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COL636: LoR: Love Languages

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. In this episode, the guys show how they feel the love within the five love languages. From learning what the languages are to sharing their results, listen in as the guys gift us some touching acts of quality words to help understand how these languages affirm the love and affection one can feel for their loved ones. In addition, learn more about more recent developments in the love languages from neurodivergent to kink play dynamics.

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Landscape of Relationships: Love Languages

Love Languages (Gary Chapman):

  1. Words of Affirmation 
  2. Quality Time
  3. Acts of Service 
  4. Gifts
  5. Physical Touch 

The 5 Love Languages (according to Britney, Bitch!):

  • Physical Touch: My loneliness is killing me
  • Words of Affirmation: I must confess I still believe
  • Quality Time: When I’m not with you I lose my mind
  • Give Giving: Give me a sign
  • Acts of Service: Hit me baby one more time

The 5 Neurodivergent Love Languages:

  • Infodumping
  • Parallel Play
  • Support Swapping
  • Please Crush My Soul Back into My Body
  • “I found this cool rock/button/leaf/etc and thought you would like it”

Comparison of Results:

Gary Chapman, PhD, 1992, The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts 

Fear not: John Gottman and the Gottman approach, which I reference often, is a good overlap with the 5 languages of love….and allows some flexibility with the concepts.

BDSM and Love Languages  

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COL622: LTAS: Horror Stories

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s another installment of Let’s Talk About Sex. This time around, the cubs (sans Jeff) get into the spooky season with some sex horror stories. From bathrooms to bathhouses, the guys share their bad hookups while also giving advice on safer consensual practices to hopefully soften the blow of your next sex slip up.

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Lets Talk About Sex: Horror Stories

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COL561: LTAS: Asking and Receiving

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, it’s time for another Let’s Talk About Sex! For this episode, the guys are joined again by COL Sex Therapist Edward Angelini-Cooke to discuss the concept of asking and receiving. As we explore romantic relationships, the cubs review negotiations, consent, and getting your needs met and fulfilled. Also sandwiches, pizzas, and tea and what they mean in the grand scheme of things (Don’t worry Gary, there’s no food play involved).

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Let’s Talk About Sex – Asking and Receiving

  • Why is it so hard to ask for something during sex?
  • Are you being rude if you don’t show appreciation for the other participant during sex?
  • What do you do if you wanted a blow job but they aren’t doing that thing that you really like when you are getting a blowjob?  You know that thing…

The Good Touch Games….Drenched Fur….Gabe and Edward

Consent 

  • “An agreement between two parties who are about to engage in sexual activity”-RAINN
  • Consent is just as much about no as it is about yes.  
  • Consent is about both parties getting what they want
  • Consent Tea Video 

Asking 

    • Asking leads to intimacy

Receiving 

  • Periodic Checking in (Verbal and non-verbal)
  • How to receive (Compliment Sandwich)
  • Show appreciation 
  • Room for improvement 
  • Show appreciation again
  • Repeat till orgasm (if that is what you want on your pizza)

NPR Safe Sex Communication Skills and COVID-19 Social Bubbles

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COLDR: S12E013: Alone Together

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon reunite as the queens do the same. In this time of quarantine, the queens are #alonetogether, coming together for a fun slumber party to discuss their time on the show and after. As the 12 queens get their sleepwear on and get a little shady after being brought “together”, listen as the guys share their bedtime stories on this unique take of the show. We’re closing in on the finale, so it’s bound to be a bumpy ride.

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RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 12

  • 12 Seasons – 153 Queens

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

  • [Damon] – Fun & Quirky..A decent reunion
  • [Gary] – Dare I say… fun?

Stomp the Runway:

Reunited Theme – Slumber Party

  • [Damon] – Chains in bed?? Ummm….
  • [Gary] – Just give the damn crown to Jaida already!

Snaps & Eyerolls:

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Some of the Shade
  • [Gary] – Snaps for…Widow’s Rap
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… VANJIE Questions
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Produced Drama – meh
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COL544: The Return of Bathhouses?

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys make a splish-splash as they talk about bathhouses. With decades old laws in San Francisco soon to be removed, the cubs discuss the relevance of bathhouses and whether there is still a necessity for them in today’s modern culture, especially with apps and PrEP.

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The Return of Bathhouses? – San Francisco is considering making bathhouses legal once again, a quarter century later. We’ve come a long way from the height of the AIDS epidemic when they were outlawed in 1984. Has PrEP created this turning point for MSM? 

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