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COLDR: S14E04: Snatch Game, An Extra Special Episode, Moulin Ru: The Rusical

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon discuss the next three episodes of the never-ending 14th season of RPDR. From an abysmal snatch game to a musical awakening, the guys watch the queens give it their best can-can do as they continue to lip sync for their lives again and again. But when will this season end? With there STILL being 7 queens remaining in the competition, how much longer is it gonna take to get to the finale? Put the car on cruise control and coast along as the guys check the roadmap to the checkered flag.

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 14

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

  • [Damon] – How many episodes is this season gonna have?!?
  • [Gary] – Talk about stretching it out…

Snaps & Eyerolls:

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… The best read EVAH!
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Best cast cohesion?
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Cerebral Snatch Game 
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Production Shenanigans
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COL628: LoR: In-Laws

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the often dreaded in-laws. As media seems to make it seem that most straight couples have to deal with their in-laws and spouse’s families, the cubs review how this translates into the relationships of the LGBTQ+ community. Are they really that different or can similar tactics, communication and boundaries help ease the potential tension?

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Landscape of Relationships: In-Laws

Lots of research and media about how in-law relationships are really difficult.  That may be the case as some research out there says 3 out of 4 couples have difficult relationships with heterosexual in-laws.  Is that the case with same-sex relationships? 

Meeting the In-Laws

  1. Every family is different with a different rulebook that has been in creation for possibly generations.
  2. Possibility for conflictual interactions, difficult pasts, and crunchy presents.
  3. BOUNDARIES!!!!!
    1. Know your values
    2. Stay true to you.
  4. Brene Brown’s BRAVING…specifically the Generosity part.  
    1. Keep those conflict skills in check.

LGBT in-laws (2019) 400 interviews from children in law who identified as gay or lesbian.  Describe relationship with same sex in law parent.

  1. Many of those interviewed struggled with acceptance by one or both of their parents-in-law.
  2. Relationships usually improved with time
  3. While parents-in-law became increasingly accepting, there was often someone else in the family who was not accepting
  4. Acceptance by the mothers-in-law, according to the daughters-in-law, came as more of their friends and social circle either had children who were lesbian or gay, or their friends and social circle became more socially aware.
  5. Feelings of ambivalence toward family members are typical.

Be the subject of your life, not the object.  

  • You become an adult child the moment you set boundaries with your family (and in-laws).
  • What do YOU want to do with your partner in relation to each other’s families?
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COL624: LoR: Unfriending

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, the guys discuss the topic of unfriending. Whether it be friends, family or “framily”, there are situations which may require a need to remove people from your lives. Listen in as the cubs share some advice on when, how and who should be unfriended.

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Landscape of Relationships: Unfriending

  • Top 8
  • Close Friends
  • Feed
  • Limited Feed
  • Unfollow 
  • Block

ParentsMyCounselor article – Healthy Relationships with Adult Children 

  • This comes from a Christian counseling website  
  • Look at this like a checklist to see if you have them 
  • Setting expectations of how you are to be treated is HUGE.  
  • Check out the boundaries podcast 
  • Think of boundaries like the rules of D&D

FriendsPsychology Today: 13 Essential Traits of Good Friends 

This is a great article on using yourself as a reference point to assess your friendships with others. (If we want honesty from others we have to make sure we are honest.)

  • Advice my Mom gave me growing up that I didn’t always take, “stick with the winners.”  I have adapted it to, “Stay close to the ones who know where they are headed.” I don’t like the winners/losers dichotomy, but it has the same idea. 
  • Like D&D, be mindful about who you party with. 

Friends and Family – Personal Excellence article – Unsupportive People 

  • Don’t go to the hardware store for bread. 
  • Find out where the hardware store is.
  • If I’m out of life, unless I have someone on my party who has regeneration….I need to get it from someone else.
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COL606: ATNS: LGBTQIA+ Pride 2021 – Part 2: Kink

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another All T, No Shade show. This time around, the topic is Pride and because the cubs have a lot to say about it, this will be a two-parter. In this second part, the cubs break down their views on the ongoing debate of kink at Pride and its inclusion in LGTBQIA+ spaces. From consent to caution, listen in as the guys paddle their way through this hard stop conversation.

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ATNS: LGBTQIA+ Pride 2021 – Part 2: Kink

This year for our annual Pride discussion, we have a two-parter – previously we discussed Corporations. Now that we’ve told big business to fuck off with their pandering, let’s piss off even more people with our thoughts on kink being a part of Pride for the LGBTQIA community. 

From COL previous guest Perrin on social media:

Perrin 

So here’s the thing… cause it apparently needs to be said. Wearing a leash in public harms absolutely no one. It violates no consent.

This discourse reeks of “think of the children” and “no kink at Pride” and I’m not here for this sanitization.

For years these types of excuses were used to actively harm homosexuals, transfolk, and anyone else who didn’t fit the public’s perception of normal. Still to this day, we see people crying foul when anyone dares deviate from that norm.

From Forged & Folded A Thousand Times in Rainbow Flame [aka @vaspider] on Twitter

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COLDR: S13E13: Henny, I Shrunk the Drag Queens

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon reach into their hot pockets as the queens live their sci-fi fantasy in an acting challenge. The guys share their tiny thoughts and give pocketfuls of shade and tea. Which queens make it to the final lap as the top 4?

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  • COLDR S11E03: Diva Worship
    • Michael Ewing: “If I were on Rajah’s team, I would choose Cher because of Chad Michaels, Madonna or Lady Gaga” & “RuPaul should’ve made them apologize to Mariah Carey for that performance”

WEEKLY TOPIC

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 13

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

Overall Thoughts – Acting Challenge Redux

  • [Damon] – You Gotta Take Risks  
  • [Gary] – It’s About Growth

Stomp the Runway:

Category/Theme – Haute Pocket

  • [Damon] – What’s in the Pocket?
  • [Gary] – Glow Ups and a Week 1 Throwback

Snaps & Eyerolls:

What was a high point and low point for you

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Rose’ Rising
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Gottmik’s Revelation on Trans Barbie/Ken & Scarlett Johansson Married Colin Jost!!
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Predictability 
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… The Outcome, She’s Bound for All Stars
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