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COL580: LTAS: Sides

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, Let’s Talk About Sex!  The guys are joined by resident Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss “sides”. You know of tops, bottoms, and versatiles; but do you know about sides? Listen in as the cubs define this role in the MSM community and what it means in the sexual spectrum.

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Sides 

  • Definition?

Joe Kort developed the term in 2013 after not engaging in anal intercourse and feeling frustrated answering the “top or bottom” question.  “Can I be a side?”

A side is typically a man who has sex with another man (MSM) who does not engage in anal intercourse or penetration as it is not part of their erotic orientation.  Erotic orientation reflects your sexual fantasies, desires, and sexual behaviors.  

Self-labels (labels used to describe anal sex behaviors….or does it):

  • Top 
  • Bottom 
  • Versatile 
    • What if you don’t fit into any of those groups?  shame…guilt….FOMO…et al. 
  • Sides 

Articles:

Videos: Barry Birkholz

Book: Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment 

Podcast: Smart Sex, Smart Love: Episode 50 Side Guys

  • Awareness?
    • Side Guys Facebook Group  (currently 323 members)
    • Many different presentations of sides 
    • Sex is not just penetration 
    • Navigating conversations about being a “side” 
    • Inclusive language verse exclusive language 
  • Acceptance?

Backlash from gay community…

  • Interest?
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COL568: What’s Going On – August 2020

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of August. For this month, the cubs discuss birthday booboos, visits from family and friends, and colonoscopies. As the guys head into the final third of the year, listen in as their lives continue along similar lines due to the pandemic. Also, did somebody say “thicc”?

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Happy Birthday Boo Boos, and more of the same.
  • Damon: Family Visit/Gaming/Lots of YouTube
  • Gary: Busy month, how the hell is it September???

Feedback 

Facebook Comment/Post:

  • COL567: Power Hour 8 – Joshua R. Pangborn: Had a blast! Happy Birthday, Jeff!

Instagram Followers

  • Acruz197421

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Christian Payne
  • Taylor Mitcham
  • Graham McKenzie

YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL564: LTAF: Guilty Pleasures – Berty Bertface – “Sausage Rolls and Cheeseballs. Innuendo exempt.” 
  • Re: COL565: LTAS: Gloryhole Safety – King R2K – “This was a pleasure!”
  • Re: COL567: Power Hour 8 – Oan R. – “Just thought about this just now, but like at the ends or when anybody leaves, y’all should like do a cheers with the shot glasses or the bottles or whatever you have. Always good to send people off.” Oan R. commented: “And now for my rundown of my favorite parts from this video.And now for my rundown of my favorite parts from this video. . In no particular order: – Josh taking his shirt off – Gary taking his shirt off and the millisecond of his nipple screen time. – Ed showing off his tattoos (they coo. Also, he has pierced nipples. That’s hot.) – Smashy taking his pants off (I mean…yeah. That was hot.) – The birthday bear taking his shirt off (yeah, pretty hot) – that one time everybody was talking about watches and I made a joke. Cause that was coo.” 
  • Re: COL567: Power Hour 8 – Fruit Flake – Y’all all looking cute as hell 

Twitter Followers

  • @belfastbears
  • @cbbwbc
  • @eyesup305
  • @InglewoodJoseph
  • @acruz197421

Recent Shows

  • COL563: What’s Going On – July 2020
  • COL564: LTAF: Guilty Pleasures
  • COL565: LTAS: Gloryhole Safety
  • COL566: Aging Cubs
  • COL567: Power Hour 8

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COL543: What’s Going On – February 2020

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of February. For the shortest month of the year, the cubs have been busy busy busy with friendly visitors, bear runs, and beer tours. Catch up with the guys as they share their goings-on during the month of love.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff:  A lot of WoW, and a Visitor.
  • Damon: Work Woes & NAB Wows 
  • Gary: Busy busy busy

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Facebook Likes:

  • Joshua King
  • Larry Cotton
  • Phil Lowry
  • George Allington – Turner

Facebook Comment/Post:

  • Re: COL542: RIP GROWLr? – Michael Quinichett Lmt: How apropos: My account was suspended last night. I initially thought it was bc (just like C-list and Tumblr) of my massage business. Turns out a shitload of people also had their accounts temporarily suspended, most only for a couple hours. Mine was reinstated about 6 hours after what I’m calling “Growlr-gate.”

Instagram Followers

  • growlinggrooming

YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL542: RIP GROWLr? – Berty Bertface: Yay, cubs in the house. 

Twitter Followers

  • @Knoxbear1
  • @YellowD14340752
  • @mooiy12
  • @eddiehcooke

Recent Shows

  • COL541: What’s Going On – January 2020
  • FB247-1: World Class Kisser! – Part One
  • FB247-2: World Class Kisser! – Part Two
  • COL542: RIP GROWLr?

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COL538: 2019 Year in Review

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs celebrate the start of the new decade (it’s debatable) by looking back at the year 2019. This episode is for the numerates as the guys review the numbers and also share their favorite parts of 2019. And, as the dawn of 2020 comes over the horizon, listen in as they share what they are looking forward to.


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Reviewing the Year that was 2019 for the podcast and our lives.

The Numbers:

  • Episodes: 
    • 49 public COL episodes released
    • 1 Patreon Only episodes released
    • 20 COLDR episodes released
  • Social Media:
    • 9 New Tumblr followers  [481 total]
    • 10 New Instagram followers [188 total] 
    • 43 New Twitter followers  [594 total]
  • YouTube 
    • 11,352 Views
    • 50 Likes
    • 2,600 Comments 
    • 32 New Subscribers 

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Most Downloaded Podcast (per Podtrac):

Favorite COL Episode in 2019

  • Gary: COL514: Trans Bear Listener – YouTube or Blog

Things You’ll Remember Most About 2019

  • Jeff: Sister’s Wedding
  • Damon: Hospital Stay/Pup Contest
  • Gary: Life Recovery and Mom’s Passing 

Things Looking Forward to in 2020

  • Jeff: Voting Out Trump
  • Damon: Getting Healthier/GALA 2020 
  • Gary: New Opportunities and Personal Growth

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COL533: What’s Going On – November 2019

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of November. It’s been a quick turnaround from our last WGO show, but the guys wanted to make sure you were abreast of their turkey day plans and more. From computer issues to Friendsgiving, listen as the cubs share their November highs and lows.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Pokémon, Season of Thanks
  • Damon: D&D Podcast, Thanks-living!!
  • Gary: Training at Work, Friendsgiving, Meh

Feedback

Facebook Share:

  • Nov 19 – Edward Angelini-Cooke: Here is the podcast I recently recorded with Cubs Out Loud.

Facebook Likes:

  • Ron J. Suresha

Facebook Comment/Post:

  • Nov 22 – Michael Quinichett LMT: Thanks for the tank top guys!

YouTube Subscribers:

  • Dramore Blood 

YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL530: Hibearnation – Oan R: Nick Frost and Simon Pegg, the first time they came to New York they were homeless on the street, they’d actually curl up together. So it’s this thing where if two guys are like really close, once they get past the whole stigma of not really being into each other physically and then they can get into a plutonic cuddle.
  • Re: COL532: The Landscape of Relationships – Berty Bertface: Perhaps the age at which you marry plays a part for longevity, at least if you are both very young. My two cents is when you share a deep connection with another, beyond the pure primal physical desire (as the body ages) you want to create a life together where there is no space for others. You have to put some effort in of course, as nothing worth having is easy This is my goal anyway.

Twitter Followers

  • @Dare81048396
  • @Verspigbear1
  • @TXCITYLATINBOI

Recent Shows

  • COL531: What’s Going On – Oct 2019
  • COL532: The Landscape of Relationships

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