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COL640: LoR: Chosen Family

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, Damon is on assignment in Detroit, Michigan and will fill us in on his experience in a future episode while Jeff and Gary chat with Edward about what is a chosen family. From our origins to the aunties, cousins, sisters, and brothers we choose, the LGBTQ community has developed its own families. But are they still needed today?

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Landscape of Relationships: Chosen Family

Rina Sawayama and Elton John (2021)

Where do I belong?

Tell me your story and I’ll tell you mine

I’m all ears, take your time, we got all night

Show me the rivers crossed, the mountains scaled

Show me who made you walk all the way here

Settle down, put your bags down

(Ooh) You’re alright now

We don’t need to be related to relate

We don’t need to share genes or a surname

You are, you are

My chosen, chosen family

So what if we don’t look the same?

We been going through the same thing

Yeah, you are, you are

My chosen, chosen family

What is a Chosen Family?

  • “chosen families are nonbiological kinship bonds, whether legally recognized or not, deliberately chosen for the purpose of mutual support and love.
  • Families We Choose: Lesbians, Gays, Kinship, cultural anthropologist Kath Weston defines chosen family as consisting of “friends, partners and ex-partners, biological and non-biological children, and others who provide kinship support.”
  • The term originated within the LGBTQ community and was used to describe early queer gatherings like the Harlem Drag Balls of the late nineteenth century.
  • Movies like Paris is Burning, shows like Pose as well as RENT highlighted the concept of chosen families 
  • Often times a protective factor against forms of discrimination and violence at home and helps create positive and, hopefully, secure, attachments with others.

Chosen Families and COVID

 People Need Paid Leave Policies That Cover Chosen Family 

  • Last year, New York City began allowing workers to use paid time off to care for anyone they personally define as family, whether they’re “related by blood or affinity.” In doing so, NYC joined other major metropolises like Chicago, San Francisco, and St. Paul, MN, as well as states like Arizona and Rhode Island, in honoring non-biological kinship.

Chosen Family by Them 

  • A list of articles/blogs that include content on the topic of Chosen Families 
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COLDR: S9E09: Your Pilots On Fire

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, the gang is joined by extra special guest Brady to talk about the most recent episode of RuPaul’s Drag Race. It’s TV pilots and Club Kid couture and enough twists and turns to leave you gagging for breath. Plus, an elimination so shocking, the guys barely mask their emotions.

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RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 9 Episode 9

Thoughts on This Episode:

  • [Gary] – Two things:
    • 1) All the BS aside, Club Kids to the Main Stage!
    • 2) Emotional Rollercoaster [bored, annoyed, frustrated, slightly amused, bewildered, confused, appeased, unsure, perplexed, gagged, mystified, and ultimately mournful]
  • [Damon] – One of the best episodes of the season
  • [Chester] – Entertaining and gag worthy
  • [Brady] – Hypocrisy in abundance.

Thoughts on Untucked:

  • [Damon] – Misconceptions (thanks internet)
  • [Chester] – Shea has some amazing words of advice…
  • [Brady] – Nina. We shall discuss. I have notes.
  • [Gary] – Nerves on Edge & the predicted Crash and Burn

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Takeaways:

  • [Chester] – Confidence vs. Cocky: know your shit/Manufactured
  • [Brady] – Katya/Alaska?/Where the fuck did that robe come from?
  • [Gary] – Ru voiced the T inside so many heads
  • [Damon] – It only takes one fall to break a leg

Snaps / Eyerolls:

  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Runway looks & shoutout to Alexis
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… guest judges who?? & 6Ps were missed
  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Peppermint’s Club Kid/Gaywatch
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… You know what I’m gonna eyeroll
  • [Chester] –  Snaps for… Shea/Sasha Redux
  • [Chester] – Eyerolls for… Sasha runway, snorefest
  • [Brady] – Snaps for… The Deadpool of Drag [Chester’s Couture pic vs Shea’s Runway Look]
  • [Brady] – Eyerolls for…Alexis

Closing Thoughts:

  • [Damon] – You don’t always get a 2nd chance
  • [Chester] – Nothing to add
  • [Brady] – Predictions.
  • [Gary] – The final four are predicted?

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COL416: LTAK: Consent & Respect 2 Part 1

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Kink. This time around we bring back an old topic in light of recent discussions on social media. The guys are joined by kink favorites Ms Tammy and Ches as well as Brady, Mr. North American Bear Cub 2017 and Ray, Mr. North American Bear 2016 to contemplate consent and respect. In this first part of a two-part series, the guys describe what consent is and when and how things can go wrong with it.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Farming
  • Damon: 91st BDay,  Poker and Old Friends
  • Chester: Lots of new music! Chainsmokers and Todrick Hall
  • Gary: SSDD on loop
  • Ches: FUCKING MOVING, but I still love my husband, CLAW
  • Ms. Tammy: Judging Contests, Leather Events, Mr. KY Leather, Mom and grandsons, Hammy
  • Ray: Finally taking some time from traveling
  • Brady: Travel!

Did I Do That?

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Let’s Talk About Kink: Respect and Consent

Our previous episode COL314 [found here] was nearly two years ago. Some things though do not change with time…

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COL298: Hostful News Updates

COL298In this episode Cubs Out Loud, we bring you special news bulletins. It’s just the hosts this time around and we share a sampling of recent articles we found online. From boner fitness and butt loving to the potential dangers of poppers, the cubs give their insights and opinions to these hot topics. These headlines and more on COL298.

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Feedback:

Facebook:

  • Brandon Balke
  • Manu Stern
  • Tampa Oso

Episode COL 297- Sounds of Sex:

  • Jon Fritch

Heh. I really hate talking in porn – can be insanely cliche and annoying. I much prefer growling and deep moaning – trying to sound like a real bear.

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COL267: Liberty and Justice for Y’all

US-JUSTICE-GAY-MARRIAGEIn this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the hosts reconnect after a long break to discuss the concepts of liberty and justice for the GLBT community. Are we as equal as we want to be and should be? What progress has been made and where do we still have to go? In honor of Pride month and Independence Day, listen in as the guys give their takes on the state of the union.

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What’s Going On?

  • [Jeff] – Mohawk
  • [Damon] – Pride Concert & Hanging
  • [Gary] – Normalness

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  • Matt Quinn
  • Bryan Mark Urbsaitis
  • Adam Peter Stein
  • Zach Mollitor
  • Jeremiah Ostrander
  • Gerry Pie
  • Garth Bell
  • Michael Plumley
  • James Cory Fudge Alston
  • Dustin Knott
  • Dane Briese
  • James TakeuDown Green
  • Eduard Cruz
  • Samuel Reeves
  • Paul Breakiron
  • Russell Krupnow

BU Goup – Buzz!

Foster Child Legal Fight

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  • Liberty and Justice for Y’all

I’ll Tumbl For You:

Links:

  • Jeff – Star Trek Into Darkness

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