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COL473: More Fats, More Femmes

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys talk about the diversity of the bear community. In its over 30 years of existence, the guys give their opinions how much or how little it has changed in terms of inclusion, diversity, body positivity and more. Is this a trend heading towards inclusivity or a sign of the end of bear times?

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Insomnia and the Pokèmon addiction
  • Damon: Coworker Fun/Board Retreat
  • Gary: Rebalancing

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YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL472: Giving/Taking… Compliments
    • Woofy – I have a habit of when I get a compliment I have a compulsive need to throw one back, even if I’m not interested. Something I need to work on, to just accept the compliment with a thanks.

Social Media Comment:

  • To Jeff: RE: COL472: bostonareabear on Bear411: “Are you gonna talk or are you gonna gloss your lips?” Funniest line of the last COL podcast.
  • To Damon: RE: COL471: Gonzo Gonzales “I just heard your podcast on body positivity and wanna thank you for thinking of me. I was in tears. Love you so much.”

Show Topic

More Fats, More Femmes – we like to see diversity, but …

    • Where is the diversity in the Bear Community?
    • How much have things changed in nearly 30 years?
    • Are we satisfied with what is represented today?
    • Is Tumblr the new bear porn for showing the reality of bodies and sex?

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COL471: Where is the body?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys talk about the concept of body positivity. With recent developments such as the Arrested Movement photography series and the topic of male body image issues, being body positive is definitely up for current discussion and debate. But, what is it and what does it look like? Listen in as the cubs give their thoughts and feelings on this somewhat new notion. Are you body beautiful?

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What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Gotta Catch ‘Em All
  • Damon: It’s HOT!!
  • Gary: I’m sore, everywhere

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  • Re: COL470: The Porn Factor – Chris Green: Really enjoyed this one! I grew up in the same era, having the internet (dialup, newsgroups, bbs sites) around high school. No one mentioned another of the old-school methods of discovering porn; squinting at the blurred images on scrambled, adult TV channels!

YouTube Comment:

  • Re: COL470: The Porn Factor: Woofy – remember back in boarding school, boys would put pictures of naked women on their walls and it was super cool.  I did it with big hairy men and suddenly no one visited my room. What is this injustice.

Show Topic

“Where is the body?”

  • Discussion of body positivity – Which of the COL hosts have it? What do we think it looks like? Where do we see it represented? [if at all]

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COL422: LTAS: Playspace Etiquette

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud,  it’s another Let’s Talk About Sex! For this topic, we start the discussion about playspace etiquette. Listen in as we give the dos and don’ts about your favorite back bar space, dark room, bathhouse, frolic and mingle rooms. So, should you enter a playroom chatting on your cellphone while eating a plate of nachos?

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Introduction Topics

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Back in Action/W Bear
  • Damon: Glamping Trip
  • Chester: Apt Approved, packing, and Evan’s first drive-in
  • Gary: July is here!

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  • Ches Clark SHOW NOTE [re: COL421]: I realized after the fact that I didn’t get in the whole story about my birthday dinner. (I think I cut myself off because I felt like I was monopolizing and rambling on.) That being said, I wanted to make a small addendum, especially given that I was giving someone who wasn’t present to defend himself a bit of a hard time. Brady *did* sincerely apologize for initiating the song and spectacle debacle as part of owning up to it, and had no idea beforehand that I was so vehemently opposed to that sort of public display. He truly did feel terrible about it afterward, but I was just in no mood to hear it at the time. He was just trying to be playful and funny, and so for those who might be worried about him getting “two black marks in my little book,” have no fear–most of that accounting business is tongue-in-cheek. Brady and I are very much okay with each other. Cheers!
  • Re: COL421: Greg Ballard I would love to do a co host spot someday. Love this channel! Watching right now!

 

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  • Rotundaplomb mentioned us in a comment and asked
    • I’m looking for some movie recommendations! I’m after a movie featuring the bear/chub community. Romantic, drama, comedy – all work. Not looking for a porn flick but sex scenes are fine. I’ve heard BearCity might be a good place to start. What are some others? Maybe some ideas on the next @cubsoutloud? Thanks Tumblr folks!
  • Rotundaplomb in re: to COL420: State of the Community 2017
    • Wish I could have stayed for more of the live stream. You miss so many of Gary’s faces on the podcast version. Great list of some Pride documentaries to watch – check the show notes.
  • FirstRonin in re: to COLSP06: Daddy’s Day Storytime 2017 directed to Hadrian…
    • I just want to say that you have an amazing voice! No matter what you’re reading or saying, you make me melt a little.
  • NE-Plus-Ultra-Bears in re: to COLSP06: Daddy’s Day Storytime 2017
    • Now that’s what I call a late Sunday night delight!!

Weekly Topic

Article from Bear World Magazine website interview re: the W Bear app

Let’s Talk About Sex: Playspace Etiquette

  • You may/will be seen/watched – not possible to be invisible
  • Always be respectful
  • Consent needs to be given, whether subtle or pronounced
  • You know what is best for yourself, not anyone else
  • Keep safety in mind, yours and everyone else’s
  • Be courteous to others in the space
  • Prepare yourself; mentally and physically

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COLDR: S9E12: Category is…

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Category is…FINAL FOUR! We’re in the home stretch of Season 9, and the game is just about over! Listen in as the guys take it to the runway in this rapping, dancing, slay-filled episode. Who has what it takes to make it to the finale?

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Weekly Topic

RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 9 Episode 12

Thoughts on This Episode:

  • [Gary] – The SHADE of it all!
  • [Damon] – Familiar Challenge
  • [Chester] – No ups, no downs
  • [Brady] – Wow…my state of mind has been altered

Thoughts on Untucked:

  • [Damon] – What they learned
  • [Chester] – Balls of the Hamburger Mary’s variety
  • [Brady] – Comfort food!
  • [Gary] – We 4 Queens

Cooldown Topics

Takeaways:

  • [Chester] – No clear top/bottom
  • [Brady] – Babashook!
  • [Gary] – ‘Heart wrenching’ to ‘Has the show gone soft?’
  • [Damon] – Game Changer

Snaps / Eyerolls:

  • [Brady] – Snaps for… Sasha
  • [Brady] – Eyerolls for… the blue wig
  • [Gary] – Snaps for… Maxi Challenge Performance
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… “podcast” interview & Shea’s ‘chest’
  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Peppermint’s advice to herself
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… Shea’s chest and wig/Squatty Potty
  • [Chester] – Snaps for… Sasha’s confidence/Sasha’s Brand
  • [Chester] – Eyerolls for… _____

Closing Thoughts:

Miss Congeniality…

  • [Gary] – Trinity
  • [Damon] – Trinity or Eureka
  • [Chester] – Trinity
  • [Brady] – Valentina

Overall Winner…

  • [Gary] – Confidence vs Attitude
  • [Damon] – Who I Want To vs Who I Think Will
  • [Chester] – Sashea
  • [Brady] – Sasha!

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