In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About… This time around, the guys discuss the formerly taboo topic of tattoos. From a rite of passage to a significant body mod, listen in as the cubs give their opinions on the art of tattoos. Is it part of gay ritual or just self expression?
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LTA… Tattoos
From the dawn of time, we’ve marked up our bodies with artwork of varying kinds. Some temporary and others very permanent. The bear community has its own version of different ink styles as tattoos over the decades. But has tattooing become less prominent today? Were there any fads that came and went?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Landscape of Relationships. Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke returns and this time we discuss tolerating versus accepting behaviors in our relationships. Do we let the annoying Aunt Ida in?
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Landscape of Relationships: Tolerance vs Acceptance
What is tolerance?
Tolerance is the state of “putting up with something without directly opposing it.” It brings up ideas of enduring or allowing certain behaviors. But it doesn’t mean embracing or supporting these behaviors or actions.
It’s a head thing
What is acceptance?
Acceptance is the state of opening yourself up completely to a situation, not how your mind sees it. Acknowledging the reality of a situation without the need to change it or resist it. Being open to differences and embracing them through love and compassion.
It’s a heart thing
Tolerance
It involves the suppression of difficult emotions. Can lead to feelings of resentment and anger due to lack of acceptance or understanding.
Acceptance
This process can lead to feelings of love, compassion, and empathy. The more that we feel connected to someone the deeper our understanding is.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys take some time to take a look back. As 2023 draws to a close, listen in as cubs reminisce about their milestones, highs and lows of the year. From weddings to new jobs, concerts to title wins, follow along with them as they take note of the year 2023.
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2023 Look Back
As the year is wrapping, we’ll take a look back on the milestones and notably things that happened in 2023. With just two weeks left in the year, were there any standouts seen as positives, negatives, or mehs?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the often dreaded in-laws. As media seems to make it seem that most straight couples have to deal with their in-laws and spouse’s families, the cubs review how this translates into the relationships of the LGBTQ+ community. Are they really that different or can similar tactics, communication and boundaries help ease the potential tension?
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Landscape of Relationships: In-Laws
Lots of research and media about how in-law relationships are really difficult. That may be the case as some research out there says 3 out of 4 couples have difficult relationships with heterosexual in-laws. Is that the case with same-sex relationships?
Every family is different with a different rulebook that has been in creation for possibly generations.
Possibility for conflictual interactions, difficult pasts, and crunchy presents.
BOUNDARIES!!!!!
Know your values
Stay true to you.
Brene Brown’s BRAVING…specifically the Generosity part.
Keep those conflict skills in check.
LGBT in-laws (2019) 400 interviews from children in law who identified as gay or lesbian. Describe relationship with same sex in law parent.
Many of those interviewed struggled with acceptance by one or both of their parents-in-law.
Relationships usually improved with time
While parents-in-law became increasingly accepting, there was often someone else in the family who was not accepting
Acceptance by the mothers-in-law, according to the daughters-in-law, came as more of their friends and social circle either had children who were lesbian or gay, or their friends and social circle became more socially aware.
Feelings of ambivalence toward family members are typical.
Be the subject of your life, not the object.
You become an adult child the moment you set boundaries with your family (and in-laws).
What do YOU want to do with your partner in relation to each other’s families?
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss gear. In this first part, the cubs start by defining what gear is. From leather and rubber to singlets and uniforms, listen as the guys break down the fundamentals of the gear fetish and more.
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Let’s Talk About Kink: Gear Part 1
We’re joined today by Tony aka Cubziz for a chat about the ‘gear’ we see and experience when it comes to leather/BDSM/kink.
In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About… This time around, the guys discuss the formerly taboo topic of tattoos. From a rite of passage to a significant body mod, listen in as the cubs give their opinions on the art of tattoos. Is it part of gay ritual or just self expression?
