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COL607: What’s Going On – June 2021

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of June. From celebrating pride to celebrating love, the cubs get us up to date on the month of marriage and LGBTQIA+ festivities. As the world begins to return to a sense of normalcy after COVID, listen in as the guys divulge their summer fun plans.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Role Shift/One brings shadow, one brings light
  • Damon: Anniversary Love/Gaming Routine/CMC Pride
  • Gary: The ‘race’ to ‘normal’

Urbandictionary

Gouinage – French term meaning having sex without penetration. Usually just achieving orgasm during foreplay, but can also involve masturbation and oral sex. Formerly used only with lesbians but can also be applied to gay sex, obviously.

I was with a guy yesterday that didn’t want any penetration, was only into gouinage!

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Recent Shows

  • COL603: WGO – May 2021 
  • COL604: Landscape of Relationships: Apologies
  • COL605: ATNS: 2021 LGBTQIA Pride – Parts 1: Corporations
  • COL606: ATNS: 2021 LGBTQIA Pride – Parts 2: Kink

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COLDR: AS5E02: I’m In Love!

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon express their feelings as the All Star queens sing and dance along to a bubbly, lovely tune. As the gurls are challenged to write lyrics for and create choreography to a pop love track, listen as the guys discuss their…well, choices. Along with a skin-sational runway, find out which queens Gary and Damon fell in love with and who gets kicked to the curb.

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race All Stars Season 5

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

“I’m in Love!” Trios Original Song Maxi Challenge

  • [Damon] – Meh…
  • [Gary] – Shea honey child…

Stomp the Runway:

Love the Skin You’re In

  • [Damon] – Choices
  • [Gary] – Oh my…very interesting

Lip Sync for Your Legacy:

Bottom Two, Uh Three:  India Ferrah, Mariah Paris Balenciaga, and Ongina 

The Top Queen is. . . Shea Couleé

The Lip Sync Assassin is. . . Alyssa Edwards 

“Neutron Dance” by The Pointer Sisters 

  • [Damon] – Beautimuss! 
  • [Gary] – Rigor Morris Guhrl!

Ongina sashays away

Snaps & Eyerolls:

What was a high point and low point for you

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… SLAY Coulee  
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Shea Filets
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for…Ru’s Dress
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… “The Drama”

 

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COL540: The Landscape of Relationships – Part 2

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke for an in depth discussion on relationships. For this second part, the guys delve into boundaries and rules. With Edward’s help, the cubs discuss the similarities and differences between these two terms, how they relate to each person and those involved in the relationship, and also discord on the potential minefield of expectations. How do we set our boundaries? Are expectations a good or a bad thing? What’s on your relationship checklist? The guys hash out these questions and more.

Show Topic

The Landscape of Relationships – Boundaries and Rules

Boundaries (“I Will/I Won’t”) v. Rules/Agreements/Expectations (“You/We Won’t”)

  • debated topic within relationship communities 
  • Is this a rule or a boundary?
    • Boundary as skin metaphor (protects us from bacteria, allows the good stuff in and sweats the bad stuff out, elastic with limitations [you can break skin], boundaries are about me
    • Rules are about us and you, jealousy, usually some form of control 
  • Pros and Cons of Rules 
    • Pros:
      • Contracts 
      • Establishing or Re-establishing solid foundation of connection and intimacy
      • Conditional…not unilateral or controlling
      • Spoken
    • Cons:
      • Can be Controlling
      • Can be rigid and unhealthy
      • Can be Set up to be broken 
      • Unspoken
  • Agreements are similar to the idea of a relationship contract or vows 
  • Expectations are resentments waiting to happen

Kinds of Personal Boundaries 

  • Emotional 
    • Example: Don’t go to the hardware store for bread
  • Physical
    • Examples: allergies, personal bubble, DON’T COME INTO MY ROOM, MOM!!!!
  • Time
    • Examples: don’t make plans within 24 hours, I have office hours on Tuesdays
  • Sexual
    • Examples: Consent, Refer to checklist
  • Intellectual 
    • Examples: Agree to disagree, awareness of who and what you are talking about 
  • Material 
    • Examples: Don’t lend out money, I need that sling back by Friday etc

Open-Relationship Checklist 

  • Fill this out separately for you, not your partner 
    • Find out your boundaries first THEN discuss your partner’s THEN discuss how they overlap or don’t overlap

Review:

  • Communication 
  • Boundaries are like skin 
  • You Don’t Have to Be In an Open Relationship to Discuss Boundaries!!!!!

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COL419: This Is The Way We Genetically Role

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs are joined by our SCIENCE expert, Mr. (soon to be Dr.) Cisco, to talk about a recent Jezebel article indicating that you may be  born a bottom? Cisco breaks down the facts and figures and gives the guys the bottom line. Also, Chester is on assignment drinking around the world.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Diabloing
  • Damon: CMC/Being Low Key
  • Gary: The challenge of PRIDE
  • Cisco: “Job” at UTHSC in Memphis, I am a US resident, visiting hometown after 6.5 years, new furry baby, about to finish internship and become a doctor, still no balloon ride.

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  • Hit Me Baby One More Time!

Weekly Topic

Discussion of a recent study about genetics/biology and our sexual role.

Cooldown Topics

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COL336: ‘My Three Way Relationship’

COL336In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs have an interview with Jeff Leavell, writer of the Vice article we presented in a previous episode. We take time to discuss Jeff’s relationships and get an intimate portrait of the life he has made with Alex and Jon.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff – Nothing.
  • Damon – My Birthday
  • Gary – NO PSL Mess Ups

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Re: COL333: LTAK: Chastity

Randall Stratton: great episode…as always

Urbandictionary with Gary

threesome – every man’s dream

Billy Bob’s only desire before he passed away, was to participate in a threesome.

Weekly Topic

Interview with Jeff Levell

Cooldown Topics

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