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COL644: LoR: Intimacy & Arousal

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Dr. Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode we discuss Intimacy and Arousal. We let you in on the secret of the types and levels of intimacy and work the runway of arousal.

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Landscape of Relationships: Intimacy & Arousal

Intimacy 

David Shnarch – “Intimacy is knowing who you are and letting someone in on the secret.”

Types of Intimacy 

  • Sexual
  • Emotional
  • Intellectual 
  • Aesthetic
  • Creative
  • Recreational
  • Work
  • Crisis
  • Commitment 
  • Conflict 
  • Communication
  • Spiritual 
  • Celebration
  • Physical 

Good Intimacy Tool 

Levels of Intimacy 

  • Safe communication
  • Other’s opinions and beliefs
  • Personal opinions and beliefs
  • Me feelings and experiences 
  • My needs, emotions, and desires

Example: Farting stage of a relationship 

Arousal 

  • Physical response to stimuli 

Problem 

  • Experiential avoidance

The Arousal Runway 

  • Psychological arousal 
  • Face-to-face arousal (role place a sexy scene)
  • Side-by-side (listening to a erotic story, watching ethical porn)

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“Our fantasies are our allies”

“Fantasies are fantasies”

“People have sex within the limits of their sexual development. We stick to having sex in familiar ways that keep us comfortable. Having sex beyond your sexual development creates anxiety and makes you nervous. Mastering this anxiety is how you become a sexually mature adult.” – David Shnarch

Wrap Up

  • Intimacy is important for arousal in relationships
  • Shame and guilt can negatively impact intimacy and arousal 
  • Take baby steps
  • Explore your fantasies….they might be the doorway to some great experiences 
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COL635: LTAS: Sex Starvation

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. For this episode, the cubs talk about being hangry for handjobs, famished for facials and in anticipation of anal. As the pandemic heads into its 3rd year, the cubs discuss sexual starvation. As many gays & others are dealing with the lack of touch of another person, what can be done to get their freak on while still mitigating risk? From creating sex bubbles to taking matters into your own hands, listen as the guys find ways to satiate the sexually starved.

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Lets Talk About Sex: Sex Starvation

The cubs return to talk about sex, or the lack of it…for a long time. The pandemic isn’t ending soon so are the gays getting their freak on or holding back due to COVID?

 

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COL630: Jingle Mingle

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs have a little holiday mixer. With some listeners joining along, the guys play some games and spread a little holiday cheer.

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Jingle Mingle 

The COL hosts have an online year end social. It’s holiday themed games of virtual bingo, this or that, and we find out who’s on the naughty list!

If you’re interested in our Jingle Jingle Bingo virtual game, below are some details/links to play the same game online. Btw, yes Gary misspelled the word ‘bells’ as ‘beels’ in the list that created this specific game. The website myfreebingocards.com allows you to create virtual games with certain limitations but upgrade options for a cost. 

Play virtual bingo free

Share the Virtual Link below with up to 30 friends. They can play virtual bingo on any device or print out their bingo card. Virtual Link: https://mfbc.us/m/yj52w9w

Everyone who follows this link will get one of 30 random bingo cards. It’s possible that two players will get the same bingo card. If you want to make sure everyone gets a different bingo card you can send out these individual links. If you have more than 30 players choose a paid option. Each player will get a link to their own unique bingo card that they cannot change, and we provide a tool to quickly send out individual links by email. For more information check out our Virtual Bingo Guide.

 

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COL625: LTAK: Gear – Part 4

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Kink. The guys are again joined by Tony aka Cubziz to discuss gear. In this fourth part, the guys discuss headspace and how it can relate to gear. From placing you in the proper role to play to enhancing your personal play, learn more on what headspace is and where it can come from.

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Let’s Talk About Kink: Gear – Part 4

We’re joined one again by kinky boy Tony aka Cubziz for a chat about what is headspace and how ‘gear’ adds we see and experience when it comes to leather/BDSM/kink. Previously we discussed…

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COL602: LTAS: JustForFans / OnlyFans

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In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs get sexy online. For this installment of Let’s Talk About Sex, the guys discuss the creator-driven content sites such as OnlyFans and JustForFans and their recent uptick in popularity during the pandemic, particularly for those wishing to share their body positivity and other sexual exploits for profit. As the guys share their thoughts on these sites and their popularity, what kind of impact is this having on traditional pornography? Is this another fad or the eventual evolution of the porn industry?

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Lets Talk About Sex: JustForFans / OnlyFans

The COVID-19 pandemic in 2020 shifted the world economy in serious ways. Prior to the global pandemic, the landscape of self-promotion as an artist was already taking off in the digital realm. Social media platforms like Twitter, Facebook, and YouTube rose to the top of the field. However these entities expend a lot of effort, time, and energy to limit access or remove adult content out of their own legal protective interests. Sites like XTube have recently taken actions that have limited adult content creators options. 

Now it’s 2021 and over that past year it appears that the LGBTQIA broader community has become more familiar and possibly comfortable with sites like JustFor.Fans and OnlyFans.com as platforms where personal freedoms are housed for body positivity, sexual expression, art/modeling, and more. 

What do we think about this development? How much have these options helped people financially through the past year plus? Is this a natural evolution while portions of society struggle with conservative vs progressive viewpoints? 

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