Tag Archives: Bear

COL728: WGO: January 2024

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of January. From Burgertown to the Las Vegas strip, catch up with the cubs on how 2024 started for them. Has it been a winter wonderland or did it come & go too quickly?

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: The Burger Obsession is Real!
  • Damon: Vegas Baby & New DnD
  • Gary: Damn That Was Fast!

Feedback    

Facebook Follows:                               

  • Jesse Quintana

Facebook Likes:                               

  • Walker Less

Twitter Followers:

  • @AAlalhmed
  • @PeterLai57392
  • @CnlKurtz
  • @KayaS14462
  • @PNJhFlboUOrSxli
  • @SWTeddyBear

Patreon Updates

  • Happy 5 Year Anniversary to Ubehr level Patron Li! They joined 1/31/19 and we thank them for their ongoing support.
  • Happy 2 Year Anniversary to Ubehr level Patron Tim! They joined 01/15/22 and we thank them for their continuous support. 
  • BIG BEAR CUB HUGS to our Patrons: 
    • Cubsters: Charles W., Daniel C., and Michael K.
    • Ubehrs: Dave T., Li, Michael Q, and Tim S.
    • plus our Buddies: Hadrian, Lloyd G. and Michael V!

Recent Shows

  • COL724: WGO: December ‘23
  • COL725: LoR: Adulting
  • COL726: LTAK: Cincinnati Leather Title Holders 2023
  • COL727: LTAF: Mac ‘n Cheese

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  • Gary: Disney+: ECHO

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COL721: LTA… Adulting, Redux

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another installment in the Let’s Talk About… series. After the audio issues a couple of weeks ago, the guys are returning to the discussion of their life experiences over the decades in the bear community. In this “redux”, the cubs discuss growing up, life lessons and how it feels to be adults. From finding your tribe to balancing your checkbook, listen in on the ins and outs of being big ole bears.

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LTA… Adulting, Redux

Recently Jeff and Gary had a lovely chat about the passage of time as cubs of a certain age. After quite a few years in the bear community, our journeys through life had been down and up. Do we regret growing up? What lessons do we have for others to consider? 

Wikipedia Article: Adulting

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COL698: LTA… CPAPs, finally!

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About… This time around, the guys finally get around to talking about something that has plagued bear runs for years: CPAPs! With two of the co-hosts having them, the cubs discuss their challenges and successes with their usage. From restful sleep to increased energy and…libido, listen in as the guys share their experiences.

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LTA… CPAPs, finally!

As we become cubs of a certain age, our bodies also change and along comes one of the most ubiquitous accessories in the bear community! Do you have a CPAP or BiPAP? Have you been avoiding getting tested for one? Find out what the hosts think of their experiences as recent-ish newcomers to the scene.

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COLFB223: Bear or not Bear – Is this really a question?

Hello, Ladies, Gentlemen and NBs. SOMEBODY’S GETTING MARRIED! Which means we’re taking this week off while Damon walks the aisle, Gary tries to catch the garter and bouquet, while bears ravage the reception buffet. But have no fear! Today we’re time traveling to nearly TEN YEARS AGO in August of 2013 for specia-mercial episode including previous hosts Eric and Robert! From three days away to the old-school NBCS, let’s flashback to COL Episode 223.

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Bear Vs. Not Bear Meme

The Natural Bear Classification System (NCBS) – Wikipedia

NBCS (…or Bear codes… or those damned abbreviations) – Google Groups archive

  • Gary’s Bear Code – B5 cd- f g q r- t- w++
  • Eric’s Bear Code – B6 d-c- f+ g k- q- r s w++
  • Damon’s Bear Code – B0 c+d e++ f- g+ k+ q r- s+ t w+
  • Robert’s Bear Code – B6 cd e+ f- g+ k q- r- s t++ w
  • Jeff’s Bear Code – B3 c g+ q- r- s w

I’ll Tumbl For You [RIP]:

  • [Gary] – Furry Back and Oh That Ass!
  • [Damon] – Rugby Anyone?
  • [Robert] – Man In Blue

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COL692: LoR: Sexual Scripts

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke is back as the guys turn the pages on sexual scripts. Follow line by line as Ed and the cubs break down what sexual scripts are, where they come from and what happens when you go “off book.” Editing, improv and flipping the script are not just for the stage anymore!

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Landscape of Relationships: Sexual Scripts

What are sexual scripts?

In 1986, researchers  William Simon and John H. Gagnon defined sexual scripts as the cultural and societally approved norms that a person accesses, agrees upon, and activates through a sexual socialization process.  These sexual scripts are specific to the culture a person is socialized in, which tell them what behaviors, thoughts, emotions are or are not acceptable.  People carry these scripts with them into sexual situations and they tell them how to respond.  Simon and Gagnon theorized that sexual scripts have three different categories, including socio-cultural, interpersonal, and intrapsychic:

Examples of cultural sexual scripts:

  • Dating culture 
  • Premarital sex 
  • Monogamy 
  • Dominance and submission
  • Heteronormative 
  • What else?

Examples of interpersonal sexual scripts:

  • Flirting/sexual negotiation
  • Consent/sexual assault 
  • Top/Bottom
  • What else?

Examples of intrapsychic sexual scripts:

  • Turn ons
  • Fantasy
  • Kinks and fetishes
  • Pleasure
  • Sexual Desire 
  • What else?

Quote from Simon & Gagnon (1986)

In the most pragmatic sense, sexual scripts must solve two problems. The first of these is gaining permission from the self to engage in desired forms of sexual behavior. The second problem is that of access to the experiences that the desired behavior is expected to generate.

What happens when we go off script or improvising?

  • Rejection
  • Non-monogamy/Poly
  • Ace/Aro
  • Relationship anarchy 
  • Sides 
  • Sexual dysfunctions
  • Mental health/Trauma 
  • What else?

What do we do when we are off-script?

Good rules of improv? 

  • Yes, and….
  • Boundaries 
  • Acknowledge
  • Allow
  • Accommodate
  • Appreciate and….
  • Communicate!  (especially your boundaries)

 

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