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COL595: Landscape of Relationships: Trust Part 1

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke to continue our Landscape of Relationships series. This time the guys discuss trust. For this first part, the guys begin to break down the anatomy of trust. From the romantic to the familial, Ed leads the cubs through the initial tenets as they begin to break down what trust truly is.

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Landscape of Relationships: Trust

  • What is trust?

“Trust is choosing to make something important to you vulnerable to the actions of someone else” – Charles Feldman

“Mistrust is what I shared with you that is important to me is not safe with you.” – Charles Feldman 

Vault -”Common enemy intimacy”

Brené Brown: Anatomy of Trust

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COLDR: S12E013: Alone Together

In this episode of COL Drag Race ‘T-Time’, Gary and Damon reunite as the queens do the same. In this time of quarantine, the queens are #alonetogether, coming together for a fun slumber party to discuss their time on the show and after. As the 12 queens get their sleepwear on and get a little shady after being brought “together”, listen as the guys share their bedtime stories on this unique take of the show. We’re closing in on the finale, so it’s bound to be a bumpy ride.

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RuPaul’s Drag Race Season 12

  • 12 Seasons – 153 Queens

Put the Pedal to the Metal:

  • [Damon] – Fun & Quirky..A decent reunion
  • [Gary] – Dare I say… fun?

Stomp the Runway:

Reunited Theme – Slumber Party

  • [Damon] – Chains in bed?? Ummm….
  • [Gary] – Just give the damn crown to Jaida already!

Snaps & Eyerolls:

  • [Damon] – Snaps for… Some of the Shade
  • [Gary] – Snaps for…Widow’s Rap
  • [Damon] – Eyerolls for… VANJIE Questions
  • [Gary] – Eyerolls for… Produced Drama – meh
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COL551: Sex Needs vs COVID-19

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined again by Edward Angelini-Cooke of EAC Therapy and COL’s resident sex therapist. For this episode, the cubs acknowledge their thirst due to many states’ social distancing regulations during the COVID-19 pandemic. Because of this, we bring in the good doc to discuss the sexual needs during this crisis. We all have needs and need to find ways to address them safely.

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COVID-19 isn’t going away. And now more than ever we’re facing challenges with having our sexual needs met. What’s a person to do?

This is an extended traumatic experience….which means that people are going to have traumatic reactions to this.  Here are some common traumatic reactions and ways to address them sexually:

IMPORTANT: Our reactions to this may be different therefore we may have different sexual libidos during this time (that is normal).

Overview:

The 5 Love Languages

    • Phone Sex 
    • Video sex
  • Looking into the future 
    • Research is seeing a decrease in STI rates
      • Decrease access to testing sites
    • Re-entry 
      • Sexual risk taking 

Additional Resources: 

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COL550: The Blood Ban

In this episode of Cubs Out Loud, the guys are joined by guest Michael Q to discuss recent changes to the donation of blood. With COVID-19 affecting almost all avenues of life, the FDA removed its previous limitations; shortening the amount of time men who have sex with men are eligible to give blood. Listen as the cubs discuss and share their opinions on these restrictions and what it means for the gay male community.

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The Blood Ban – the US FDA made news on April 2nd when updating their policy to allow MSM to donate blood if they have not been with another male for 3 months vs the previous 12 month limitation.

Statistics Provided by CDC
Statistics provided by CDC

 

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