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COL580: LTAS: Sides

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Let’s Talk About Sex!  The guys are joined by resident Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss “sides”. You know of tops, bottoms, and versatiles; but do you know about sides? Listen in as the cubs define this role in the MSM community and what it means in the sexual spectrum.

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Sides 

  • Definition?

Joe Kort developed the term in 2013 after not engaging in anal intercourse and feeling frustrated answering the “top or bottom” question.  “Can I be a side?”

A side is typically a man who has sex with another man (MSM) who does not engage in anal intercourse or penetration as it is not part of their erotic orientation.  Erotic orientation reflects your sexual fantasies, desires, and sexual behaviors.  

Self-labels (labels used to describe anal sex behaviors….or does it):

  • Top 
  • Bottom 
  • Versatile 
    • What if you don’t fit into any of those groups?  shame…guilt….FOMO…et al. 
  • Sides 

Articles:

Videos: Barry Birkholz

Book: Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment 

Podcast: Smart Sex, Smart Love: Episode 50 Side Guys

  • Awareness?
    • Side Guys Facebook Group  (currently 323 members)
    • Many different presentations of sides 
    • Sex is not just penetration 
    • Navigating conversations about being a “side” 
    • Inclusive language verse exclusive language 
  • Acceptance?

Backlash from gay community…

  • Interest?
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COL563: What’s Going On – July 2020

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of July. For this month, the guys talk about their work-life balances, family struggles, and a lot of D&D gaming. On top of this, the cubs share your recent feedback, give you some big bear love, and provide some fun shows to get you through your hot summer nights.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff:  D&D Madness! and The Legend of Korra
  • Damon: Workload, A Tragedy, and a Guest
  • Gary: Welp, Another Month Gone

Feedback:

Facebook Likes:

  • Tiffany Wilson Lane
  • Kitti Sage
  • Anthony Cruz

Facebook Comment/Post:

  • COL558: LTAF: All Time Faves – Tim Shell – Love the episode I hope you do more. I tried Jeff’s version of grilled cheese with munster delicious I’m hooked !
  • COL559: ATNS: A Whole New PRIDE – Tim Shell – Another good episode. I hope you would have a topic about racism in the bear community. I think now would be a good discussion.
  • COL562: What is… Pleasure? – Edward Angelini-Cooke – I love aural pleasure!

Instagram Followers

  • Sirkingbearlamar
  • Justice_for_the_family
  • kybubbabear

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Seika The Bear
  • Dustin Jacobs
  • Eulalia

YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL562: What is. . . Pleasure? – TheNaishproductions. To some extent Cellphones are glorified portable dopamine dispensers. Not convinced people actually use them as a communication device or more for the narcissistic posting of Food, i’m here & you’re not and the ever impressive “Best Night Everrrrrr!!!” photos. 
  • Re: COL562: What is. . . Pleasure? – Oan R. – Was the self-harm road really the best way to go about talking about pain and pleasure? That was a bit triggering. Edit: I don’t know, maybe I was hearing that wrong. 
  • Re: COL562: What is. . . Pleasure? – Oan R. – About the mask thing: for autistics, sensory issues come into play. Although I haven’t had any issues myself, there are people who have had issues. 

Twitter Followers

  • @CowboySlutty
  • @MAN_UPP01
  • @harmaakarhu
  • @HungdaddyUK
  • @LeilaGr80769383

Recent Shows:

  • COL560: What’s Going On – June 2020
  • Week Off
  • FB321: Goldilocks and the Three Bears
  • COL561: LTAS: Asking and Receiving
  • COL562: What is. . . Pleasure?

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COL562: What is… Pleasure?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys continue their “What is…” series with an episode on pleasure. So, what’s your pleasure? What’s my pleasure? Is it a pleasure to meet you or a pleasure to make your acquaintance? Is pleasure just sexual or are there multiple types of pleasure? Listen in as the cubs get to the pleasure principle and break it all down for you. Will this episode be pleasurable to you?

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What is… Pleasure?

Definition: noun a feeling of happy satisfaction and enjoyment. Adjective – used or intended for entertainment rather than business. Verb – give sexual enjoyment or satisfaction to.

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COL419: This Is The Way We Genetically Role

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs are joined by our SCIENCE expert, Mr. (soon to be Dr.) Cisco, to talk about a recent Jezebel article indicating that you may be  born a bottom? Cisco breaks down the facts and figures and gives the guys the bottom line. Also, Chester is on assignment drinking around the world.

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Diabloing
  • Damon: CMC/Being Low Key
  • Gary: The challenge of PRIDE
  • Cisco: “Job” at UTHSC in Memphis, I am a US resident, visiting hometown after 6.5 years, new furry baby, about to finish internship and become a doctor, still no balloon ride.

Feedback:

Facebook Likes:

  • Ben Johnson
  • Xavier Champion

YouTube Subscribers:

  • larstul744

Voicemail

  • Hit Me Baby One More Time!

Weekly Topic

Discussion of a recent study about genetics/biology and our sexual role.

Cooldown Topics

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COL357: HNU: Are You Open and Prepared?

COL298In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another hostful news update! For preparing your body for the pleasure of another person’s company, the cubs share articles about manscaping, cleaning out and open relationships. Yes, boys, you too can be ready for that casual encounter with a little TLC to your nether regions.

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Way too lazy for my own good
  • Damon: 3-D Day
  • Gary – Bad dreams

Feedback:

FB Group Comment:

I swear, sometimes you guys are just too far into my own head…

I present to you what a night with Ronald McDonald, The King, Jack-in-the-Box, and Col. Sanders would be like.

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Fallstar

Bear Underground:

  • outdoorsguy47

Urbandictionary with Gary

  • unicorn ballsAn expression used when you don’t know whether something is amazing or just plain creepy. This can be best described as your mom giving you a lap dance (it may be truly fascinating, but it’s also kinda wtf.)

Guy 1: Hey dude, I heard your mom gave you a lap dance last night!

Guy 2: Yeah… it was kinda Unicorn Balls.

Guy 1: I get what you mean dude

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Hostful News Update:

Cooldown Topics

I’ll Tumbl For You:

Links:

  • [Jeff]:Heroes of The Storm WTF Moments Ep.39

  • [Damon]: Every X-Men Ever

  • [Gary]: Adele Medley – Casual Cover – Ronan Scolard & Glenn Murphy Live in Dublin

  • [Gary]: Drinking Brita Filtered Beer, Vodka, Wine, Shame

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