we continue to see fatphobia in the entertainment media, especially when it comes to men regardless of their self-identified sexual orientation? Has the bear community peaked in the media as the broader LGBTQ+ family continues integrating into the broader world society?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Damon is away this week celebrating his birthday, but have no fear dear listeners – because Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke has returned! From scripts to relationship values, the guys discuss determining what each of us wants and needs.
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Landscape of Relationships: Relationship Anarchy
Landscape of Relationships is back with Dr. Angelini-Cooke to discuss the topic of Relationship Anarchy. Who doesn’t love disorder in their connections with others? Perhaps that isn’t what it means. Let’s learn together!
The term Relationship anarchist (also commonly called RA) was coined by Ardie Nordgren. Nordgren created the Instructional Manifesto for Relationship Anarchy in 2006. The Manifesto is a quick and easy read consisting of 9 principles of RA:
Love is abundant, and every relationship is unique
Love and respect instead of entitlement
Find your core set of relationship values
Heterosexism is rampant and out there, but don’t let fear lead you
Build for the lovely unexpected
Fake it til’ you make it
Trust is better
Change through communication
Customize your commitments
“Relationship anarchy is a way of approaching relationships that rejects any rules and expectations other than the ones the involved people agree on. This approach ‘encourages people to let their core values guide how they choose and craft their relationship commitments rather than relying on social norms to dictate what is right for you,” Dedeker Winston, co-host of the Multiamory podcast
Relationship Anarchists is different and distinctive from polyamory and consensual non-monogamy because while a majority of RA practitioners may be poly and/or CNM, you can be monogamous and still practice RA.
This is in line with our last LOR topic of amatonormativity. Many ace and aro individuals are using RA as a way to navigate their relationships and future relationships, because RA can apply to any and all types of relationships, not just romantic or sexual. There is no hierarchy.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About…Well, actually, the guys bring back COL Movies for a bit to discuss the movie “Bros”. Talked up as the first mainstream LGBT rom-com, listen in as the cubs share their thoughts on the film, its hype and the recent uproar it has received from fans and critics alike. Does it live up to expectations or is it just another gay movie?
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LTA… BROS (film)
Hollywood made the first ever ‘mainstream’ all LGBTQ romantic comedy, BROS. Opening weekend box office numbers did not match expectations/hopes. Opinions abounded online with digital finger pointing. Having seen the film, what do we think are the ups and downs of this movie? Did it meet our expectations? Do we care about it much?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Sex! We are joined by special guest Hadrian to talk about choking the chicken, spanking the monkey, and making baby butter, otherwise known as masturbation and handjobs. From its humblest beginning as a guy’s first sexual experience to its usage in the sex game. Listen and watch as we lend a hand to this touchy subject.