In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined once again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. For this episode, Damon is on assignment in Detroit, Michigan and will fill us in on his experience in a future episode while Jeff and Gary chat with Edward about what is a chosen family. From our origins to the aunties, cousins, sisters, and brothers we choose, the LGBTQ community has developed its own families. But are they still needed today?
Show Topic
Landscape of Relationships: Chosen Family
Rina Sawayama and Elton John (2021)
Where do I belong?
Tell me your story and I’ll tell you mine
I’m all ears, take your time, we got all night
Show me the rivers crossed, the mountains scaled
Show me who made you walk all the way here
Settle down, put your bags down
(Ooh) You’re alright now
We don’t need to be related to relate
We don’t need to share genes or a surname
You are, you are
My chosen, chosen family
So what if we don’t look the same?
We been going through the same thing
Yeah, you are, you are
My chosen, chosen family
- “chosen families are nonbiological kinship bonds, whether legally recognized or not, deliberately chosen for the purpose of mutual support and love.
- Families We Choose: Lesbians, Gays, Kinship, cultural anthropologist Kath Weston defines chosen family as consisting of “friends, partners and ex-partners, biological and non-biological children, and others who provide kinship support.”
- The term originated within the LGBTQ community and was used to describe early queer gatherings like the Harlem Drag Balls of the late nineteenth century.
- Movies like Paris is Burning, shows like Pose as well as RENT highlighted the concept of chosen families
- Often times a protective factor against forms of discrimination and violence at home and helps create positive and, hopefully, secure, attachments with others.
- During COVID, many queer youth were being separated from their chosen family during lockdown, which runs the risk of increased violence and stress
- 2021 Trevor Project Survey
- COVID 19 Ruptured Chosen Families
People Need Paid Leave Policies That Cover Chosen Family
- Last year, New York City began allowing workers to use paid time off to care for anyone they personally define as family, whether they’re “related by blood or affinity.” In doing so, NYC joined other major metropolises like Chicago, San Francisco, and St. Paul, MN, as well as states like Arizona and Rhode Island, in honoring non-biological kinship.
- A list of articles/blogs that include content on the topic of Chosen Families
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