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COL541: What’s Going On – January 2020

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s our What’s Going On for the month of January. From car troubles to new jobs, the guys share their going-ons for the first month of the new year. In addition, a discussion of credit history, the Dolly Parton challenge, and some Star Trek/Star Wars love.

What’s Going On?

  • Jeff: Renting a Car isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.
  • Damon: Back to the Grind
  • Gary: New Adventure and Ironic Sickness

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  • Edward Angelini-Cooke  Re: COL540: The Landscape of Relationships – Part 2. – Here is the most recent episode of Cubs Out Loud I had the pleasure of guest hosting

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  • Re: COL535: The Santa Fantasy – Jay Yospa:  A couple of observations: not growing up Christian I could be wrong, but I think in the song I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus, Santa in this instance isn’t the real Santa but how kids see Santa-which is their Dad in costume. So Mom isn’t poly, she’s kissing her husband in his Santa suit. After all, Dad (and Mom) are ones really putting the presents under the tree. (I hope I’m not shocking anyone with this revelation). Also for movie Santas, it’s tough to beat ex-pro wrestler Goldberg as Santa in Santa’s Slay. A fun, but silly horror movie worth, if nothing else, watching the first scene from.

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  • Re: COL418: Handsome vs Sexy – Berty Bertface: Damon hit the nail on the head, handome could mean “physically you are wow and i want to know more”, sexy could mean “you’re hot, lets fxxk”. At least for me.
  • Re: COL450: Gay Genetics – Berty Bertface: Interesting show. Being a gay man has not been as easy as most of my hetero friends. Society made it seem wrong so there was shame, guilt attached to my younger self. Where i see science stepping in would be parents choosing to alter genetic code to avoid homosexual children. For me the question is, because there is not anything wrong with us so why changes us?
  • Re: COL537: What’s Going on December 2019 – Berty Bertface: Happy New Year guys! Thanks for all of your hard work. Cheers
  • Re: COL503: Gayming Characters – Berty Bertface: 1:19:53, Gary spoke about ai. If ai is to be as close to us (humans) as possible, could ai develop sexuality, gender roles etc? Then evolve to develop the need to bond with other ai, and eventually form hetero, gay, bi etc. ai? Sexual orientation is a fundamental component of our identity, so ai may need this too? As far as gayming is concerned for me, am gay and not bothered if my avatar is a trans-biscuit so long as i can achieve my goal completing the objective.
  • Re: COL538: 2019 Year in Review – Berty Bertface: Another great podcast/video guys. Especially Gary’s piece towards the end of the show. Comparison is the thief of joy, no one I’ve known has ever had it all worked out. I believe there is no harm in the admiration of another but be cautious when comparing yourself to them. I hope you guys fullfill your plans for 2020, chin-chin.
  • Re: COL472: Giving/Taking . . . Compliments – Berty Bertface: All three of you are pretty fxxking awesome. Take that as you will.
  • Re: COL471:Where is the body? – Berty Bertface: Not sure anyone is completely fine with their bodies, but it is what it is. It makes me sad to hear about anyone feeling shame towards themselves. My first crush/awakening happened during school, during gym class. I am medium build, he was the big kid in the class/school. Absolutely gorgeous person inside and out. We were friends but i always wanted desperately to tell what he truely meant to me. I am certain many larger men are not aware of their secret admirers, but i wish for this to change so we can all enjoy ourselves and each other.

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Recent Shows

  • COL537: What’s Going On – December 2019
  • COL538: 2019 Year in Review 
  • COL539: What is. . . Partying?
  • COL540: The Landscape of Relationships – Part 2

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COL540: The Landscape of Relationships – Part 2

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke for an in depth discussion on relationships. For this second part, the guys delve into boundaries and rules. With Edward’s help, the cubs discuss the similarities and differences between these two terms, how they relate to each person and those involved in the relationship, and also discord on the potential minefield of expectations. How do we set our boundaries? Are expectations a good or a bad thing? What’s on your relationship checklist? The guys hash out these questions and more.

Show Topic

The Landscape of Relationships – Boundaries and Rules

Boundaries (“I Will/I Won’t”) v. Rules/Agreements/Expectations (“You/We Won’t”)

  • debated topic within relationship communities 
  • Is this a rule or a boundary?
    • Boundary as skin metaphor (protects us from bacteria, allows the good stuff in and sweats the bad stuff out, elastic with limitations [you can break skin], boundaries are about me
    • Rules are about us and you, jealousy, usually some form of control 
  • Pros and Cons of Rules 
    • Pros:
      • Contracts 
      • Establishing or Re-establishing solid foundation of connection and intimacy
      • Conditional…not unilateral or controlling
      • Spoken
    • Cons:
      • Can be Controlling
      • Can be rigid and unhealthy
      • Can be Set up to be broken 
      • Unspoken
  • Agreements are similar to the idea of a relationship contract or vows 
  • Expectations are resentments waiting to happen

Kinds of Personal Boundaries 

  • Emotional 
    • Example: Don’t go to the hardware store for bread
  • Physical
    • Examples: allergies, personal bubble, DON’T COME INTO MY ROOM, MOM!!!!
  • Time
    • Examples: don’t make plans within 24 hours, I have office hours on Tuesdays
  • Sexual
    • Examples: Consent, Refer to checklist
  • Intellectual 
    • Examples: Agree to disagree, awareness of who and what you are talking about 
  • Material 
    • Examples: Don’t lend out money, I need that sling back by Friday etc

Open-Relationship Checklist 

  • Fill this out separately for you, not your partner 
    • Find out your boundaries first THEN discuss your partner’s THEN discuss how they overlap or don’t overlap

Review:

  • Communication 
  • Boundaries are like skin 
  • You Don’t Have to Be In an Open Relationship to Discuss Boundaries!!!!!

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COL538: 2019 Year in Review

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the cubs celebrate the start of the new decade (it’s debatable) by looking back at the year 2019. This episode is for the numerates as the guys review the numbers and also share their favorite parts of 2019. And, as the dawn of 2020 comes over the horizon, listen in as they share what they are looking forward to.


Show Topic

Reviewing the Year that was 2019 for the podcast and our lives.

The Numbers:

  • Episodes: 
    • 49 public COL episodes released
    • 1 Patreon Only episodes released
    • 20 COLDR episodes released
  • Social Media:
    • 9 New Tumblr followers  [481 total]
    • 10 New Instagram followers [188 total] 
    • 43 New Twitter followers  [594 total]
  • YouTube 
    • 11,352 Views
    • 50 Likes
    • 2,600 Comments 
    • 32 New Subscribers 

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Favorite COL Episode in 2019

  • Gary: COL514: Trans Bear Listener – YouTube or Blog

Things You’ll Remember Most About 2019

  • Jeff: Sister’s Wedding
  • Damon: Hospital Stay/Pup Contest
  • Gary: Life Recovery and Mom’s Passing 

Things Looking Forward to in 2020

  • Jeff: Voting Out Trump
  • Damon: Getting Healthier/GALA 2020 
  • Gary: New Opportunities and Personal Growth

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COL535: The Santa Fantasy

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by Edward Angelini-Cooke for a holi-gay discussion about Santa Claus and our fascination with the jolly ol’elf. From dominance to sexualizing, we chat about the fantasy of Father Christmas giving us goodies from his sack.

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The Santa Fantasy – fetish, role play, and then some

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Lyrics to Santa Claus is Coming to Town 

You better watch out

You better not cry

Better not pout

I’m telling you why

Santa Claus is coming (cumming…play on words) to town

He’s making a list

And checking it twice;

Gonna find out 

Who’s naughty and nice (I mean….c’mon)

Santa Claus is coming to town

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COL492: LIVE Holiday Show 2018

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are live to celebrate the holidays one more time just in time for Christmas. The cubs discuss holiday gatherings and traditions, snow cream, and the fetishization of Santa Claus.

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Annual Live Holiday Show – discussion of our Hole-iday Faves; from decorations and food, to the things we look forward to, live chat questions, and of course, the fetishizing of Old Saint Nick.

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